7 Year Old Daughter Won't Sleep in Her Room!

What is her history? Is this a sudden change for her (either she always slept with you in your room and now she doesn't want to change it; or she has always slept in her own room and now suddenly she refuses)? What have you tried up to this point? What is her bedtime routine like?

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Have you tried lying down with her at bedtime? Read her bedtime story IN her bed. You sit on the bed with her while reading. Then lights out, night nights kisses, etc..and you both lie down and are quiet. Let her know that you will be getting up shortly to go do other things in the house (laundry, loading the dishwasher, sweeping the kitchen floor, etc. ... boring stuff), but that you will "check on her" in a few minutes. Then DO. At about 4 minutes, go peek into her room, let her SEE you peek in (but don't engage in conversation.. maybe if she speaks to you, you just say "just checking on you"), then go back to boring chores. Check back again in about 5 more minutes. Then 7 minutes. Then 10 minutes... Sort of like "sleep training" for infants... only you only go to her door... not rubbing her back or anything.

Obviously it is going to be a long road, since she is so accustomed to being with you and Dad every night. But try to stay supportive and consistent. I used a similar method for my son when he transitioned to a full sized bed (from crib/mattress on the floor) when he was about 2 years old. I would lie down with him and silently count in my head to 2 minutes, then I would peck him on the nose/forehead/cheek, whatever, tell him I loved him and say goodnight, then get up and leave. Staying less than 2 minutes was too short, but staying much longer was ineffective. I never had issues with him leaving his bed or coming out of his room. But, he had slept in his own room by himself since the day we brought him home from the hospital. So that is going to factor in...

Funny, my 7 yo is going through this too, although she doesn't know what is bothering her about it. finally I let her move in with her little brother.

Oh poor little girl! Is she crying because you don't want her in your room or is there something else going on?

I have the same questions as Victoria W. We need more info.

That would help us in giving you advice =-)

Does she sleep in your bed or on the floor (mattress or blankets?). It sounds like she wants to be near you guys - not sure if this is a new thing or the same routine that she doesn't want to break. Does she start out in her bed? I would tell her she has to start out in her bed and if/when she wakes up, lay with her. If she gets up again or keeps waking up, I'd say to just let it go. She sees momm/daddy sleeping together so why can't she (is probably what she thinks). I know I sleep better when my husband is in bed so for now I'd let it go. I have a friend who's daughter sleeps with her about 1/2 of the time (she's the same age) but she's single so it doesn't affect her as much. If you mind it(and it sounds like you do) you need to come up with a plan. Maybe just having her sleep on the floor (this is the only place you can sleep if you come in at night) will deter her from sleeping in your room. If she's content sleeping on your floor and you and hubby have time each night to be 'alone' then I think I'd let it go. Eventually she'll want her own space/bed!

First find out what is upseting her.

Can't wait to hear the answers as our 6 year old is a permanent fixture in our room by this point! She has a mattress on the floor etc. I let it go bc I work full time so figure if she needs more time with me, I'll give it to her best I can. She's always been a very needy sleeper.

Has she slept in her room before? Is this a new issue?