Worrying - Dearborn,MI

Yes, although I wouldn't say it is so much guilt, as just wanting them to be happy. I think that is completely normal for people who have good relationships with their parents. With anyone for that matter. It's human nature to want the best for those you care about and when things are going badly, I think most people would worry some.

They key is not letting worry take over your life and keep you from focusing on your immediate family.

My parents are currently experiencing some financial difficulties, while my husband and I are comfortable at the moment, which is a blessing in this economy! I worry about the stress this places on my parents and do whatever I can to help them (when they'll allow - which is RARE). I want them to be happy and as stress free as they possibly can and it bothers me to know they are struggling. But...I wouldn't say that I feel guilty in any way, just sad for what they are going through.

I read this when I was in high school and my 40th reunion is in 2 years so..

Why worry;
You have only two things to worry about either you are sick or you are well,
If you are well nothing to worry about,

If you are sick you have two things to wroory about,
You will either get well or die,

If you get well nothing to worry about,
If you die you have two things to worry about,

You will either go to heaven or hell,
If you go to heaven you have nothing to worry about

If you go to hell you will so damn busy shaking hands with all your friends you won't have time to worry.

Worrying does nothing to help a situation. If you can asses the situation and help then do something. If you can't help then stop worrying.

That's not my particular area of worry, but you may enjoy trying this healthy exercise that helps you question your most difficult thoughts: http://www.thework.com/thework.php. There are videos to watch and free materials to download. I've found it very, VERY helpful.

At some point you have to let that go and concentrate on you and your family's wellbeing. I too have worries. While I am very blessed and things have been going well..my parents are in a difficult situation financially and mentally. My sister is unhappy and the other one is completely stressed out about money. My cousin is going through the divorce from hell and I have some other relatives going through bankruptcy and foreclosures. I am close with all of them so it is distressing. Be as supportive as you can be but no you shouldn't feel guilty.

Yike, really, that's normal? Then I must not be normal! =) I don't worry about anything unless it has to do with my husband and the kids. I feel like everyone has their life to live and its up to them on how they do it, I can't really worry about it because of the simple fact, its out of my control. I guess I don't have any advice for you and really I guess you aren't asking for any! I just don't tend to worry. Life is too short and we must not waste it being unhappy. Good luck!

The best way to get rid of/lessen worry and stress is to do something about it.

Now, you may not be able to do anything about your parents marriage. But, you can do something about the worry. Take each of them out individually and listen to them. Don't feel like you need to fix anything, just listen - or, do whatever you think will make YOU feel better about it.

That's really the only thing you can do about worry - figure out what you can do - what action you can take - and then take it. It may not be directly affecting the situation you're worried about, but you can take action to improve the worry.

I do the same thing. I worry alot. My mom is in a bitter/sweet relationship with my stepdad. They are good as "friends" but not as husband and wife.She knows myself and my husband has a pretty good relationship and doesn't seem bother by it. My father has been with one woman once since him and my mom divorced 12 years ago. That relationship didn't work out either,so he's alone. Me and him has some issues and he flipped off at me before about how "yea how supposely you have everything good." He has the money but doesn't have anyone in his life but his martialize things. I guess it makes him feel sad.(Needless to say we still aren't talking.) I felt bad at first for him but it makes me realize how blessed i'm am. I don't know. Its not like I planned everything. It just happened the way it is. Just found my one and only soul mate!! :)