Back at Work ......but Only Physically

HI CT,

Well well well...I am not alone. I have been a stay-home-mother for the last 3 1/2 years with two beautiful babies that utterly exhaust me. I went back to work in October and my kids started daycare. I have not spent one full day completely with it mentally since my son was born almost 4 years ago.
I walk around publix in a fog wondering why I am there, what I need, etc..
I spend my days at work trying to remember what I need to do both at home and at work. Since returning to work I have literally forgotten to pay all of my bills, forgot to leave the carseats at daycare so my husband can pick up the kids, forgot to mail every Christmas card, and most humiliating thus far forgot my Mother-In-Laws B-day last week. Hello can you imagine a loving adoring Grandmother not hearing the sweet sounds of her grandkids saying happy birthday, we love you. I was once a very scheduled, organized to the last small detail always on time, first to arrive last to leave, get the job done kind of person. Now I am a nitwit that has forgotten how to puncutuate and spell.
The only thing I don't forget is my kids.
I can't offer you any advice, however I can offer you understanding of being in the same boat.
Good luck

Hi CT,

First of all, Congratulations on your new 'lil boy!! I can relate to how you are feeling. Unfortunately I don't have much advice to offer as there are many days that I still have trouble concentrating. I guess "baby brain" lasts a long time!! LOL!!

Perhaps all that is going on in your life is contributing to this. Being a new mom, going through the holidays, and returning to work is a lot to deal with at one time and your feelings are completely understandable. You are definately not the only one!!!!

Take care of yourself and your son!!
K.

its not just you ! :-) when i went back to work i was not mentally there for awhile.
i even have a great job working with people who are like friends and family, but still i could not focus.
people at work used to rely on my memory for thing and now if i don't write something down, its gone with the next thought.

as my son got older i was less stressed.i went back to work when my son was 6 weeks old ONLY because my parents watch him for me during the day, so thank god for them.
do you like the daycare that he is in ? do you feel comfortable with the people there ? i know nobody is as good as mom !
i would suggest you just give it some more time.
if you used to like your job before having your son then hopefully you will start to like it again.
good luck
D.

Hello! I completely nderstand how you feel. I have a 4 mo n th old little girl and I just returned back to work. Unlike you my mind is on her. She is all I think about and I cry every m orning after i drop her off at Daycare at 7:30am. And all I think about is seeing her again at 6:30pm. As yo can see this is a long day away from her and it is killing me!!!! I am trying to find a new job, because like you, I have done this work before and I have to get retrained on things that I know already. It is because my mind is not here. I do nt want to do this work anymore. I want something different that will allow me to spend more time with my princess. I guess we just have to pray for God to send us answers.

Hi C T,
Your feelings are easily understood and shared by many moms, including me in the past...When you shared that you were thinking of changing jobs, did you feel like you had already done this...by becoming a first time, full-time mother...even if you are working away from home...your mothering instincts, emotions, love are 24/7...full time...so naturally when you have gone forward into the future it is, for many, an unnatural feeling to go back to what one was before the miracle of becoming Mom.
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C.T. it's a new year, your a new Mother, and there are new ways to have your desires!
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I look forwarad to being of service for you in your near future.
With many blessings,
B. A.