Read what J.B. had to say.
My wife and I had the same problem. Read the book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". It will teach you and lot about him. Then give it to your husband so he can learn about you.
Watch the movie, "Fireproof", and get the companion manual, "The Love Dare". You and he should both read "the Love Dare." It will give you a chance to tell him, "This is what I like and this is is important to me." Or just the opposite, "This I don't care for."
Those publications will give you a place to start the communication. The other thing I have done is to tell my wife or show her what I would like her to do. My wife is really intelligent, but there are some things she doesn't like to do because of the lies her mom told her as she was growing up.
If you like it when he gives you flowers (an example) does he give you flowers? When he does, praise him for the flowers and thoughtfulness. Say and do "thank you" several times over the days afterward. He will get the message.
I can't remember which book or publication I read it in, but this wife felt taking care of the garden and pulling the weeds was her husband's responsibility. He didn't like doing it and almost refused to do it because his parents used weeding the garden as a punishment. Friday night, she asked him to weed the garden and mow the lawn on saturday before he went elsewhere (golfing, I think.) The next morning, grumbling profusely, he went out and mowed the lawn. He then started to weed the garden. When she saw him weeding the garden, she went in and took off her pajamas and put on a nice house dress that buttoned up the front. Then she got a nice cold bottle of water and took it out to him to thank him. She only buttoned one button on the house dress and unbuttoned it as she handed him the bottle of water and thanked him. He was quick to notice that the house dress and sandals was all she was wearing. He finished weeding and . . .
Eventually, weeding was no longer a punishment. The point is, don't reward him with something you would like. Reward him with something he would like.
Good luck to you and yours.