My two-year-old is otherwise trained and rarely has pee accidents HOWEVER she almost always only has a bowel movement in her pants. She has only gone a handful of times in the toilet and there is no rhyme or reason as to when she does. I have tried giving her treats/prizes for going and we dance, we sing, we make a big deal out of it when she does but inevitably the next day she goes again in her pants. She usually tells us right after she goes. I can get her to go but she goes to day care and preschool and so inevitably the accidents happen there more. Any and all advice. Thanks.
Have you tried reading Everybody Poops to her and having the "it's much easier if you just go in the potty" conversation (i,e, no big clean up, toddler wipes are really soft on the bum, etc.)
I told my daughter she could not wear her Elmo undies until she had her daily poop in her trainers. That worked really well.
For my daughter is was all a matter of time. Quite a bit of time. from the time she learned to go potty it was 3 months before she pooped in the potty. She just wasn't ready. So she didn't really become fully potty trained till 3 1/2 years. So kids it just takes more time. Just keep asking her if she needs to. When she has a accident make her clean our her undies in the toilet. Keep telling her that poop goes in the potty and not in her undies. She'll get tired of cleaning out her undies. and eventually she'll make the connection.
Along the lines of finding the right reward for her, listen to what she talks about and wants. When there's something she really wants, "Well, when you start going poop in the potty/toilet, we can get that (or do) that!" Set a goal, say 7 to 10 straight days and stick to it, then she gets the reward.
I found what the experts say is true, use the rewards a week or 2 to get them to accept the idea of using the potty, then do away with them and expect them to go potty because "Babies pee and poop on themselves, but big girls and boys don't."
Finding the right reward is always good. I don't like candy so we always used coins to feed the piggy bank. More importanly don't make a big deal about the accidents. It is very easy for kids to get constipated in turn making it harder for them to go or want to try to go on the potty. Good luck give her time!
You have to be comfortable to go poop. It's a very "vulnerable" thing to do. Your daughter is comfortable in her diaper/pants, and she probably also goes somewhere behind something to squat. My dd was good in panties until she had to poop, then she would ask me for a diaper so she could go. I'd try having her go around w/o her comforter (pants/diaper) so she has to get you when she needs to poop. She'll probably ask you to put a diaper on her. You could trick her and cut a hole in the bottom of the diaper and sit her on the toilet. I've heard of that, but never did it. I just told her to sit on the potty and I would hold her hand or cover her with a blanket or let her play with toys,etc. (her choice) to help make her comfortable. The trick is to get her to go on the potty w/o her stressing about and and causing her to start holding it in, then you have a whole new world of problems. Good luck!
I think the poo training often happens after the pee training.
Once my son was good with pee, what worked for me was kind of "catching him in the act", rushing him to the potty, putting him on and kind of...uh...knocking it into the water! Then we all marched around & sang "He's a Super Duper Pooper!" to the tune of "Glory Glory Hallelujah!" I think my son just wanted to see his large, burly Marine father do that again! LOL
She'll get it. Good luck!
