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My dd is now 14 and an only child by conscious decision on mine and my husbands part. We always just wanted one, then after several miscarriages within a year (all different, some dangerous and unusual for someone my age...early 20's. I care for children as a career (have for over 20 years now), so its not that I doubt my skill or capacity with children...and we both have a few siblings, half siblings and step sibling as well....no onlys in our history!
But we wanted one...we were not sure how our lifestyle could support more than that (selfish a bit, but we were realistic as well about finances and uncertain futures at the tender ages of early 20 something)....then the health issues kicked in. We finally were able to have our lovely daughter and we were told that should be it...and we were OK with it since that was our orig intention!
Our daughter may have alot of material things in her teen years...probly always did with doting grandparents and adult age cousins and Aunties and Uncles (like I said, there are many close relatives and she was much anticipated after all the health issues)...but she was never a "brat". We were always complimented in restaurants, at stores, etc about her great behavior, her kindness to others and her ability to control herself in most situations. I absolutely HATE being places and seeing what parents let their children get away with in public...what must they be like at home???? OMG! But remember, I work with children...my tolerance and experience might be different? My daughter never expects things or whatever....she may have alot now, but that is by our choice...she never has her hand out...shes just not like that at all....
So, to sum it up...."only" children get a bad rap and my daughter is definitely an exception to the rule...and I have know and seen many who are....."only" does not equate to "brat"....children are a reflection of their parents in my view....parents have the ability and control to shape those manners in their children no matter their natural tendencies...maybe I will get flamed for this, but in general...many parents choose not to do this these days...thats where the brats come from. JMO....