Any Mother Get a Divorce? Question

Get a really good lawyer. Ask around and find a woman who has a divorce attorney she really likes and talk to lawyer. They can give you a good idea of realistic custody arrangements and also help make sure you are protected.
Also try to think of it as your daughter having daddy time which is good for ehr and you getting a break to do non mommy things ( whihc make you a better more relaxed mommy in the long run)

You can settle to give him most of the property, but he will probably have to pay you child support regardless of if you want it or not. Especially if you get more custody. The main thing here is to remember what the child deeply and truly wants and whats best. If he is a good dad and she loves him, then you should consider joint custody, if you guys can for the most part agree upon her life, like school activities and upbringing and things. I know its hard not see her everyday, but you have to do whats best for her. If distance is a problem then you may have to get more time. But if he is honestly a good father you should give him just as much or maybe a little less time. And givee him the right to make decisions for her as well. So many women get wrapped around the hate after a breakup they forget this kid has to deal with things not going her way. Nothing hurts me more than when my daughter goes with her other parent and cries her heart out because she really wnats to stay here. Its so bad to know this kid has no control to do what she pleases. She has to be dragged around like a doll becuase her mom only cares about power and the control she has when she says "no". Do whats best for the child. Or if he is very uncooperative then you could get more time knowing in your heart if the child ever wants to stay with him you would let her. But if hes cooperative then you should both try to work out something together, and I gaurantee you he wont be the one that suggests to settle on something because men think the women wont agrre, so you should try to talk to him about it when the time comes. I hope this helps. My boyfriend and his ex share joint custody and I think its fair, although she doesnt really always cooperate, we deal with the bull because the child loves both parents equally. But in the end you know the situation and whats the best for the child, so good luck.

You have to get an attorney that has been practicing for a time and is seasoned to the current custody situations in Arizona. You need to consult with her first and come with your questions. YOu will learn alot and you will have to process this info. I survived the divorce but I wanted out, so my heart was not the one being hurt. I was hurt but in other ways....We went to a mediator to save money but that was a mistake looking back. You have to agree to everything to get the divorce passed and the mediator is not for you and not for him, and there is so much grey area that your own experienced attorney will guide you through and help you with your decision making. Everyone I know has joint custody and that is the norm. Unless you think and can PROVE that your child is not safe while under his care. My daughter is an only child, so that also made it very hard for her to go stay with him. Spousal support can be given sometimes; if you fall under 5 years of marriage. We were shy of that , so I just got some money and I was able to put it on a home for me and my daughter. His visitation is one night overnight mid week, and then every other weekend from FRiday at 5pm to SUnday at 5pm. It can overcome you with sadness to not be with your child for those 1st years and I urge you to pray if you have a faith,hike, seek friends, rent movies, books, see a therapist to get through it. It is the hardest situation I have ever survived and still surviving. There is no book, data that says that your child will be better off with out her dad, so the court follows it to a T and especially in our state. Due to Mom's in the past generation that got full custody of their children and the data out there supports the need for the Father's presence in their life. Our generation of Dad's are totally involved unlike our dad's generation so they have more guilt in our era. We have a family therapist that works with all three of us. SHe was hard to find (She is in Scottsdale) The visitation will wear you down because it is so hard to be without your child. I had to start taking a natural sleep aid after that first year because I was a zombie with lack of sleep when I did not have her. I can answer any other questions that may come up. I will stop here, but I feel like I could write a book.
One Day at A Time~

Unless one parent is dangerous to the child or him/her self, in most cases the judge sides for joint custody with primary custoday going to the mother. Specifics(every other weekend/one dinner a week/a sleep over once a week) normally would be agreed upon between the father/mother in meditation or before hand if you have a civil relationship.