3 1/2 Yr Old's Bf Is Pushing Other Children on High Slides: How 2 Approach Mom?

Is the mom not there? If she is, just say, "Josh is pushing again and he's way up high on the slide and I'm worried someone will get hurt."

Or, just go up to the kid and say, "No, you have to come down, pushing is dangerous" and then take him to his mom and nicely tell her what happened.

Please tell before someone gets hurt or worse-and it's okay to say something to anyone's child if they are misbehaving-not a threat-just tell them what they're doing wrong and to stop-sometimes the fact that someone other than a parent will call them on something will give them pause.

First if he is at your house or in the park with you, then by all means treat him as you would yours. IN other words he is 3, he pushes on the slide, he gets 3 minutes time out.
Even now I tell my friends that if my kids act up to punish them as they would their own. My kids have come home and said "Ms. Jeanie" put us all in time out. I say good for Ms Jeanie, mind your manners at her house. Mine are older, preteens and teens.

Tell the mom, be up front. 3 yo's push and hit and need to know where the boundaries are. Ask her what her consequences would be and tell her that you would absolutely want her to discipline your child if he were to act up at her house.

She should understand.
I would also tell the teacher, just as an FYI. Not as a Guess what Johnny is doing to my Sammy. Just let her know Johnny has been kind of aggressive to Sammy and you were wondering if he were acting that way at school.

And as a mom of a formerly agressive child, please invite the child back to your house and be sure to let him know the rules and consequences. .

thats how i lost one of my friends. Her son was always pushing and hitting (tore an earing out of her ear once and received no punnishment) and she did nothing and then I told her once in email that I didnt want to hang because the hieghts he was pushing her off of were growing (started off stools and small ladders and then he tried at a high slide) and I felt I was ignoring it simply because I liked her company and her husbands. She took it great and said she was at her wits end with her son and agreed and said she'd feel the same, her husband called M. up and freaked on M. for implying his son was "bad". Anyway that ended the friendship. I'd tread lightly and mention it or correct him in front of her if she reacts badly, than hang without kids and dont ruin the friendship. I miss my friends, J. not their son.

Where's the mother while this is happening? If she's not there to witness it, then you talk to the child yourself firmly and gently about playing safely and nicely. Then later you can tell her what happened and how you handled it.

"Charlotte, I just wanted to give you a heads up that when the boys were playing today, McJayden got a little excited and eager on the playscape as the boys sometimes do and nearly pushed Jameson off. I made sure both boys were safe and talked to them about safety, but I wanted to make sure that you knew I had that talk with the boys. I'll be talking to James again later in private to make sure he heard and understands since the boys were so eager to get back to playing again."

I would do something similar if she were there but didn't see what happened. Safety first, always. Safety trumps Mommy's feelings over someone else talking to her child about what's right and wrong.

Just talk to her. Be honest and let her know that you're worried about hurting her feelings or offending her, but you're concerned that someone will be hurt physically.

This really isn't a big deal.