Baby Shower - Can I Still Go, or Would It Be Rude?

I don't think it's rude to try. The worst thing that could happen is they say it's too late. Just explain the situation.

By all means call and tell them the good news! You felt terrible about not being able to go - and now things have changed. These are you friends - they will understand and will be happy that you can share this important time with them.
Rude would be to say you are coming and then not show without letting them know!

Do you have an email address? I would personally feel awkward asking BUT wouldn't have a problem sending a very polite email explaining the situation. If no email, I would probably call anyway and at least ask. Start by saying that you understand if it's too late but circumstances changed which would allow you to attend the shower which you really had wished you could attend in the beginning. It would be rude just to show up but a call is definitely NOT pushing it and is most appropriate.

Having organized a couple showers myself, I would call the hostess. There are usually more favors made up and games printed up than the original count anyway, just for the simple fact there are always some who won't RSVP.

Goooooooo!!!! Call the hostess & tell her your new situation- I know when I had mine & my SIL's, there was tons of food~ I doubt you'll graze thru the whole party ;) Im SURE your friend will be thrilled!

I agree with Denise P.

Absolutely Go.I'm sure the hostess would be delighted to still have you come.Since it is at a friends house.I would call her first and explain what happened.Good Luck and have fun...

Definitely go!!! The only trick may be if it is at a restaurant where they had to give a head count in advance but even so it should be ok as invariably someone who said they were coming won't show up. Don't feel rude no matter what! Friends understand that family comes first and I'm sure she'll be thrilled that you will be able to make it...now get on the phone to the hostess NOW!!! Have fun!

I would say, "Hello! I'm sure you have your guest arrangements all made, but the conflict I had just resolved itself. Is it to late to accept the invitation? I was wanting to come to your shower so much!"
Or however you want to phrase it. If I were having a shower and one of my friends said they couldn't come but then they could, I'd be super happy.
Go for it! Just ask nicely and let her know you totally understand if it's too late.

I wouldn't say it's rude, given your explanation, however it's within the hostesses right to say it's too late to add you in. I think if you'd really like to attend then call this woman and explain everything ... I'd even offer to help out in some way. Kill her with kindness and she'll most likely roll out the welcome mat.

no its not rude at all to call the hostess and say you have a change in your family plans and would be free to attend the shower, but do so asap. Remember there are always some who have said yes and don't even show up or call up and even more bold are those who just show up without an invite and that is the rude part.

Dear M.,
If you were invited to the shower then I'm sure they would want you there. I would call and explain what happened. Since it is at her house I doubt it will be a problem!

not rude at all I think!1 more person isnt going to push them over the edge!

I think you should call, explain the situation and ask if it would be alright to come. I think your friend would be more upset if she found out you could have come, but didn't. Baby showers are not usually formal dinners, so just call and ask. You could also offer to bring something to help out the host.

I agree with the other ladies. Go ahead and call the hostess. The only way I think it would be rude is if you didn't call and just showed up.

I don't think it would be rude. You could offer to take a dessert or something...but if she's a good friend she would probably want you there. It doesn't hurt to ask. I would assume the only way that it would be a problem is if it's at a restaurant and they had to place an order for food...good luck!

They would probably love to have you :) I don't think it is rude.

I wouldn't think it rude at all. Give her a call to let you know that you'll be showing after all. The idea of the party is for a woman having a baby and to celebrate. How could it be rude to go when you were invited?

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Call the hostess -- most showers I've been to, people have been glad to have extras who hadn't thought they could come when they RSVP'd.

Don't make a big deal about it -- the point of the shower is to give gifts to the new mom and the success of the shower lies in having people come and give gifts. :-)

I would call the hostess, tell her your sister had a change of plans and will be arriving a day later and that, if there's still room, you'd love to attend the shower if it's OK. I'm sure it will be fine. Not rude at all. Have fun!

I'd call her and ask if it's ok to still come, and say that if she's already planned for a set number for favors or whatever, to not worry about that for you, that you just want to come and celebrate. I'd bet she'll have extras planned, but if she doesn't, then she won't be under pressure to run out for more, and you can still feel comfortable about going. Have fun, at the shower and with your family! :-)

if it were me... i would be happy to receive your phone call and that you can make it after all! im sure she understands that things come up! dont worry about it! just go and have fun. and have fun meeting your little niece or nephew too!

It can't hurt to ask her. The worst she can say is that you responded too late. Go ahead and call her!

I think you should absolutely call to say that you can now make it, especially since you seem to be very polite about it. If I was the honoree, I'd like to celebrate with as many friends as could make it. And if I was the hostess, I'd be equally delighted to have a desired guest participate!

You sound very polite and I'm sure your friend would be overjoyed to discover you can make the shower. IMO, four days is plenty of time to change an RSVP.

Think about the purpose of a baby shower...to celebrate the birth of a beautiful new baby. Go and enjoy!

If she's truly your friend, still understand & be happy you can now be there.

M.,

I don't think its rude to explain that you had declined due to another commitment, but now that your plans have changed, you'd like to come. I think the mother-to-be will be thrilled you can make it after all.

L.

You should definitely plan to go to the shower (the mom-to-be would love to have you). Call the hostess ASAP to let her know the change in your plans. To keep you from feeling guilty, ask her if you can bring an extra appetizer or beverage :)

When I was about 9 months pregnant, my oldest friend (we have been together for 25 years) asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. I said "No way!" My husband was shocked but my bf was not. She took it in stride just like I take her quirks in stride and wedding plans continued. A few weeks after the baby was born I had severe remorse and wished I had said yes. So I approached her and asked if I could change my answer and say yes to be in the wedding. I also reminded her to NEVER ask a 9 month pregnant lady to imagine herself in a beautiful dress at the front of a church. The wedding is in 4 weeks and I am so glad I asked to be let back in.

I guess the moral of the story is that things change and if you feel comfortable enough to ask to be let back in chances are you will be.

I ope you love seeing your newest little niece after you celebrate your friends new baby.

C.

Hi M.,

Call the folks. They will be glad that you can come.

Good luck. D.

sure!

call the hostess, explain! my guess is unless it's a fancy to-do, she'd be more than happy to have you.