4 Yr Old Not Wiping Herself!

With my son I made him start wiping himself and I would check him when he was done. This worked because he wanted to get back to playing and I wouldn't let him get up until he wiped and I checked. We also bought those flushable wipes and put stickers on the container to make it easier and more fun for him. TP is so hard to use at that young age. He would start with the TP and finish with the wipes to get what he missed. When he did a great job I would tell him how great he did, this boosted his confidence and before you knew it he was ready to do it all by himself. There are so many things that children can do on their own if we would just show them that they can do it.

On another note, you should talk to someone about your depression. You shouldn't ignore it. Some things that may help are a healthy diet, exercise, support from other moms, join a mom's group, etc. There are many moms groups in the area for you to get out and meet other moms, it helps so much to have someone to talk to. Also, there are programs like Baby Boot Camp that allow you to bring your baby, meet other moms, exercise, get healthy and just feel better about yourself. You can check it out at www.babybootcamp.com. Whatever you do, find someone to talk to.

my son did the same thing buy kandoo wipes or any other brand they are all the same and she will

My daughter loves the pampers Kandoo wipes. They also make this really great foam soap. It makes her feel like a big girl that she has her special wipes and soap. I still check her since at that age they don't wipe too effectively.

also, I hope that I am not stepping out of bounds but it seems like you have a lot on your plate right now .. kids, family, body image and relationship issues. A really great friend told me once, "Start with you and everything and everyone else will have to wait." After being married for so long, having children and all of the things that come with both, I forgot about me. Her advice helped to get me back on track! If you don't take care of you ... who will!

Hi, G. K

This is just my opinion. I think your 4 year old daughter is too young to wipe herself after she poops. The reason why I am saying this is because, what if she does not clean herself correctly. This will leave her irritated. She may even develope a rash from not cleaning herself correctly. I have a three year old daughter, and she wants to clean herself all the time. What I do is, I wipe her first and then I let her wipe herself. This way I know she is clean. Maybe you can try wiping her first and then let her wipe herself. Although our children are growing up fast, they still need our help from time-to-time.

I also want to make a comment about your depression, anxiety and motherhood please pray and ask God to help you through this. If you have any friends to talk to, please share how you feel with them. When we are depressed we (mothers) tend to take our frustration out on our children. Please take time for yourself to deal with your depression. Your daughter loves you, and she needs her mommy. Take care of yourself. If you need to talk, I am here to listen. God bless.