Baby Shower for Baby #3 - Longview,TX

for me and most people I talk to, baby showers after baby #1 are in bad taste. If you want a final visit with friends before the busyness of a new baby takes you away from them, then have a "no gifts" get together, but don't call it a shower.

Well, baby #3 for me was 7 years after my previous child, SSOOO, I am probably in a different boat and I was given a shower because I had absolutely no baby stuff left and was basically starting over. Baby #4 came shorlty after baby #3 and I wasn't going to have a shower, but my aunt insisted on giving me one. So I just asked her that maybe she could tactfully state that it would be beneficial if people could by consumables such as diapers and wipees, or pitch in together to get a big item that I would need like a double stroller or another car seat. They pitched in and got me the double stroller that I needed, and the car seat. It was great! And people really enjoy doing that kind of thing so I think that you should let them if they offer! Congratulations!!

So many good answers! I think people who wish to give you or the baby something will do so, whether you have a party/shower or not. I only have 2 kids myself, but have given gifts for 3rd's and 4th's because I wanted to (usually a handmade blanket and a few things I always found helpful). Congratulations!

You're gonna get a TON of responses on this...it's been asked a lot.

Again, I vote "no" -- at baby #3, I don't think a couple needs a "boost" to provide for the baby and your friends and relatives are going to buy something if they want to...

Maybe it's the part of the country I'm from, but around here (Wisconsin) we typically only have a baby shower for the first baby. After that you're on your own, unless there are extenuating circumstances (I had triplets the second time around, so my friends and co-workers did throw me a shower).

In my family you only have a shower for #1. However, if your sister is determined to throw you a shower, maybe you can request that everyone bring onesies and blankets and stuff and donate them to a shelter. This way everyone has the fun of a baby shower, but you're not uncomfortable getting more gifts and everyone is doing something good for someone else.

I also vote NO! It's not appropriate, sorry. Within my circle of friends, relatives, you get 1 for baby number 1, and that is it. Maybe it's an Ohio thing? You have so many other options. A girls luncheon to celebrate your baby with cupcakes, and a few personal gifts. Or a diaper shower? Everyone brings a pack of diapers and an appetizer to share some girl time. Or a welcome baby brunch. Have your closest friends over once the baby is born. They can bring an outfit after they know the sex.

NO I think it is Tacky.Peolpe will buy gifts anyway regardless if it is your 1st or last baby.I would completely refuse

Just went to a great baby shower that was four a baby #4!! The mom only registered for like two little things, so people basically bought cute little outfits for him and some little nursing accesories. I mean who really keeps a tube of lanolin or hot and cold gel inserts? When I saw her registry I thought it was so classy. She put a couple small things but mostly just let her family throw the party to welcome the new baby. Her older kids were there and it helped them get even more excited about the new family addition. I think a shower is a great thing to do, not only to help a first time mom, but to welcome any child to the family/community. I do think that the children will love seeing pics of their shower in the future and know how much they were loved and anticipated. My three year old likes to see pics of me when he was in my belly, and believe me there are only a few!!! But he likes it and he like his shower pics as well. So I say yes to shower for baby #3!

For a lot of people you get 1 with your 1st unless your kids are spaced out etc. I would only be comfortable with 1.

All babies deserve to be celebrated! We did things that weren't all about the gifts. We did things special for the babies. We made special "wish blankets" where everyone made a wish for the new baby and tied a knot in the quilt. I have a speical necklace that was made for me to wear in labor.
It's not all about the gifts. But there are things you most likely need for a new baby that is always nice to get. Diapers, soaps and shampoos, diaper creams. Not all those baby clothes survive multiple babies.
I had one for my third. My first 2 were boys and my third was a girl. My first 2 were winter babies and my third was a summer baby. A bunch of things I had were recalled or broken. We bought a lot of the big things ourselves (furniiture, bedding etc). She got a lot of personal special things just for her. My first and second also got things that wree special just for them. Gifts are not all about "baby basics".
If someone wants to throw you a shower accept it gracefully. I still feel jipped that my second didn't get anything. It was a mad dash to do some of the special things for him at his 1st birthday that we had done for my first at his baby shower like the wish blanket.
Babies are special and deserve to be celebrated!

I did not have one for number 2. I did not feel it was right since mine were so close together.

My question would be, do you need baby stuff?

If your first 2 are older, and you've gotten rid of all your baby stuff, then I'd say it's ok. If you have 2 small children, and still have most of your baby stuff, then I'd say to decline the offer.

The other instance where I'd say a 3rd baby shower might be warranted is if you have 2 girls and this one is a boy, or vise versa.

ETA - just noticed your name - 2beautifulgirls, so that tells me that you do have 2 same sex babies... (DUH!) So if this one is a boy, you might need/want some boy things...

I don't see the big deal. A baby shower is a time to get together with friends and family to celebrate the upcoming birth of a new baby. I have three children. For my first one I had a baby shower for my second one since I was having another boy I had a get together at Olive Garden and my friends and family still bought gifts. There are 3.5 yrs between my boys and one was born in winter and the other in summer so I needed thinks for different seasons. For number 3 my friends threw me a baby shower cause I was having a girl and I had nothing. Even if number 3 had been a boy I still would have had something. Good Luck.

I'm on baby #2 and my mom and BFF want to throw another baby shower for me. I think every baby deserves to be celebrated! Since I'm not comfortable soliciting gifts, the wording on the invite will say something to the effect of "diapers and wipes are welcome, but gifts are not necessary".

If people find it so tacky to have another shower, then they shouldn't and won't come. I don't think you should be judged for having another celebration.

Congrats to you and your growing family!

I think that a shower for each child is appropriate...you just don't do it on such a large scale. Example...w/ first child you need every thing (furniture, supplies, clothes, etc.) w/ second child you need supplies and some clothes but not furniture unless it is a large gap in pregnancies. w/ third child you need supplies and probably a few clothes.

Invite close friends and family and maybe a few co-workers (especially if you are in a different job than w/ the other pregnancies).

Maybe even ask your host if they would consider a "diaper" shower so maybe people mostly bring diapers and wipes.

Well like Lee said...
I had two boys, one shower for the first one.

When I made to announcement to all that #3 was a girl, they wanted to do another shower. This made me a little uncomfortable.

And when I SAID so, they asked whether there was one big thing that I would REALLY like that I didn't already have for the other two that they could split as a gift.

So I asked for a Peg Perego triplet carriage, (I'd have MY three, my niece and my nephew, oldest being 5 and I walked and walked EVERYWHERE).

Which they bought me and I enjoyed SO very much. Put WAY more miles on the carriage than I did my car.

Three years later, a neighbor announced she was having triplets, so I gave her the carriage (my kids too big for it by then). Gave me GREAT pleasure to see her pushing her 3s around in that carriage!

:)

I think it's fine. Just keep it casual. Maybe do a frozen meal party. When I had my second, the girls in my neighborhood took turns bringing us meals. If you don't have the freezer room, they can do a sign up sheet (your sister can coordinate) once the baby is born and friends can bring you meals every other night. It was SO helpful! I will never forget all that my friends did.

I am also pregnant with our third baby. My family keeps pressing the issue of having a baby shower for me. The whole thing makes me uncomfortable. You can always have a small "get together" after the baby is born and people can choose to bring a gift if they want to. :)

i had one with my first (a boy), not my second(a boy) and with my third since it was a girl. who cares what people think, go for it!!!!!!!

I only had 2 so I can't say for certain what the "rule" is. In our area for the first baby it is called a baby shower, for baby #2 & #3 etc. it's called a baby sprinkle. If your sister wants to do the shower thing, than go for it. People love to have a reason to buy for babies. A previous poster had a great idea by suggesting to the party host that perhaps guests chip in for one big item. We all know babies are expensive, so it is better to get what you need rather than a bunch of things you don't need.

My SIL is pregnant with her third and we're planning on throwing a shower! There are items that have worn out from use with the first two, and GC's are always needed to get the basics. It's our way of celebrating the new (again) mom and expressing our excitement over the new baby.

There are a lot of people saying no. I think it depends on your family and friends. I'm on my third baby and i dont plan on having one. I had several for my first daughter. My friends insisted on throwing one for me for my 2nd daughter who came 5 yrs after our first, so i really did need everything all over again. I dont need much this time unless its a boy. I wouldnt throw one myself, but if my friends want to have one for me then i'll let them. No big deal. Like someone else said its more to get together and celebrate your new baby!

My mother threw me a "baby sprinkle" for my second. It was too cute. It wasn't a big party and I didn't register. People just happened to give me the essentials like diapers, wipes, blankets, sheets, etc. I think it's ok for a 3rd especially since your kids are spread apart.

I'm not on 3, but I thought it silly for number 2 because they were so close. We did one anyway as a mom and dad shower, not just for me (the mom) - so our guy/gal friends were invited (and spouse), but people just got us cute little gifts, no registry (we had a very small registry). My friends who did it kept it really light, beer for the guys, wine for girls and "mock-tails" for me. BBQ food to please everyone - in other words - EASY. If you don't need anything, you can always ask for your sis to have the guests bring a favorite children's book with a message for the baby instead of gifts.

Hi!

I just wanted to say I think it's tacky and begging for presents if you have a shower for anything more than the first baby unless the children are very spread out.

People will buy you gifts when the come to see the baby after it's born. You could have a baby welcoming party but I would not register for it. Showers are supposed to be a boost for the new mom and dad.

I didn't even have/get a shower for baby #2. Most people I am acquainted with (co-workers, friends, and family) only have a shower for the first child. The few showers I've seen for a second or third child have either been a "Diapers and Wipes Party" or have been because the parent was expecting twins after the other children were already in their teens.

Diaper Shower!! I had enough for a year after mine...that is very worth it and if you have nothing from previous babies then let people do it for you:)

I lean towards no but I don't know a lot about your situation, if you have close friends/family with kids and whether they did one etc but if you do it, I'd say very small group.

I had two baby showers for my first 1 family where my parents were and 1 friends where I lived at the time. When my second came (diff sex) a friend threw me another shower. 14 yrs later we adopted a child, (had nothing form the first two) and had 2another shower. I didnt think I could refuse such kind generosity! At work we have a smaller shower for the second shower and people get more cute clothes than big items. I wouldnt ask for a shower but if people want to give you one.....