C.D.
Unfortunately, YES, I have gone through this behavior with my third child (a boy. Anger began between the ages 3-6. They say girls and terrible two's are tougher but I beg to differ. By age 6, I even considered bootcamp. For me the changes were not easy (I/we)had to change). After a discussion with the Dr., I and all caregivers had to be tough with him. No meant NO! No matter what his actions were (biting, hitting, kicking, screaming, even spitting) we kept at it. It was so hard to teach him that to get good he needed to behave good. He at one time lost all toys, games, and favorite items. We didn't expect perfection, just some control. He knew who to manipulate and it took about 2mo.,(approx)with much control over Dad since we did not agree on all dicipline areas. With Dad in agreement on "house rules" at that time, our son had to work on good behavior to earn back favorite items, TV or outings. He slipped and even with running away threats, many times during those weeks (even years) he lost all items again. It has taken a lot of strict will power and consistency. Still today at age 16, he has consequences for his actions and will make unsavory choices at times. With a Dad and Mom no longer together it has been harder. He has figured a way around things, but over the years has become more calm, less agressive, and has learned to reason more. He's come a long way and so have we. We never were strict parents so this was tough especially with 2 easy going girls. Stick with it. Good luck. Don't give up!!