2Nd Boy!

Please ignore Kristine. That was very rude. She shouldn't judge those of us who choose to know the gender before the birth.

I have two boys, and I don't remember anyone saying anything to me. Then again, if it wasn't that, it would be something else.

Pregnancy and the first couple of years are funny. Perfect strangers feel like they have the right to comment on everything.

I would just continue to smile and be polite. I would also be annoyed, but unless you want to practice a smart comeback, you'll just have to live with it.

ETA - Kristine, I'm sorry, too. My comment was way too harsh. I shouldn't have said anything at all.

I always thought I wanted a girl but one boy, then another, and I was hooked! Love my Boys! Can't imagine my life with girls!

Just smile and tell them how you feel, like you found some secret of life!
I've learned so much about life from my boys. I've also rolled my eyes, a lot!
And held my breath! (from the stink and the antics, lol) if you tell it right, the people who are sorry for you, will be jealous of you!

Hi,

First--- a very wise woman once told me "if you have any idea of what you think you'll have, or if you have a preference, find out in advance. This way, you can accept that baby when he/she comes and not be coping with it in the delivery room".

So first, good for you for finding out!

I followed that woman's advice, by the way-- thought 'for sure' I was having a girl and then found out it was a boy! (I'd had other information it would be a boy, and was amazed it was true!)

All this to say- people are susceptible to projecting--- horribly-- on someone else's situation. They might even be thinking you were hoping for a boy. I think you have to put it out in the answer-- when people ask 'oh, what are you having' , you can reply "we are so excited, we're having a little brother for (name of your first child)". Beat them to the punch. Let them know you are happy before they can make a comment. "We are so happy to be having a little brother..." and then, if that isn't enough, talk up the good points. "We are going to save so much on clothes" or "We've done baby boy number one, I'm going to be an expert with our second one..." etc. Get your positive comments in before they can respond with their weird consolation and I think it will give them pause.

I went through this exactly - and LOVE LOVE LOVE having 2 boys. And was thrilled as soon as I knew, because I felt like I already have a lot of boy stuff, plus there is the hope (and so far it's true) that my 2 boys would be best friends.

And yes, people still ask me if we are going to 'try for the girl'. "No, our family is complete, thank you." And they often continue "Really? You don't want to keep trying for a girl?"

I don't know what people are thinking when they ask things like this. I don't let it bother me enough to really call it annoying, but I do find it odd.

Congrats on 2 boys!!

I feel ya! I have two girls and we just found out our 3rd will be a boy. I'm getting that "3rd times a charm" and "your husband must be so relieved now" kind of comments. I'm thrilled of course to mix it up, but I also had to sort of mourn the loss of the sweet 3-girl family I was also imagining as an option. Not that I hoped either way, but you sort of picture each possibility right? Plus I had all sisters so I was totally envisioning it.

People say dumb stuff! I mean that in the most innocuous, not-bothered-by-it way, but they do!

You can't control what ever other people think.
Just feel as thrilled as you want to be and give yourself permission to just not care what others say or how they express themselves.

I just pointed out all the reasons I was happy having two boys.

I didn't have to buy all new baby clothes and accessories in pink.
I didn't have to buy a new house because my two boys could share a room.
I don't have all that girl drama to deal with.

Just say isn't it wonderful. We are the luckiest people in the world!!!

If they know you are tickled pink (no pun intended) that you're having a boy, they probably won't offer condolences. I admit that I really wanted a girl and a boy and I didn't get my girl. (She's in my dreams - perhaps a granddaughter one day?)

Anyway, congratulations! And if you keep it to two, nothing wrong with that. I felt that my family was complete after the second child!

We have boy boy girl boy . It's wonderful to have 2 first boys (ours are 23 months apart) . I think it's natural for people to assume , since most people want to experience raising both genders (and believe me ,girls are something I am thankful to get to experience it :)) We were hoping our 4 th one would be a girl too so our daughter would have a sister. But God had a different plan (I did cry for days when we found out.....but of course we love him to pieces now :)) When people say stuff like that you can say for fun, Ahhhh I actually want 5 boys ;)

Yes we had our 4th in august and heard it every time. Our first two were girls. We always wanted a big family and never care what we were blessed with. Our was 3rd were "supposed" to a girl. Husband and I were thrilled. People comment about "trying" for that boy later. MIl was making me mad about how her son(my hubby) was the last one to carried the name on. I told her that we never care on what gender we had. We never care if we had 10 girls or 10 boys as long as they were healthy. Of course she agreed and stop with it. Well on delivery day she was a HE. Then we heard nasty comments also. "oh I bet you happy you got your son?" By the time our 4th came it wasn't to bad. People made comments about you know what causes babìes? Or about having more, etc. We were blessed with 4, healthy kids. Two of each. Were done and happy. Sister had her 3rd boy 5 weeks after my 4th was born. Of course people was hoping she had a girl.

It's super common. The same thing would have happened if you had two girls. You just have to ignore the comments and not let them get to you. You know that you're thrilled and that you don't need any convincing, so don't let others make you think you should be disappointed.

Congrats on your boy! I'm sure the boys will have a blast together.

I have 3 girls and 1 boy.. and yes, the boy was the last.

No, we did not "keep trying" to get the boy..... as one very noisy neighbor suggested.... (after #3 was born, our third girl, she said.. "Surely you're not going to try again for a boy?)

Anyway, we had the number of kids that we wanted... and we would have been totally thrilled by a 4th girl, if that is what we had gotten.

When people start asking nosy questions, or making those inane comments, just turn it back on them..... With a totally straight face, ask them... "Why would you even ask a person a question like that?"

It helps point out their rude behavior, and turn it back into their court.....

I have three boys, and started worrying that I'd end up with a girl, and wouldn't know what to do with her! You are a very lucky lady. Boys are wonderful!

We have 3 boys! We get those comments all the time! My best friend has 3 girls. She gets the same type of comments...'Your husband must be so disappointed!'

You could eliminate all of this is you didn't find out at all in advance :)

Too late now but maybe keep that in mind with #3.

Sorry if you thought I was rude but it is true. And if it annoys you to hear this-it is a surefire way to keep the annoying people at bay.

No judgment-I didn't say it was stupid to find out or anything like that-sorry if you took it that way (or at least Gidget did) .

It's just that there are SOOOOO many cute girl things out there to dress them in, toys for girls to play with, just soooo much!

We always hope to have a girl and when it's a boy we think "Oh boy, I am glad I saved that one cute outfit I found".

Just tell them you do boys better and are very glad it's a boy.