**3Rd** Baby on They Way!!!

Hi A.!
It was opposite for me. I was the one who wa snot thrilled to have been preggers with a third, especially b/c my youngest was only 8 months old at the time. I never thought that I wouldn't have it, I was just REALLY emotional and scared to have 2 soooo close together. It actually took me until my baby boy got here that I got excited. I say to give him time. Sure it's stressful emotionally, financially and physically but you got through 2 and once he hears that heart beat and sees the ultrasound, I hope he changes his mind.
Good Luck and Congrats to you....it is a blessing!
K. :~)

Aw hon, it will be okay, it really will, he'll come around. He will get used to idea over time and it really does work itself out emotionally, financially in the end. I'm in same boat, except like other ladies, i was having a really hard time emotionally over this pgcy already having 4yo and 2.5yo, almost done w/ diapers and all that chasing around kids under 2 who don't know street danger and forks in sockets, and etc., the little baby-toddler stage being such hard work. Took me a while, but after a few months (i'm 6 mos now) and encouragement from my husband who is happy about a 3rd (he wanted 4, but i've kyboshed that whole bag of crazy, we're in our 40s now and i can almost feel the calcium leeching from my old bones! har), i feel much better. THink if you do like my husband did and just keep positive about it, take it a day at a time (and not like i was donig, thinking of the yrs of hard work ahead, instead of the cute little face and personality coming into our life), he will come around to the idea. Besides, what if it's a little girl?? I know my little girl is daddy's baby, there is somethign so sweet about that. Good luck sweetie.

For you it's already real. There's a baby in your belly and you love it and are ready, whatever that means. For him, it's still a CONCEPT. One that he hasn't taken to heart yet. Give him time to adjust and I bet he will come around. It's a lot harder for the 'other' person to jump right in, especially if neither of you were expecting it!

I agree with the gals. Give him time. Our 3rd was a surprise to us too. My husband was less than thrilled when I told him we were pregnant since it took a dr's help to get pregnant with my twin boys and here I was pregnant the good old natural way. But it finally grew on him and our daughter has daddy completely wrapped around all of her sweet little fingers. He is truly head over heels in love with her and even told me the other day that he cant remember life without her in it. The money finds a way of working itself out, it really does.

Having 3 is a blessing! I have the opposite of you, my first two are close together in age and my 3rd is 7 years after the oldest and 5 years after the youngest. I sometimes wish I had done them closer together. Anyway, you will have a tough, but rewarding time with the two youngest. It will be hard, at first, with both being so young and needy, but you will see great rewards with their relationship together and when they start playing nicely! Perhaps your hubby needs a chance for his heart to overrule his brain. What would he think if this one happens to be a little girl? That may be the icing on the cake. I have some of each, and trust me, they play together no matter the sex. I hope all goes well for you. I agree, you are a mother from the moment of conception, the daddies tend to take until the moment of birth!

Give him some time. I was the one who was not really happy about our surprise # 3 and took months to be excited.

TIME! my husband didn't talk to me for 2 weeks after i told him about the 5th. he has finally accepted and moved on. just give him time. stay positive. it is your decision. at least you have a good span in ages. mine are super close which makes it hard. hang in there.