I find most women petty and annoying....maybe because many of them (at least where I live in the OC) are so self-absorbed that they STILL have tons of drama, even though they have NO jobs, send their kids to school and have 10x more free time that I could imagine. It's the drama that kills me. I have enough interesting things going on in my life that I don't need to hear about their made-up drama.
Immature or not, you don't have to explain yourself to other people. I have people I know that I have met at the park for play dates, etc and when they invite me again, I may or may not go. I do not explain myself. I am busy with my career, homeschooling 3 kids, being pregnant AND trying to be a wife, as well.
Melanie said that it's childish, but in reality, IF you were to be honest with most of them, they would be offended and then gossip about you for months since they have nothing better to talk about.
I have a "friend" who lives out of state. When she has come to visit (I won't allow it anymore) - they eat ALL of my food (and never offer to use that food to make enough for us), they have been on unempolyment for 2 years (even though both of them can work, but they make more on unemployment doing nothing) AND have not paid their mortgage for 2.5 years, but are still living in their home. Their kids are brats and sneaky - their 12 year old daughter stole $2 from my son's piggy band and I caught her. I can't even imagine how I would start THAT conversation....so I don't. When they want to come out and visit, I tell them that I can't afford to have guests right now. So, yeah, I blow them off. Oh well. Do you really think that talking to them is going to end well? I have managed to not speak to her on the phone and rarely e-mail her, but as a response to her e-mails. She asked to be at the birth of my baby and I told her probably not.
I don't get offended....ever, even though, maybe I should. If someone doesn't like me, then I'm ok with that. I am me and if someone doesn't like it, then it's their problem. I have a couple of friends - I'm all about quality vs. quantity. If someone stopped calling, then fine. People change and life goes on.