yikes...pregnant With #3 - Springfield,VA

Wow, I know exactly what you are feeling. I myself am a 29 (almost 30) year old mother to a precious 13 month old. I was approximately 4 mos along before I wound up in the doctor's office. I had what I thought was irregular bleeding, irregular periods, etc. I also had a couple of glasses of wine throughout the first trimester, unwittingly, myself. My daughter is healthy, happy and wonderful. I am truly blessed, and you are too.

What the others said. = )

Really, don't worry about it.
I have two friends who didn't find out they were pregnant until the 5th month - imagine what they were doing all that time. = ) One was spotting off and on like you, the other was thinking 'early menopause' because her periods had stopped. Both their babies are totally happy and healthy.

Really, none of the things you mentioned would affect a fetus - as for the jogging, there are marathoners who train the entire time while they are pregnant, so some light exercise on your part isn't a big deal.

So relax, go forward doing all the right things, and congratulations! Your life will never be the same again (in a good way = )

Good luck!

Congratulations!

If you had known you wouldn't have had the wine, but people have been drinking wine for millenia. Unless you were partying like a Hollywood star, I wouldn't be too concerned.

As for tampons and the pool, who cares? Your baby is protected by its amniotic sack and mucus plug. Pool water never reaches it and as for tampons, you can still have sex when pregnant, so I don't understand the concern about the tampon.

Start taking your vitamins now. If you have been eating decently, you are unlikely to be low on much. Besides, lots of people have gotten pregnant when they weren't planning too.

Congratulations on your new baby.

hi. congrats?! I wouldn't worry too much about the wine since you didn't know. that's how most kids come about anyway, don't you know!. I'd be more concerned about the tampon use. but don't berat yourself to much for that either. light spotting can be common. I'd try to get in to your OB as soon as possible and schedule a sonogram. let them know about the tampon use. the sonogram will help you set the timeline and check things out.
Just remember,all pregnancies are planned, even if its not by us.
Good luck
M.

Hi am new ... I was kind of like you with my first, had surgery had really weird peroids was told never could have kids and three months of not knowing I was I went in for a follow up on my surgery to find out I was 3 months preg.. so don't be hard on your self. Our bodys are very strange at times.. good luck. I am a mother of four.

If you are very anxious about "what you did" while thinking you were not pregnant and now you were, then go to an obstetrician who specializes in high risk pregnancies. I go to Physicians for Women and LOVE the female obstetricians. The men seem quite competent and nice, but if you want to hear just what you need to hear to understand the chances of harm and "non-harm" to the fetus, ask the females.

Unsolicited: Accept what is in the past, knowing you did follow your principles (just 'cause the tests didn't inform you correctly, you DID take the tests; used their results AND supporting body evidence to determine your decisions). Continue to trust yourself to continue to make the correct decisions for you and your family with future events and results. Let go of what you cannot change, Love what you have.

I'm sure most of us mothers indulged in a bit of wine, overdid the exercise, and were lazy with the vitamins or something similar before we knew we were pregnant. If you are pregnant, just relax in knowing that many, many mothers out there have done the same before we knew we were pregnant and our babies came out perfect! Good luck and I hope everything turns out in way that makes you happy!

I wouldn't worry about the wine, tampons or pool. Fetuses are pretty resilient. So congratulations! It sounds like you were considering a third at some point. We never know what life brings. It's all an adventure. Stop beating yourself up and enjoy.

My son was a surprise and I had no idea that I was pregnant because it was a one time indiscretion while I was switching pills. My son his happy and healthy and I started taking my vitamins faithfully when I found out. I am sure that everything will be fine and while the wine was not great at least you werent getting tanked on vodka and I dont know why tampons would be a problem if we can still have sex while pregnant. I come from a family of three kids and loved it!

I think you will be fine and don't beat yourself up just because you had some extra wine or used a tampon. You are in the early stages so I don't believe you have done any harm but now that you know you can start doing the right things again.
Plans for you and the family have changed again so now you are having number 3 so just be happy and hope to have a very healthy baby number 3. :)
God Bless

I had my third at about your age and it was not really planned. Let me tell you, he is a joy and I can't imagine our family without him!
Don't worry about not taking care of yourself those first couple months--although worrying _is_ a part of motherhood, isn't it? I believe the fetus is able to protect itself to a certain point--afterall, in the past there were no pregancy tests. I had a small glass of wine from time to time during my second and third pregnancies with no problem.
The important thing is that NOW you know and you can start doing the right things to have a healthy pregnancy. Don't worry about the things you can't change.
So CONGRATULATIONS!!! I wish you all the best!

MM:

CONGRATULATIONS!!

DO NOT berate yourself or demean yourself! You really didn't know. Embryo's are VERY resilient and really, a couple of glasses of wine is NOT a huge deal! (just not a whole bottle in one night! :) )

If you are still bleeding - if it's bright red, let them know, if it's "rusty" it's just slough off. But still let them know.

Everything will work out! Don't fret!

Take care!