Am I Asking Too Much? - Detroit,MI

OK well him threatening you with an ATTY is nothing. You two do not share economic responsibility if you did he would have your child at least 12 days a month. So do not worry about all that legal mumbo jumbo. He is resorting to threats so that you coil up like a snake. Dont let him be the handler. Unfortunalety(sp) in all of my court aggreements my ex must agree to non secular schooling. If he doesnt than I must fo to court and prove why it is better. That is if he has partial legal custody. Are you Catholic?? I personally believe that the Catholic church makes to much in monetary profits as it is. Take him to another church that would be cheaper. He does have a VERY VALID point in all of this. He can prove that you guys were paying less last year and the Judge might just go off of that since your ex doesnt agree to a church setting. Dont get me wrong I am all for him paying half but it doesnt work that way. Dont argue with him wait to hash it out wither in front of a mediater. I personally think that it wont fly but hey all guys do everything in there power to have financial control when it comes to child support
good luck

Hello D.,

No I do not think you are asking for too much. I feel like it is unfair for you to have to pick up the tab for your son's tuition by yourself. You did not have your son by yourself so why should you be the only one contributing? I would have filed for child support too...because I know how frustrating it could be to try and talk and work things out with men and they just don't see your point and just say "No...I am not paying for anything." That word is so hurtful and it would piss me off....I would have done what you did. If you think you are being unreasonable just sit and weigh your options... either you pay $450 a month for tuition alone (not to mention everything else meals, clothes etc.) or you can have him pay child support and help lighten the load! Have you tried FIA Assistance? They also require for the dad to pay child support to enable them to assist you with any help you need.

You are not asking too much. I'm assuming he is suppossed to pay you child support. That money should help cover daycare expenses, which you would have anyway. Once that gets established it should be garnished directly from his checks. The school sounds like a wonderful alternative to a daycare-- and is much cheaper. I pay 188$ a week for me 2 1/2 year old. Unfortuntaley (and it's not fair) you will have to decide if the support from your ex is worth the legal battle and the possibility that he will get more visitation or alter arranagments that are in place and you may be more comfortable with.

You are in my thoughts.

Wow D.,
That sounds like you are in a jam. That is very frustrating. Did you look into other daycares that are less expensive?

You do write the school fees off on your taxes right? If you itemize you can claim that for reimbursement. That would at least help a bit at the end of the year.

You are so not asking too much. Reread your custody agreement. Who has primary custody of your son? Whose decision is it where he spends his time on a day to day basis? Can you have this go through the FOC? Is the father aware that the school costs less then the daycare and in the long run he'll be paying less? The education of your child is nothing to fool with or downplay the importance of, and for your ex to do so, seems rather callous to me. I have similar issues with my ex, and I stick to my guns. Your child is the most important factor here, and he needs to remember this.