Cheated on a diet/Husband Harping.

My husband knows better..

Willie Nelson tells a story about his first wife, he got drunk and said some things to her that she did not appreciate. She suggested he "needed a nap."

He went in and took that nap, he woke up sewn into the bed sheet while she beat him with the broom..

When my husband crosses the line, I just suggest to him "Why don't you go take a nap."

Yeah! It would have made me mad and it does. I barely ever eat bad, and anytime I do, my husband says "Why am I paying for weight watchers?"

Makes me want to stab his eyes out. I weigh 125 and had a baby 3 months ago. Im WAY more fit than he is! Ugh, I could go on, but yeah, it makes me mad! While he eats candy bars everyday!

Nunya Business buddy!

Psh, no 'Cookies' for him tonight, that's for damn sure!!

;(

Definitely. One time, I would be able to let it slide--maybe even 2. But going on and on, so not necessary. Sometimes that bag of cookies is our way to deal with the stress of things. They are out of hand IF that bag turns in to a lot of bags. I remember one time about a year after I had my triplets that I ate a WHOLE BAG of Oreo cookies, with a big glass of milk, all by myself. I felt awful afterwards but decided that one time was not going to hurt anyone. As much as we could all use a big hill to run to to let off one heck of a scream, not exactly out our back door. This pregnancy has been major heartburn. My husband harps about how I should not eat this or that and that this food or that food can cause it etc. I barely eat as it is and I do avoid some foods. I just have no appetite (and do not need to be reminded that I have to eat because the baby needs it--DUH). He just does not get that heartburn happens during pregancy, along with all that other wonderful stuff. But, we gotta love 'em anyway, don't we? :)
BTW a woman I worked with after college was a die hard vegetarian and did not eat junk food. NO meat at all and do not eat it at lunch with her because she could not stand to be near it. But one day after finals and finding out her mom was really sick with pnemonia, lost her grandma and such, she went to a burger place and bought their biggest burger with the works and a Coke. It was her therapy. And then we went for sundaes later that afternoon.

Ummm total jerk!!! I would be livid and have him sleep on the couch. If he was my husband and he doesn't appreciate the beautiful body next to him, then he doesn't get to be around it at all.

Although I'm not a huge Oprah fan - there was an article in her magazine not long ago where people's weight was tracked over their adulthood - maybe over a 10 or 20 year period to see when they were thin, when they were heavier. They also charted other life events along with the weight - things like having babies, death of a family member, losing a job, divorce, illness, etc. You get the picture. The result - not a surprize - is that we fluctuate to our the extreme edges of our weight when we're in the midst of stressful times in our lives. Some people stop eating when they're under stress, some eat a lot more. When I look back over the last 20 years I definitely see a pattern and I know why I'm at my heaviest now - becuase I've been under extreme stress over the last year. So I give myself a pass for now - it's temporary.

Ignore your husband - he's a knucklehead - he grew up in the age of the woman who could "bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan and never forget" her husband is a man. Bleah - just thinking of that commercial from the 80s makes me want to puke!

When he does the amount of sunrise - to - sundown work and activities that you do then he can make comments about you having a half a bag of cookies.

But - do tell him - calmly - that his comments are very hurtful to you and you're in the midst of some stress and his comments are only compounding things and would he please stifle himself. (Then threaten to hold a pillow over his face while he's sleeping...JK!!!!!)

I read the title as cheating on husband diet harping. I think I need a nap.

You are cranky because you are under stress, your husband was trying to help. They have limited tools to do so. Just tell him it isn't helping, he should let it go. :)

I am not fat but when I diet Troy assumes it is important to me and will do the same thing. His hearts in the right place but I don't think he realizes I already feel guilty now I am getting pissed. :p

Jo has a point. Yeah it was rude, but men are fixers. They think everything is a simple fix. big, dumb, lovable, goofballs that they are. It's hard to believe a man would need to be told, but commenting on our weight and diet is off limits unless we ask! And then he better tread lightly.

Yes, it probably would have annoyed me. I would have been really upset with myself though! My guess is that you were reacting to the entire day and he was just the proverbial "straw" that broke you!

I had to lay down the "I don't need a food monitor" law in my house too. My husband would do this too! And he fully admitted I wasn't overweight (I wasn't) and that even if I was, it would be out of line for him to mention it, but for some reason, he would say things like, "Didn't you just eat?" or "What are you eating now?" type things....

I kept it light at first like, "Hey, dude, just fyi, I have been a health and fitness fanatic pretty much my whole life, I absolutely know what to eat, and you really don't need to keep track of it for me" Then, he'd agree, but then he'd do it AGAIN and AGAIN. To be honest, he still does it sometimes and I yell "FOOD MONITOR,NO!!!!" It's like a nervous tick with him or something.

But he's one of those types to NEVER changes little annoying habits no matter how many times you ask...so. I feel your pain. For the record, my husband is no exercise buff and could stand to lose a few pounds and I WOULD NEVER HASSLE him about it. I's a personality thing. Annoying.

Hopefully if you just TELL your husband not to do that, he'll quit.

yeah, it would have annoyed me.

why don't you two sit down and have a talk about what is okay, what you want and what is crossing boundaries? Might help avoid another "encounter."

I think my husband would run for cover if he even thought of saying anything like that to me. Obviously it means he has done it in the past. I have put on a lot of weight since our last baby (4 years ago) and he has NEVER once said anything negative to me. I would let him know that him getting on you is not helping you, but making want to eat the other half of the bag. He can be supportive and make comments, he just needs to temper them to a supportive tone. Good luck! And bad days are necessary on the road to healthy eating!

My husband is too smart to do something like that . . . talk about a lose-lose situation! :P

Ya, I would have been upset too. I'm an adult and can figure it out for myself.

Tell him directly what you need from him during this time "I realize you are trying to keep me on track, but what I really need from you when I do indulge, is to not say anything. I know I shouldn't be eating it. You pointing it out only makes it worse."

I don't know how much more direct you can get!

Well, many of us eat when we are upset. I know that I am guilty of this myself. I lost 28 pounds and still need to lose 40 pounds. Next time,tell your husband, I am sorry I had a bad day and I was stresssed so I ate some cookies. Furthermore,tell him I do not need you to add to it by nagging me. BTW how is his weight? Does he watch anything he eats. Do not say diet,say lifestyle change. This is more what it is like. You can join weight watchers and do the points system. I am three inches shorter that you and weigh more than you. sounds like you are about where you need to be weight wise. Exercise and remember that is you are good 80%of the time and are bad 20% of the time then you will do fine with your weight. I have stayed the same pretty much may be up or down a pound or two for the past four months. yes, I would be irritated too. Men are not very sensitive sometimes. God bless and hope your mom will be alright.

I would have been annoyed too if my hubby said something - I probably would have been like, "Hey, I am having a crappy week in case you have not noticed!" But by the same token it would be good to pay attention to when you do get stressed out and if you are resorting to "comfort eating" and not let it become a habit. Watch out for those triggers and see if you can replace the eating with something else, like a long walk outside alone.

Jo W...that is the same thing my husbands does. He knows that my efforts to lose weight (don't like the word diet) is very important to me and I've asked for his help...to him my asking for help came in the words "I'm going to lose weight and I expect you to encourage me"....he inferred encourage as "hey I get to be a turd and get away with it"...

The other night I wanted ice cream and he said "not really going to help you lose anything"....I know he was in his own way reminding me of my end goal...but damn it, he could have chosen better verbiage!

I just wanted to say good job only eating half! I wouldn't have stopped :-)

I hate it when my husband does stuff like that. He has no sweet tooth and can resist everyhing..... I have no will power and still have 10 pounds of baby-weight to lose.

Don't beat yourself up and tell your husband to jump in the lake - you are dong the best you can!

Good luck and hang in there!

Yep, and I would have told him so.
That sort of thing is so not helpful. Hope your week improves!