Am I Alone?

all you can do is act like everything is ok. It's very hard to keep everything together when your whole world is shaking with unknown outcomes. I've been fighting for my daughter for the last 11 years against my step mom and my dad. I made the mistake of asking for help when I was younger so I could futher my education. Gave them temp. custody and they have refused to let me have my daughter back. Only reason is because my step mom was never able to have kids and because she has always hated me so I guess its kind of pay backs also. I've been stable for almost 8 years, and have my other child in my home since he was born which he is now 5. My step mom has verbally abused me every chance she gets and tells my daughter things like her dad is dead, that he doesnt want her, makes my daughter feel guilty if she says that she wants to go to my house, if she says she misses me, etc. It never stops.

The easyist way is the fight with kindness and to tape him everytime he comes to pick up your daughter just in case he starts to mouth off. Dont cuse him out even if he starts it up with you because he might be taping you as well. If you keep your cool while he is verbally assulting you in front of your daughter you can use this against him in court. (Note: you can say "you dont need to be acting like that in front of your daughters name" that will help show that your daughter was there.) Stick with what your court order says. Keep records of everytime he picks her up, everytime he calls her. Also you can try to have it to wear he has to pay your atty cost and court fees.

I am starting the battle for my daughter again for the millionth time and I have several things that I have against her that she has not done that she is required to do per the court order. The only thing she can use against me now is that I was hurt at work and on leave for 6 months and was unable to pay child support at that time--but as of 2 days ago it is all paid off-- I am still unable to work but that isnt stoping me from fighting for my daughter.

I know how stress ful it can be, take deep breaths and strangle your pillow that can help sometimes.
I wish you the best of luck.

It is not easy to keep it together because this kind of stuff is an absolute emotional rollercoaster. It is my belief and experience that it is very hard to take the children away from their mother. He would have to be able to prove you unfit, on drugs, an alcoholic or something else significant to cause a judge to remove the kids and place them in his care. We went through a nasty year or two of this with my grandson and his biological father has now relinquished his rights all together so go figure that one...talk about just trying to "pay back". I also have a friend who has spent the last year with her husband trying to get custody of his kids because their mom is emotional unstable, has kept the teenage daughter out of school for months, the boyfriend smacks around his son and and and they can't even seem to get a court day and he was recently advised to just drop it because he is going to end up losing his wife and it is causing SO MUCH stress on everyone because his ex is just off the hook but still has the kids! So, sorry for the long, rambling response but in a nutshell I believe if you keep your nose clean so he has no to minimal dirt on you and you do right by the kids and keep their best interest at heart you should be fine and although it seems like an eternity in the moment...it will pass. Best of luck to you!! M.

And as Kari said...document everything...visits missed, recorded messages, conversations, etc!

I would suggest that you pray and asked God for strength,guidance, wisdom in dealing with this situation and do not allow the situation to controll your family and life. Always remember that trouble do not last always and WE CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST THAT STRENGTHEN US!! God Bless you