Baby/Diaper Shower & 4Th Kid??

I think it's great! Go for it! All babies are special whether it is the 1st or 4th! ____@____.com

I honestly think one baby shower, end of story. Let people give gifts if they want, but showers are asking for gifts, and anything after one is tacky, if you ask me.

I don't see anything wrong with having baby showers for each baby. As I see it as you are celebrating the birth of a new baby. I would let your friend do this for you. It's always nice to feel "pampered" when pregnant. Even if it's your 2nd or 3rd or 4th. I know that I want a shower for my 2nd when he or she is in the oven. Congrats and Good Luck.

I also don't see anything wrong with having a shower for every baby. When I am invited to one, I don't really care whether it's the first or 4th. I think all babies deserve something new and cute, that hasn't been handed down from their older sibs... and even if you REALLY still had everything - I would not have a problem giving a small token to celebrate your new baby.
Good luck!

I don't see anything wrong with having a shower - especially since you've given away a lot of your baby stuff!

I think it's lovely that your friend wants to do something for you - so let her!

Congratulations!

I'm giggling a little because if you were raised "old school" then I was raised OLDER school. I was taught that only friends put on wedding and baby showers; relatives didn't!

I think it's lovely that your friends want to give you a party. A diaper shower could be lots of fun (I'm picturing the decorating), but if your friend wanted to expand it to the equipment you need again - even if it was not brand new stuff - that would be very helpful, I'm sure. Some friends once gave me a "garage-style baby shower" - not that it was held in anybody's garage, but that what they gave me were the baby things they had stored in their garages that were still fine to use! I loved it! How can that go wrong - celebrating and recycling at the same time? :^)

If someone is offering to host something, go for it!
Diapers, wipes and formula is expensive! If you do have a registry, which you should since you have certain brands that you prefer, just keep it simple to the kinds of things that you need, not stuff that you have and could use, but just want new of.

I think its perfectly fine to register for a carseat, diapers, lotions, etc.

M.

With my sisters/friends we do a 'sprinkle' instead of a shower. Everyone brings a dish to be frozen and a pack of diapers. Of course some people cant help themselves and they give a cute outfit or two. We have so much fun with this! And Mommy and Daddy have a freezer full of yummy food for when baby comes! Every baby deserves to be celebrated, and so do you (4!??!) : ) good luck!

I'm going to respond differently - don't have a shower. While lots of people are having showers for many children, a lot of people think that it just looks like gift-grubbing, even if you have given away a lot of stuff. I'm not in any way accusing you of that, but I wouldn't want to have a party where people were maybe resentful about coming and spending the money on me (and even though other people will say that they don't have to come, I think that's hogwash. Of course your close friends and family will come - I hope! - and if it's a shower they're "obligated to give a gift).

All that being said, I see no reason at all that you can't have a party when your new LO is born. If it's going to be summertime, have a cookout, mention on the invite that people will have a chance to meet the new baby, and leave it at that. Then if people want to bring a gift, they can and if people don't want to they can just come coo at the baby : ) If you are hoping to get gifts, you can have someone else be the RSVP recipient (put on the invite that you're too "babybrained" to keep track of responses, or something like that) and they can answer that you would really appreciate diapers and/or target gift cards or something of the like, but that the invitee should not feel that they have to bring something.

Congrats on number 4!

While I agree that a second, third, fourth, fifth or twentieth child is every bit as special as the first, I do believe it is in poor taste to have a full blown shower after the first. I agree it is like you're "looking" for gifts. I feel that surely, after 3 children, and deciding to have a fourth, you would know if you are in the financial position to have and provide for another. (If it's a surprise, then, well....you gotta deal!) I think a "meet the baby" party/open-house after the birth is so much more appropriate and light years more classy.
A shower is really for the first time parents who have NOTHING for a baby. After that, I feel that it is inappropriate.
Family and people you know well are certainly going to bring you a small gift, even without a formal event. The moms who know you've gotten rid of everything might go in on a gift card you could use for larger items.....
If your friend insists on a shower, I would definitely stick with a diaper/wipes shower and keep it very small (7-10 guests max).
Well, that's my opinion.
Congrats on #4!!!

I think that if someone is offering to throw you a shower, then go for it! You could just ask them to keep it small.

When my mother had my youngest sister ( 6 yrs. after the middle one), her friends threw a family BBQ party where people were asked to bring diapers and "little things" that they knew she didn't keep from the rest of us- nail clippers, burp clothes, etc.

I wouldn't do a whole registrty, but be honest about what you need. People LOVE to celebrate babies (even more so than weddings), so if your friends want to have a party and watch you open adorable little things, then have a great time and don't forget to send thank-yous and have a small gift for the hostess!

I agree with your initial thought. I think it's kind of tacky to have a shower after your first. I was raised that way, too. To me, it looks like trolling for gifts, even if you need stuff.

I think if people want to throw something for you, then I personally would go with no more than a diaper shower. That's something you can use and will go through quickly. And that way, if people do tend to agree with the thought above, it's not like you're doubling up on anything that you already have.

Why is the fourth baby not as special as the first? Every baby deserves a celeberation. If you do not like the idea of people bringing gifts then you have your friend say so on the invite and mention that since it is your fourth and have mostly everything so people do not have to bring gifts and this is just a party in honour of the baby so just come and have a good time.

I think the celeberation is more important than the gifts so that you can show your baby pictures.

Well I certainly think it's a great idea to have a shower, although I may have my own reasons. My children are almost 8 and almost 5 and in January I will be having my 3rd. I have NOTHING for babies. i got rid of it all. I have been doing a better job of getting things I need at garage sales (carseat, onsies, ect) but would actually be sad if my friends and family didn't want to celebrate this baby and get him/her something special. I never have felt wierd buying things for 2nd or 3rd babies.....they are special too!
L.

Have a "Blessingway" instead. Google it and find some traditions you'd like to include. Ask that no gifts be brought. Or ask for only diapers/frozen meals. The one thing I really like is a birthing necklace. Everyone is asked to bring a bead that represents the mama and then a necklace or bracelet is made for mama to wear during her birth. I have a friend who wears hers every year on her daughter's birthday :)

I would say just one although if someone wants to throw you one and people are willing to come I say what the hell, go for it. I've heard of diaper showers before so I don't think theres anything wrong with it. We've had multiple showers at work for the same person. I just contributed less the 2nd and 3rd time.

Well I am pregnant with my second. The first was a girl and I don't need a lot of big stuff but I do need some boy clothes. My friends offered to throw me a "sprinkle"-sort of a play on words since it is smaller than a shower. It is going to be real casual around a pool and everyone will bring a dish of food so that no one person is responsible for everything. I will even be bringining some food. They figured they knew they were going to be buying me gifts anyhow since they are close friends that we may as well make it a girls day and hang out by the pool before the little one gets here and I'm stuck inside for a few months. Since they offered I feel it isn't rude; however I would never had expected anyone to do anything. Good luck with everything!

I think if someone wants to throw you a get together, why not..... make it simple though.. not like your normal shower... maybe a few friends could take you to lunch and if they want to get you diapers/etc... I don't think you are asking for it, that would be different... but if friends want to help, let them......

My family (mom & grandma) has one for each child. They do it because each & every baby is special and should be celebrated. Some times the shower is before the baby is born (like in my case because I had my daughter first then had my son. We didn't have much for a boy!) or some times after so the extended family can meet the baby.
I say if your friend wants to do something for you then let her!

In my family there is only a baby shower for the first but among my friends, I've seen a second shower several times in scenarios similar to yours...a "pleasant surprise baby" who arrives after most of the stuff has been given away or a baby who is fourth or fifth and the stuff is more than a little worn. I personally think it is fine in either of those scenarios. I've seen diaper showers given as well and I don't think it's a bad idea nor am I insulted when I get an invitation for a diaper shower or specific type of shower. Let your friends help you! If you decide against a shower but your friend still wants to help, nothing beats meals delivered to you the first few weeks so you could ask her to coordinate getting three or four meals brought to you each week for the first four or five weeks. Good luck.

I've had moms ask me the same thing, and have even been told by a friend she was having one for me nomatter what. I think it's really really weird and in poor taste, and my new addition will be 8 years younger than my current baby, so obviously i have nothing left. it will also be my husband and my first child together, and i'm still not thrilled with the idea.

on the other hand a lot of people do it, and if someone is offering then it obviously isn't offensive to them, and you can always specifically state "no gifts" or not include a registry and send out invites more as a come celebrate our new blessing rather than a baby shower. That's my plan if my dear friend won't take no for an answer.

I only ever wanted one shower, but ended up with you. I had one with my first (who is now 10). I was divorced and then remarried. He didn't have any kids and at the time my older children were 6 and 5. We did have another shower and invited his family and close friends and only my closest friends and family. It worked out well and no one seemed put out.

But normally I would say only one shower and personal gifts for the babies as they come.

I have to say though, I like the "sprinkle" idea. Good luck with the young ones, I too have 4 and they keep up busy!