2 Year Old Afraid to Poop on Toilet!

This is totally normal. We are trying to finish the training with my son, and he is so used to pooping standing up that it is very hard for him to do it sitting. With my daughter, she had bonded with her poop (also very common) and viewed it as a part of her and couldn't bear to part with it. We finally told her that the poop was going to a party and she had to let it go to the party and it would come back to see her next time she went. Silly, yes, but she happily sent it to the party after that. My ped warned me that kids start to withhold when they go through the process. She recommended sneaking fiber in whenever you can so they can't withhold it. I give my son fig newtons, pears, raisons and other high fiber things to help him a long. Give her some time, she will eventually get it.

I just went through this with my two year old last month. Some suggestions that I had read were to show her that the poop in the underwear goes in the toilet. Then I would take her to the bathroom for a quick, cold shower to clean her up and then have her dry herself and get dressed. Eventually she came to hate that routine so she slowly started to go on the toilet. Sometimes it also seemed that she was still trying to figure out what her body was telling her. So right when she had an accident, she would come and tell me. Then, slowly she would run to the bathroom and have an accident b/c she was too late. Finally she started realizing it earlier and hasn't had an accident in several weeks. The other thing I did was reward her with an M&M every time she went on the potty. We did this with pee and that worked well for us. Once she got the hang of it, we no longer offered it to her and she forgot about it.

Have patience, I know it can get frustrating.

Totally agree about a potty chair on the floor so she can get leverage. My son trained at 26 months and would grab the handles on his Fisher-Price toilet, bend over to put his belly on his legs, etc. Just trying to figure it out. Also, I let my son pick out a nice $10 toy at Target as a poopy prize and he sat on the potty chair every five minutes for two hours the next morning until he went! He was very self motivated to get the prize and he did. GREAT job on the peeing, that's wonderful!

K.,
Are you using a potty or are you using a potty seat that is attached to the regular toilet? A lot of toddlers don't like to poop on the regular toilet b/c they are either intimidated by the large toilet or they can't get leverage with their feet to push out a bowel movement. If you're not using a child's potty that is on the floor, I would suggest trying that. Otherwise, this is a very common problem and I wouldn't push it. Eventually she'll poop in the potty. She's doing great with peeing on the potty, so the pooping will come in time. Good luck!