Attention-seeking Behavior

It sounds like your daughter is really worried about you.
I would try to play with her for a bit each evening. Have her get out her toys and play something. Before you start to play say "Mommy will play with your for such and such time. Then I have to do some other things and you can play on your own." Reassure her that you will be ok.
Also maybe try inviting a friend of hers over for a few hours of play.
Just reassure her that Mommy is ok.
She loves you an aweful lot or she wouldn't be doing this. So you've done good mom!
Good Luck!
Huggles,
J.

Dear L.,
Don't Complain. Keeping your daughter company while she is practicing her hygene before bed is a fantastic routine that she learned from you. It only takes a few minutes... By age 12 she will be screaming at you to "Get Out" while she's cleaning up before bed and you need to take a quick pee! Enjoy this time while you can!

C. M.

L.,
It sounds like your daughter has some very real anxiety about your illness. She seems to be afraid that if she leaves you side, that no one will be able to take care of you. It also sounds like she has a very strong fear of losing you. I would sit down with her and explain your illness in a way she can understand. Let her know that you will not be leaving her, and give her permission to have fun with her friends. I would give her continuous reminders that you are going to be ok, and work with her to come up with a list of people you could call in case of a crisis when she is not there. This may give her some peace of mind.

hi,

I have a 6 yr old daughter and she is always looking for a new frind to play with... So whereabouts are you at if close maybe we can me and that way our daughters might become friends...

Pam B...

Wow you sound like a great mommy. I am sure we all wish that we had a mommy like you. I don't however think that it is uncommon for your daughter to want you to be there all the time. Sounds like that is what she knows. But I do think that it is important to be around children her own age to learn to to interact. How is she at school? Maybe you could start a playgroup once a week with other mom's and then maybe that would make her feel comfortable having you there while she is playing with other children. How about friends at college? Do any of them have children the same age. Maybe you could work out a study/play night. Or trade off nights when the kids could play at each others houses. I envy you for the times you have spent with your daughter. I wish now that I would have had more time to spend with my girls. I am sure that your daughter loves you very much for everything that you have done for her. Now that one daughter is 13, she doesn't want to be with me at all cuz she is into other things. Enjoy it while you can. But I do understand that you are trying to get thru college. Hang in there. I am sure that you will do good.

Maybe she is worried about your health concerns. Kids can sense when things are wrong even if they haven't been told. Maybe she wants to spend every waking moment with you because she is afraid that somthing is going to happen to you.

could she invite friends over? Maybe she is a little anxious of going over to someone elses house. Also, set up some kind of reward chart for her and let her know what is expected: brush teeth, wash up etc by your self and get a sticker...and then decide on the reward for so many stickers.

still carve out time to snuggle and read before bed, it sounds like she needs the quiet time with you. this will not last forever, so take advantage of it while you can. there are nights my 5 yr old will not let me kiss her, so i take advantage of any snuggling i can get.