Hey! What you are feeling is completely normal, so remember that and don't let it overwhelm you. When I found out I was pregnant, my daughter was only 6 MONTHS OLD! Obviously, it was unplanned....I was completely devastated because my first pregnancy was a surprise also, and I hadn't even adjusted to taking care of her yet. I didn't even tell hardly anyone for the first four months. I didn't even tell my employer until I was 6 months pregnant because I didn't want to talk about it everytime I saw someone and was bombarded with all those pregnancy questions you get. You'll be amazed at how much your daughter will love it. I remember when my daughter hit 20 months old, she really started getting into her baby brother. He was about 5 months old at that point. Before then, she was too young to notice anything to be jealous about, and actually started wanting to help. She wasn't really able to before then, but at that point she'd saying "diaper mommy?" and want to get me the diaper, wanted to pull out the wet wipes, wanted to hold the bottle...it was really cute. It's definitely tough having kids close in age, but you'll have over 2 years between, and that's a huge difference in how much easier it will be than you think. As far as feeling guilty about taking time away from your will be 2 year old, remember that in the beginning, the baby will sleep most of the time, and you'll still have special time for your daughter. When the baby's starting to stay awake longer, you can sit on the floor with him/her while you hold him so that you're still able to play with your daughter. I think the hardest part for me was having to make my 15 month old walk into grocery stores. I couldn't carry the infant seat, diaper bag and a 15 month old, and she was so tiny to be walking through the parking lot with snow on the ground (2nd was born in December), but she was too young to mind, and I'm being honest when I say that there was no transition for her. You may be hesistant about your feelings throughout the pregnancy, but just know that you'll be able to deal with things just fine once the baby comes. And in a few years, you'll LOVE that they're close enough in age to play with each other. My kids are now 6 and 7 and are best buddies. They play together ALL THE TIME. It's cute because people ask if their twins all the time since they're pretty much the exact same size!