13 Month Old Disipline

No, she is much much too young for that. Positive re-direction is developmentally appropriate for her age. Distract her with a different toy if she is reaching for something dangerous. Model sharing with other kids, give her the words to use. She is just a baby still. Trying her new little wings. Try reading Dr. Sears books on babies and discipline. He is a pediatrician and father of eight! I have found many good tips from him that help me feel like a good parent with a happy little boy.

Positive discipline will build her self esteem instead of tearing it down. She's someone to guide, not control.

Good luck!

Give her positive reasons to do things instead of "disciplining". Redirect her to things she could or should be doing, instead of punishing. This is very effective wtih little ones. Also, you can say things like, "
if you make your bed, we'll go to the park", if you clean up your toys, we'll go for a walk. This I find works better than anything else. Then, when she does something correctly, lavish praise on her. Also, the little ones LOVE stickers. You could make a sticker chart, and every time she does what she's supposed to, she gets a sticker.

Good luck!

Hi there!
I too have a 13 month old (boy) and I find that removing him from the situation where he is misbehaving, telling him "no" and getting him interested in something else has been VERY helpful! They sure are testy at this age!

I think that she is too young for time outs. I have a 3 year old son, and he didn't really understand "time-out" until he was about 2. Your baby is too young to have impulse control even if she did learn that something was "wrong" to do. If she does something that you don't agree with, firmly tell her "no" or something like that and then redirect her interest to something else.

I've heard that time outs are okay, but you only do one minute for every year old they are. Maybe try having a certain spot or chair for time out and you will probably have to stay there with her for the minute and explain why she is there (they understand more than we think!).

I haven't read through the responses, so I may be repeating advice already given. If so, sorry.

From my experience, time outs at this age don't make a lot of sense. Usually the child doesn't even stay in the time out. They just get up and wander away, and then your hand is forced into some other sort of consequence for THAT behavior. Makes a vicious circle.

At this age what has worked well for my kids is a strong "NO!" and then redirection (picking the child up and moving her elsewhere, etc), modeling the desired behavior (showing her something appropriate to play with, etc), and kind praise when the child is doing what is desired. Facial expressions and tone of voice /body language of the people in their lives are key messages for children of this age. Most times those are all the tools a parent needs for behavior modification at this stage.

Be sure to "catch" your child doing good things and give her encouragement and kudos often. At this age children are seeking attention. If good behavior goes unrecognized they soon learn that bad behavior doesn't.

She is not too young to learn that there are boundries. It doesn't have to be harsh, just enough to know that you are teaching her what is not appropriate. She will feel more secure if you show her you are in charge and will not be a screaming mee mee when she becomes 3. Be consistent or it will not work! If she gets up, put her back; keep this up until she sits still and don't say anything to her, just put her back in her corner. She'll get the picture when you don't give up.

my 4 kids are grown. i vowed to treat them with love and respect, thinking thats what i would get in return. it worked. they are great!! give alot of laughter, hugs, patience, remain calm, and remember, they live by example. little ones hear and see just what our response is to things, they are like sponges. i would explain emotions & reactions to them, ect. time outs in little bits for little kids might work. be sure to give short explainations to the point why the time out. and after give hugs and reassurance. i have a friend whos daughterinlaw laughs when her kids missbehave. now one of them is uncontrollable, nobody likes being around him. its so sad. she yells alot at her kids, threatens, and does not follow through. her kids are out of control and have no respect - they hurt each other, break ea.other's toys, on and on..

I was told that, too. It was pointless. They don't have a clue. Just tell her no and distract her with something else and move on. Good luck :)