A.G.
Hi. My daughter is 4 1/2 too. We just had a meeting with her teacher at school. The meeting was about how she is doing in school. My husband and I went to the school thinking everything was great. We were so wrong!! Her teacher told us that she would not answer questions and would not recognize her abc's and numbers. We were shocked because she does it at home for us all the time. Her teacher told us that she thinks she is stubborn and has low self esteem. So what we did is started a rewards chart at home. One chart is for chores, like feeding the dog and the cats 5 days a week. just to give her some responsibilities. At the end of the week she gets to pick out of a basket that has book, coloring book, or special treats. The other chart we have is one for good behavior. After 20 stickers she gets to go see a movie, go get ice cream, spend the night at a grandparents house. These are some of the ideas we came up with. So far it has been working a little bit. You could google 4 year old self esteem. Thats what we did. I hope this helps!