About to Lose My Mind Please Help????

Hello D.!

My name is L. and I can relate to some of what you are dealing with. When my daughter was 12, she would cut herself whenever she felt bad. (The doctor's compared this do doing drugs.)

She matured early and had terrible PMS. I talked to my ob/gyn about that and we made the decision to put her on a very low dose birth control pill. That with her other medications and a wonderful therapist have really done her alot of good. She passed all of her classes after missing 2 months of school. (She was admitted to Peachford for the cutting.)

Her therapist also meets with me and my daughter's father. He told us that we have to make our daughter understand that we are the parents, she is the child and there are consequences for her actions.

I know it's easier said than done. If you would like the name of my daughter's therapist, I will be happy to give it to you.

I hope this helps!
L.

im sory that i dont have any advice but i wanted to say 'best wishes'. Can you hug her at the onset (before its full scale) of those moments without injury?

Have you used any communication devices with her? I am a special education teacher and when I read speechless my first thought was to show her some pictures of emotion or something that she knows to get her to point to what is wrong since she can't use words. I would think by 12 her school should have already shown you this technique to communicate. Also, you may not be able to see any connections to the outbursts but maybe try a journal - write down EVERYTHING that happened that day before the outburst. After a few outbursts look back at and see if there are similarities. It could b something small like a weird noise that hurt her ears that she heard each time or something on her food (pepper, etc) that she didn't want. Try to stay calm and relax. Put yourself in her shoes and try to communicate without words - it can be frustrating so she may be at her limit!
I hope this helps. Let me know if there is any other help I can offer!

It would help if I knew more about your daughter but until you talk to the doctors, the important thing is to keep your daughter safe.If it happens in public (over stimulation?) take her out of the situation immediatly. Go to your car or somewhere quiet and familiar to her. If she is in your home, safe proof her room, if music helps, play it softly, if she is banging her head on things, put a helmet on her. Remove things from her room that she can pull on top of herself (bookshelves, dressers) or mount them to the wall. Keep her fingernails short. It might also help to learn Physical Intervention, ways to painlessly hold her that will keep her from hurting others without using a lot of strength. If she is 12, then her hormones and chemicals are going wacko, and will for the next several years.good luck and stay strong!

I am not sure if you mean that she just doesn't like to talk or can't. It might be a way for her to show her frustrations with her life. You might try and talk to her when she is not having a spell to see if you can come up with other ways for her to vent. Other wise I think that you are right to take her to the doctor. I would ask the doctor about epilepsy (sorry not sure if I spelled that right). I have a friend that her daughter was diagnosed with it. She didn't have the seizures she would have spells of repetitive movements that would last anywere from 15 min to hours. If they would try and stop her she would go into a rage hitting and kicking any thing and anyone around her. Stress and hormones play a big roll at this age to. Good luck and stay strong. E.