9 M/o Still Not Sleeping Through the Night

Just wanted you to know that I am going though the same thing. All I know is that my ten year old did the same thing and he stopped at some point as a toddler so I know it shouldn't be forever.

In fact, up stairs I go, she's crying......:)

My son HATES being wet - see if that's the problem ... But I also went thru what u did though I stopped nursing at 13 months, but stopped daytime bottles at 12 months ....think around 15-16 months is when I noticed a change in sleeping patterns for him and now is 19 months, goes down around 9, wakes up around 7:30, but I do get up in the middle of the night (pregnant and habit) to go pee myself and change him at that time and he will sleep well otherwise up at 6 cuz like I said HE HATES being wet

I was told by the pediatrician that the longer he naps in the daytime, the better he will sleep at night and that helped but is was not until his blood check came back with low Iron I got my answer. Have you tried having his iron checked?? My son had a low hematcrit and there was no signs of him being sluggish, just not sleeping all night. So he was given an iron supplement ( I would recommend once he turns 1, get a multivitamin with Iron if needed). He slept every night since all the way through. Just a suggestion. Also bringing this up to your pediatrician is a great idea and could result in getting treatment in one way or another.

Good Luck!!

He has learned to wake up to visit with you. You need to sleep train him to get him on track. He will eat more during the day once you stop the night feedings. There are several books available, we used a variation of the Ferber method for our son at 6 months old and for our daughter I'm using Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child - it takes longer than Ferber but our #2 baby goes to sleep with no problems she just doesn't STAY asleep - her big brother didn't go to sleep well or stay asleep well so we let him cry it out and he was sleeping all night after 3 nights, baby sis is another story.
I have her sleeping from 8pm - 4am then I feed her and she sleeps until 6:30 and then wants to nurse again sometimes goes back to sleep for and hour or 2 sometimes it's time to rise and shine. ;) I will let her cry at 4am to quit that feeding when she is 9 months old. This time around baby girl doesn't like solid foods much unlike big brother so I'm concerned that she is truly hungry at 4am. Maybe I'm a sucker - but better safe than sorry, right?
My sis-in-law started giving my niece a bottle of water for when she woke in the middle of the night - baby didn't want WATER so she took the hint after a few nights and stopped waking up. Every baby is different - I did a little research - read 3-4 books and figured out what worked for my kids. letting a baby cry it out is easier when you only have 1 kid.

The waking every two hours is probably a habit - just like if you forgot to set the alarm, your internal clock will wake up around the same time you would normally get up. So, next time go into his room, no lights, no getting out of bed, and no talking if you can help it. Just gently pat his back and help soothe him back to sleep. It may take a couple of nights - habits are not broken overnight, but within a few nights, he should start sleeping longer.

I have a 21 month old who also does not sleep through the night. So I'm with you. My feelings are that babies will let you know when they are ready. 9 months is still pretty young to sleep through the night. Not saying that some babies don't do it, but there isn't a one size fits all solution...trust me, I've looked HAHAH! As soon as my DD started teething, she started waking more frequently, so it could be teething. You say he has a fully bell, has he been on solids for long? I noticed that full belly or not, it doesn't make a difference with my DD. So long story short, I'm in the same boat, but further down the river @ 21 months! Best of luck to you and hang in there!!! You are not alone!

haha my seven month old wakes up twice on a good night and about four times on a bad night. I've notices that when he's teething he wakes up a lot . right now he has four teeth already and i've looked for more and i don't see any coming out at the moment so he's been sleeping ok. if its not his teething trying moving him to another room. i've also notice that my boy sleeps more in every other room but his. idk, good luck tho

Yup...I'm right there with you momma!! My 8.5 mth old has NEVER slept through the night, and still wakes anywhere from every 2-3 hrs. One a good night I'll get 4 hrs. My first was exactly the same until I stopped nursing and daddy did the bedtime routine. Don't know if you are nursing or bottle feeding, but if you are nursing there might be some hope in the future. But as the previous poster mentioned, I strongly believe they will sleep through the night when they are ready.

About a month before my 1st son started sleeping through the night, he stopped wanting me to put him down for his nap, he fought me in every way imaginable, so I resorted to just putting him in the crib wide awake. He would play and fuss a little, then he was out cold. Soon after that he did the same for bedtime and then slept 12+ hours..I still even remember the exact day Jan. 3 2009.....Funny what little details your remember, and other things you can't for the life of you remember...Anyway...

Hang in there mom I know its hard and believe me there are nights where I just want to pack up and camp out in a hotel ALONE, but I keep reminding myself they grow way too quick. I need to sit back and just enjoy the cuddle time my LO needs :)

I didnt night wean either of my kids till they were over a year b/c i couldnt be sure they werent hungry, and they both woke between 2-5 hours regularly. i would definitely do all the positive things you can to make sure you are not training them to wake up, like get them on a good schedule with their naps, have a good bedtime routine, and encourage more than one sleep association (not just nursing, but also rocking, saying the same words over and over, daddy snuggles, or sling-time) you are certainly not the only one and the fact that it has been 4 weeks without nursing makes me think there might be something that is really bothering him. just pay attention to what he is communicating and continue to work toward your goal -- which is rest for both of you! also, if this isnt working and you feel like you will rest better by going "backwards" a little and maybe nursing at midnight or one, dont judge yourself. everything changes and this is not forever.

My son (9.5 months) has never slept 'all' night (as in 10-12 hours) until recently and he still wakes up 1x in the early morning. A few weeks ago he was waking up every hour or two...turns out he had a double ear infection and 'mouth' part of hand/foot/mouth. I'd take him to a pediatrician. It may not be an ear infection but fluid in his ears and it's bothering him while sleeping. It could be his teeth too. But know that it won't last forever.

Have you tried putting him in bed with you? Have you tried all the other things people suggest - making it darker or lighter in his room? Darkening curtains? Sound machine or fan to drown out noise?

When he wakes does it take him awhile to get back to sleep? And by waking up to do you mean he crys out but if you give him a binky or rub his back he falls back asleep or is he actually 'up' and you have to get him back to sleep? If it's the former, it may just be that he's waking up and realizing you are not around so he cries - and if you go in and check on him/get him, then it's training him to know that you will come around and help him get back to sleep. This is where some people start to use CIO - I am not a fan and even if that means it takes my children longer to learn to fall asleep on their own, so be it.

With my son, he goes to bed at 7 and just recently started sleeping until 330-4am but will wake up sometimes 1-2x but when I give him a binky, he goes right back to sleep.

Sounds familiar! This was my son until he was about a year old! He was still nursing, but only once during the night until a year. I don't know if he was having bad dreams, but he never truly woke up; just settled and went back to sleep for a couple more hours. Honestly, teething is more painful than we realize. Even if there isn't one breaking through the gum, they are always shifting and dropping inside their gums, so don't discount teething as the reason for night wakings :( Poor things!

Even after he turned a year old, he didn't sleep more than 3 hours at a time. I was SOOOOOO exhausted! I couldn't believe moms went through this with more than one kid! He finally started sleeping about 5-6 hours at a time around 18 months, and now that he's 3.5yo, he gets about 12 hours, but he still wakes 1-2 times per night. He crawls into bed with his daddy sometime during the night, so it's at least once!

My daughter, on the other hand, is the exact opposite!! She's almost 7mo and has been a relatively good sleeper since she was born. She doesn't really wake; she just kinda wiggles around to get comfy, but I'm such a light sleeper that it wakes me up. Lately, she's been really good, though. Must be something about boys vs girls! I wonder if there's been any research on that topic..... hmmmmmm.....

My son did not sleep more than five hours at a time until I weaned him at eighteen months. I had night weaned him at fourteen months...no nursing until six...but he would stll wake up every few hours. I think he was waking to check and see if it was six yet! Anyway, he is only two and he sleeps through the night now, most nights. That nightime comfort phase of our relationship is over and, really, it was such a short time in my life.
I also wanted to tell you that I have a theory that the eight/ninth month for a breastfeeding mother is one of the hardest because the baby is so big and not eating a ton of food yet. They need a lot of nutrients, but still draw most of them from you. I see a lot of exhausted breakdowns by nursing moms around that time. Soon he will be getting most of his nutrients from food and you won't feel so drained.

he could be growing, learning new things, teething is a HIGH probability for making him wake, he could be having some gas issues due to change in your diet. But ultimatly I would guess it's just him going thru a phase. However (and I hate to tell you this cause you will hate me for the rest of the day) but my now 2 year old did not sleep thru the night until he was 15 mths old......every night at 3:30 he was up and adam......so it does get better. It just varies by the child.

Good luck
K.

My son only slept 2 hours at a time. At one year he slept 3 hours ONE night. By 18 months he was sleeping through the night though. Hang in there it will get there. Hopefully, you can get naps and maybe sleep in on the weekends with hubby's help.