My daughter Lashay never has been big on sharing, but I want her to start. Once when she was around 8, she cried because I told her she had to share her remote control car with her sister. Whenever she has candy, she doesn't share with her sister but expects her sister to share with her. How do I teach her how to share?
Okay, I'm sorry you think I'm a troll, but thanks for all the good suggestions. I guess sharing never really stuck with her, and she wants to protect things she buys with her hard earned money. (allowance, doing chores around the house)
I'll talk to her about it, I hope your suggestions work!
You have to model it.
Role play with her.
Teaching her that sharing and giving actually makes YOU feel better than the recipient is very powerful.
Teach her that "sharing" is NOT the same as GIVING it to the other person.
It is temporary.... she gets it back.
BUT for "special" things, don't make her share it.
Not all things have to be shared, carte blanche.
An adult, wouldn't want to have to share everything, either, much less their special things.
With food, it is eaten, thus you can't give it back.
And if she wants someone else's food or object, then she CANNOT expect them to give it to her or share it either... because it is their right to decide.
Or with candy/food, the person can decide and allocate, say 2 pieces to give to the other person, then that's it.
Designate a limit or amount of it.
Your daughter is 11 already... have you asked her WHY she does not like sharing?????
She is 11. She can obviously say what she is thinking by now.
It is a trait that should have been modeled, discussed and dealt with very early on. Children learn in the home, preschool, school to share by parents, teacher, role models, etc.
Is there some reason this is occuring now? Has she never shared? Why didn't you teach that early on, especially since she has a sibling.
She should not have to share everything but she needs to learn to deal with sharing because it is a part of life. She will feel better and be a better person is she learns to share.
Something about this question raises my red flags... it is a weekend and you know what happens on weekends moms.
It is something she needs to see as a good thing. The more she shares the more others will share with her.
Practice at home. Give everyone different treats, then begin sharing amongst you. Make sure your daughter is told, thank you for sharing..
Also if you see her sharing without a prompt when out and about. Whisper in her ear, I like the way you shared.
In our neighborhood, there was a large group of children. All of us as parents did this and it just became part of our regular vocabulary.
The children learned to share, to trade, to say thank you for each personal transaction.. It was just our norm.
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It is something she needs to see as a good thing. The more she shares the more others will share with her.
Practice at home. Give everyone different treats, then begin sharing amongst you. Make sure your daughter is told, thank you for sharing..
Also if you see her sharing without a prompt when out and about. Whisper in her ear, I like the way you shared.
In our neighborhood, there was a large group of children. All of us as parents did this and it just became part of our regular vocabulary.
The children learned to share, to trade, to say thank you for each personal transaction.. It was just our norm.
Sorry, but I agree with TF....this is clearly the Troll that was here playing last weekend! I can't remember her previous name but it's the exact same format of question she was asking last week!
Anytime someone has a daughter named Lashay, it's a troll.
I would say you are far too late and should've tackled this issue right when the younger sister was born. I am sure you can teach it, but it will be much harder, now that she is used to being selfish and being allowed to get away with it. Teach her "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." - the Golden Rule, if she wants others to share with her, she must show them the same treatment. Enforce it, and don't force the other child to share if your older daughter won't. Like another poster said, I would say that not EVERYTHING needs to be shared,but most things should be - if she has something special that the younger one is likely to break or lose, or if she really did buy it with her own money, I can see not sharing; but at 11 that cannot be the bulk of her things - but everyday toys and treats, yes she should share.
Also - why are you ppl calling this person a troll, just because she asks a question in a certain way, and her daughter has a certain name??? Don't you have to be trying to make trouble/stir up controversy, to be labeled a troll??? Pretty immature ppl.
This sounds VERY much like my ex's son (who has Asperger's). He's VERY, VERY protective of his stuff, but always wants to play with everyone else's.
