D.,
Go to your OB and tell him about how you are feeling and acting, they can help you evaluate your situation. If you feel like you need help, don't walk out the door without it, you should insist on it, even if you go the counseling route untill you deliver.
The Navy will also support you. If you husband is active duty, you will have access to many programs to help you deal with the separation and you will live in communities with many Navy wives to support you. 9 weeks is not so long by Navy Standards, so get the help you need now to cope with what will come next.
If he is in the reserves, when he is deployed you can access programs to learn to deal with the separation and you can always reach out to and become friends with the other Navy wives who are in the same boat. They will welcome you (speaking from experience-I have been on both ends!)Once he is through with basic, you will start to become part of the community. Reading all the stuff they send you is hard, but plow through it and call the numbers on the documents they give you and ask for help to understand the system. Just remember, you are not alone.
I kind of hear you saying that your head supports him, but your gut and emotions are saying something else because you are not in control of the outbursts. I have been there! You need to get some help to really sort it out and learn to support him on all levels, espcially when he is on his way to duty for an extended period. You definetly do not want to have him leaving with you still trying to sort out how you feel.
Seek help on all levels, medical, counseling, Navy programs, and other Navy Families. With all that, you should be coping with the separtations well in no time, still painful, but they are not the end of the world. You will find that you are stronger than you think, but remember, the strongest people seek the help they need.
Reach out and serve well (you have the hardest job in the Navy!)
God bless,
M.
46, Married 18 years, 3 girls 15, 11, 8. Very proud Navy wife, Husband an Iraqi Freedom Vet, second tour pending. Now at NMCB26 as CO headed to NMCB27 as skipper. Pins on CDR in August.