O.k. A., here's my opinion. I am glad you have found someone you are happy with. Yes, in life, that is a true oddity..sad, but true. But, first, I am a little confused. It seems that you are contradicting yourself. How can you say that you are ready for some type of commitment yet not be ready to jump into marriage? Is marriage, not the commitment you seek? Second, I know it really upsets you when people make "Why buy the cow comments"...People can be really insensitive. I think there is a way to say everything. I would say this..If I were in the same situation and I had a girlfriend or guyfriend who REALLY loved me and was interested in my wellfare and the wellfare of my children, I would want them to say something no matter how bad it hurt or angered me at the time. The "Truth" is A., you are GIVING AWAY a precious gift that God meant for you to keep for the Prince you were going to marry. If he REALLY loved you, he would protect your honor and your gift by not accepting it until the time was right/acceptable...Your wedding night. A., that's goint to kind of hard to do when he lives under the same roof. Why are you living with him outside of marriage...finances,sex,lonliness,fear,companionship? What? No one is saying move him out right now. But there are some solutions that maybe your pastor or another Christian friend could help you with. So, how should you handle situations, when people, like me, say things like this to you. Get angry if you wish...but allow God to speak to your heart. Deep down, A., you know the truth. I don't hate you A., I am not even angry with you..Some people really do want what's really best for A..