invites when out on july 4th so people will have them for about a week tomorrow, BUT the party is this SUNDAY. my bad for sending them out late, I did hear back from 3 of the 12 But DH is pressuring me to CALL all the rest tonight Tues. I say wait until Thurs. we will get a big enough cake and one of us is running out for pizza so we don't really need need need a head count but both of us woudl rather know what we will be dealing with.
so anyone refute that a follow up call s??
and when to make them???
yes you are right, I put them in the mail box the 3rd so people might not have gotten them until friday.
these are friends from school not family.
I don't have their email so evites is out, I'm not really into that but i guess maybe i need to get with it. I do text now and put my number down for that thinking it would help people that didn't want to actually speak to me.
I did forget to put an rsvp date but because it was so late getting them out i was rushed.
This party wasnt' meant to be casual it's just turning into a mess :)
thanks for the opinions so far keept hem coming.
I would go ahead and start calling. I usually ask people to rsvp a week before the party (I usually send out invites 3-4 weeks ahead), and then on the rsvp date, I start e mailing or calling. It's a huge pet peeve when people don't rsvp
Call Thursday, Not a big deal. If your husband wants to know tonight, give him the list and he can call.
I might call (I disagree that no response means they're not coming... no response just means they are being rude by not letting you know what their plans are. Pet peeve of mine, that people mistakenly think not calling means anything else.... ), but I wouldn't call before Thursday.
You said the invites went out on July 4th. Um... I don't think so. The mail doesn't run on federal holidays. You might have dropped them in a mailbox on the 4th, but they weren't going anywhere until the 5th. And that likely means that nobody received them earlier than Friday or Saturday. If you must call, wait until Thursday or Friday.
That's my opinion.
I locked in a contract today for the cheer squad of 26. Per the contract, I can't lessen my # of attendees but I can increase. So I locked 15 and I'm 90% sure the coaches will make it appear mandatory although we are footing the bill personally as a team building gesture.
So by July 23, I have to give Top Golf ( great place) a number. Then 1 week before the event I lock in and pay the remainder.
You bet I'll be making phone calls to cheerleaders and parents due to my $25/person deal.
I wish people would respect an RSVP request and realize someone is paying, namely... Me!!
Depending on the number of guests you have planned and the food Call and get a good # of replies.
Sounds like Thursday would be a good day to make those calls to me.
Im with you, Thursday is good but I would definitely call the rude people and ask so you have enough food.
i would call and bring up that you know you sent the invitations late, so you wanted to double check. Not that you did anything wrong, but it is easier for me to do something like this to help avoid making the person feel like the slacker for not calling to RSVP.
Also, your party sounds very casual. Would you consider sending an evite? that way you can see who viewed your evite and you are able to send reminders.
edit: maybe you did send an electronic email. i assume you snail mailed them.
On a side note, I have gotten several invitations that request for 'regrets only.' This would drive me crazy. I like to know the head count.
edit: I'm am sure it will be great. i didn't mean to offend if i called it casual. I have had mom's call during the summer for a b-day party who i did not know very well. i thought it was nice (one didn't mail or evite, just the call).
Follow up calls have become necessary, unfortunately. I say call on Thursday!
I hope you have a fantastic party!!
I vote for Thursday. I just think that Wed is the day you usually need to reply by for a Saturday, so Thursday by Sunday.
Whatever date you select, please send an email or call those that you haven't heard from before the weekend. A few weeks ago, my daughter went to a neighbor's bday party, and she was the only guest who came. She had a great time, and her friend seemed to have fun too. However, her parents were hurt, and her friend probably felt bad too. Plus, her parents were paying a lot of money for the party. I felt bad about that, even though the girls had fun. The host parents shouldn't have to follow-up on RSVP's, as it is rude not to respond. Unfortunately, there are people who are rude and/or forgetful.
I wouldn't call. Chances are you'll hear from some more. From my experience, people like to wait till the last minute - rude but true! I would plan for all 12; worst case, you'll have leftovers!
Next time, on your invites put a cutoff date: RSVP by xx/xx/xx. That way it pushes more people to call. NOT ALL, but more!! Unfortunately, people will continue to be rude and inconsiderate no matter what!!
Good luck!
I'd call Thursday. I recently scheduled a party for my daughter's birthday, and we used Evite. I sent a reminder email 3 days before the party, and got a bunch more responses. People get the invite, set it on the desk, and forget about it. A reminder helps, I think.
When did you ask them to reply by? If you ask for an RSVP by today, call tomorrow. If you asked for a reply by tomorrow, call Thursday.
unless you're talking about family i'd say don't call...take the no rsvp's as no's. plan for a couple extra just "in case" people show up who didn't rsvp....but no i wouldn't call. when you put rsvp on an invitation that puts it in their lap....no response means they're not coming.
I would not call. i would just plan that everyone was coming. The invites probably did not reach anyone earlier than probably Friday and a lot of people I knew were either out of town or very busy with a lot parties not that that would be true for everyone.
