Afternoon ladies, so dunno how many of you read my last post of the accident that happened at my daycare last week but I believe my sitter will not be returning to caring for children. So this past week due to not having daycare I had a girl babysit for me from monday-today 8-5 everyday. Well the last couple of days I have noticed in the evening everytime I put my 5mth DS in the swing or bouncy he starts crying within just a min and my son never cries unless there is something wrong. So today I was checking vivint app we have cameras in our house and I can check them from my phone. Well i noticed everytime I looked my sitter was holding/ cuddling my son even when he's asleep lol which is fine im so glad she loves him and doesnt have him just laying around all day but I honestly think he got very spoiled to being held all week long and now I cant put him down lol. We our starting a new daycare monday morning and im afraid he's gonna be alil toot because he's not being held all day. What do ya suggest?
Thanks
K.
thanks for all the answers ladies, yes my sitter does a wonderful job with my boys and im so lucky to have her.... And i totally agree that he needs to be loved on and cuddled alot. Its kinda funny tho i can but him in his swing for 2 mins to start coffee or run to the bathroom and he starts crying and the second I pick him up he's all smiles and giggles lol I think he has figured it out ... O well not that i mind loving my sweetie i just like to pee alone sometimes haha
you can't spoil an infant.
All she's doing is providing him with love and attention that he needs. They all need it.
What a great sitter. I would say this (being held and loved up) is exactly what he needs right now, especially with all these changes!
You can't spoil an infant.
Babies don't get spoiled. They need to be held and there is nothing wrong with that. I assume your new daycare will pick him up and hold him when he cries. They should. Crying is his only method of communication so he can have his needs met. Crying to get your NEEDS met is not 'manipulation'.
It's not possible to "spoil" an infant. She's not spoiling him, she's providing a very basic need that ALL babies need: being held rather than depositing them to get them used to being independent far sooner than is necessary or appropriate.
Yes, babies ought to have time to themselves to learn some basic skills and self-exploration, but that shouldn't be a majority of the time. He's so tiny that he SHOULD be held most of the time. That's when the most interaction and learning takes place.
HOWEVER I would ask her to let him sleep in his own bed. That's habit-forming and you don't want him learning to sleep in the arms all the time rather than in his own space.
You can't spoil a 5 month old. However he could be going through a phase. My LO goes through this every few weeks. Sometimes she's Ms Independent and sometimes she's Ms Needy (teething, sick, separation anxiety, etc are the usual culprits).
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His need to be held could be the result of a change in routine as well as getting used to being held by the sitter. I suggest that after the transition to a new daycare facility he'll get back to your regular routine.
I wouldn't say he's spoiled. He may need the extra holding after the experience of changing routine. He would've known something was very wrong at the previous day care and just needs that extra attention right now.
With day care starting he will be a little toot either way and I would not worry about it too much to be honest. Do what you do and do not allow things to be stressful
He'll be fine.
He is so young.
They are not the same everyday.
So he is being cuddled by the Sitter now. That is real nice.
She is attentive and caring.
Then he will go to Daycare.
He will be fine.
No, a baby cannot be spoiled!
They need to bond... bonding helps their overall development.
It does NOT make them "needier" if that is what you are worried about.
It helps their overall self-assurance and well being.
And at this age juncture and 6 months:
at the cusp of any age change, it tweaks babies/kids
6 months will be a major growth-spurt time and developmental change.
It is also an age in which separation-anxiety can crop up, and the concept of "object permanence" starts, and teething, and a whole bunch of other stuff. Normal stuff. Developmental/physical and cognitive changes. But normal.
So head's up on that.
These things occurs all at the SAME time.
And it is hard on the baby too. So they need, cuddling and comforting. Which your Sitter is doing.
Be glad.
They do adjust quickly to changes. Yes, I'm sure he's gotten used to being held, but he'll get used to the new situation as well. The first couple of days may be a little rough for both him and the sitter. They'll both adjust.
Good Luck,
M.
Your son will have to adjust to the new situation and he will. I think it's fortunate that you had someone before who wanted to hold your son so much. I don't think he's "spoiled". I think he just got used to being held so often.
The sitter sounds lovely!
I don't believe a 5 month old can be spoiled! He will adjust to the new daycare.
I would think it is more about all the sudden changes as apposed to being spoiled.
Let her adapt, if it continues then deal with it.
At this point, what can you do? He will adjust to the new daycare.
And, oh yes, studies have shown babies as young as him can get spoiled easily, it's been found that babies as young as 4 months can learn to "manipulate" their caregivers into getting what they want ; ) But it's so hard to resist cuddling a little one!
You sitter sounds wonderful!
Can you just keep her watching your child? Do you need a daycare?
My son's sitters when he was little, hardly put him down. Literally, her daughter would nap with him laying on her. But, when I got him home after work, we had a different routine, and he adjusted just fine. They learn to adapt - different rules for different people - fairly quickly.
Oh, I got to hold a 6 month old today - so lovely. (as mine is 16 and gnarly now LOL).
I'm SURE you LO is really enjoying being held all the time - why wouldn't he protest when you put him down? LOL.
He'll readjust quickly enough. Start this weekend NOT holding him much and he and the sitter will get through the adjustment period just fine.
I don't think you would call it spoiled in a baby like that but they do learn quickly and they can manipulate you to do what they want. That is fine to cuddle and hold and love him but he needs to learn that when it's time to nap or sleep, etc. that he has to do that and you have some other things to do as much as you hate to leave him. He'll adjust to whatever the routine is but it depends on how quickly he adjusts and how patient the caregiver is.
