so I didn't pay for it, I read my friends copy, and can't use the helpdesk...I'm hoping some moms on here can offer a little advice.
My son only poops when standing. I'm on day 2 and he'll poop next to the potty but only when he's wearing his underpants and when he's standing. So as soon as he starts going I tell him "you're going poop!" I take the underpants off flip it into his training toilet (which he LOVES) and show him where the poop is supposed to go. I say "the poop goes in the potty now, not your pants. Do you want to add more to the poop?" Then I sit him down and he'll act like he's pushing (grunting, even gets out a couple of farts) but nothing happens. I clean him up and a few min later he'll start going again but in his underpants.
He tells me when he has to go poop, he's not scared of the little pottty or our toilet. He wants us to go at the same time as him. He just doesn't want to sit down. He has been standing to poop since he was a couple of months old, and will NOT do it when sitting. He has amazing amouint of control of it.
Also 2 times now he's started going potty when he's standing next to his potty and I've just sat him down on it with his underpants on to try to get the potty in the little potty. Is this bad? Should I make sure to take the underpants off every time? He really likes it when he gets it in, however most (all but 3 times now) of the time he stops going by the time I get his underpants off. (he's only wearing his underpants, no shirt or shorts)
Is there anything else I should be doing? I'm I doing it right??
Just as a side note...I'm not looking for advice on other methods. I do undersand that other methods have worked for other moms...I doing this one. Please keep your advice on how to solve this issue not on switching methods.
I'm not familiar with this method but 3 days sounds good to me. =D I'd keep doing whatever it takes to encourage him to go on the potty. I'd eventually work his way to sitting on the potty pretty quickly. I'm not sure if this goes along with a specific method but 4 of my 5 children are potty trained and I've found that consistency is the key. Good luck!!
I work with my daycare parents to do this method and have been successful with several children in the last 2 years (ages 22 mos-28 mos). I love it and sing its praises and none other really! LOL You have my support!
I have never had a poo-stander, but I think you really need to get him sitting. This method is really based alot on my own personal motto of "Begin as you mean to go on"...like the no potty chairs in any room but the bathroom (where in the real world can you go pee or poo in someones kitchen or living room, for goodness sakes???), etc.
I do offer small bribes when I do the "after the 3 (or 4,5,6 that parents start with exclusively at home)" support time here at daycare to cement thing. Have you done that? might help if your child is amenable to them. I offer ONE single M&M for a successful pee (not for trying)..and a whopping 2 if they successfully poo. Gotta catch him before he goes...watch for those micro-signals he gives off, for me, that was the key to success for them all. I needed to know before they totally did..then they quickly recognized was it was, what was happening and what the feeling was.
Just undies and a shirt if you need to...that part is spot on. Keep it up! You are doing great! You both can do this!
PM me if you have other questions....my daycare parents always did the initial few days at home (and poo is a tougher bit for most), but I heard all about it and I did all the follow up support (8-10 hour days) here at daycare (with a whole crew of other kids to care for). I think 8 kids now I have worked with thru this...got another about to go thru it. She just turned 2 a week ago!
Consistency is key. My son would go standing up but he would run and hide! I just kept picking him up and putting him on the toilet even if he didn't make it in to show him where we go and why. I wouldn't make a big deal about it verbally because actions seem to work louder than words. Pooping is harder since they don't go as frequently as pee. Just try and be right there when he goes and put him on the toilet and he should eventually get it. Hang in there, boys are tough!
You don't say how old your little guy is. But if he's under 26-30 months, he may simply not have a good enough sense of what physical signals result in what 'outcome,' or a good understanding yet of what his other choices may be.
For the first couple of years, nature takes its course and results are automatic, based on the natural peristaltic action of the lower bowel. It's awfully easy to disturb that automatic action by introducing new patterns and even new emotional tensions, just as it's remarkably easy to disturb the natural breathing pattern of the diaphragm when you are emotionally distracted (or deliberately holding your breath).
Unfortunately, when kids are maneuvered into new patterns or behaviors before they are mature enough to experience them as new choices, they can get thrown off. With bowel 'training,' this can result in constipation, difficult and painful pooping, and worse. Which, of course, throw off progress.
I applaud your 3-day approach, as long as it turns out to be a good match for your son's needs and state of readiness. It is an approach that seems to work for many parents. But you might wish to check your son's readiness against the useful checklists here: http://www.parentingscience.com/toilet-training-readiness...
There are also many comprehensive and useful training tips at that link. Good luck!
i used a method that i think is the same as you are using, but never had this poop prob so I don't know what exactly to tell you.
Can you anticipate the pooping time and have him be naked, restricted to the bathroom?
Even when using this system, the pooping can sometimes take longer than 3 days, In your case you might need to have him poop his undies and flip it into the potty for a week or so before it clicks and he sits for it.
I don't think i woudl have him keep undies on and poop in them sitting down. I think standing and just continuing to empy in to the potty would be less confusing.
good luck, this is a monentous and trying time!!
I one month into potty training with my son. He is doing a GREAT job and I am sooo excited. I did the three day potty training. I didn't have any books to read. I guess I could have looked online, but I just didn't think about it. My son seemed to pick up on the pooping first. As in, he recognized sooner. I think because it is a more gradual process. The peeing just comes out before he even could realize it. About day two is when those diapers left in his closet started lookin pretty good. He doesn't have a standing up problem, but if I don't catch him to take him and he doesn't remember to tell me he does have a pooping corner he goes to stand in. Why not just let him run around naked? Is there a problem with that? I did that purely out of need because we were just going through the undies too fast. But if you can't get them down in time, then eliminate them. You don't want him to think its ok to go poop in his undies as long as he is on his potty. You don't really want to get him trained to pool in his pants so you you dump that in his potty and then dump it in the toilet do you? I made the undies part of the reward, and my son did great. He got all excited to wear them, I had less undies to clean, and now he wears them regularly.
