Worried I'm Babying the Baby Too Much

i think the blanket thing is ok for now but the bottle is a little to much what i did with mine is i gave her juice and water in a cup and after she did that i would put milk in her cup during the day and she only had a bottle at nap time and bed time than i went strictly to putting milk in her cup and took her bottles you just have to wein them a little at a time and as far as you sleeping in her room i go through that now with my 20 month old but i don't give in i give her a reciving blanket from when she was a new born and she will hold that and go to sleep with that sometimes she don't like to go in her own bed bed i just let her cry. so you might be giving in to much to her just let her cry herself to sleep i guarentte that she will do it for few minutres and she will get over it and go to sleep

Let her do it, if it isn't too much trouble with you. Why not? She is trying to find control and comfort in this big world that she has entered into. You can talk to her about. Try to find new ways of getting that comfort. But I think if you let it go and let her do it, she'll stop on her own.

R.

Let her have her blankie and bottle. My son is 2.5 and still carry's his blanket around everywhere. We also call him Linus (from peanuts) I am washing that blanket almost everyday. He also still drinks from a bottle at night and for naps. He does not fall asleep drinking it but he wants one before he goes to bed. We brush his teeth and then i lay with him until he is asleep. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Every child is so different.
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My son is almost 3 and he loves his blankie and he has a pacifier. He is allowed to bring them both to the babysitter, but never anywhere else (store, park), it has to stay in the car. As for the bottles, I waited until he was about 26-27 mos. Like the other children mentioned here, he was only allowed milk in a bottle at nap and bedtime. See, my son loves the garbage trucks and when we hear them on Thursday mornings, we go out to see them. So, I started talking to him to prep him for "no more ba bas" and I told him that we were going to give them to the garbage collectors in a couple weeks. The next few Thursdays we went out and watched and I reiterated that we were going to give up the bots. So one day, we heard them coming, and quickly gathered up the bots, placed them in a grocery bag and walked them out. He ACTUALLY handed the bag to the collector, we waved goodbye and that was almost it.
I think we, as parents fear the change more than the kids do. We anticipate the change as being bad because we don't want to hear our kids cry and whine after a long day. I was so surprised that the night of the giveaway, he asked for his 'ba ba' twice and that was it. He went to bed and I was very surprised and pleased that it worked out the way I had hoped. Good luck, I wish the bots or bed were my worst problems now, today he said the "F" word to woman at Target. What to do.....

My daughter drank from a bottle until 2years old, then a sippy cup until 3, then from a cup with a straw. She also had to have a lovey, her blankie, with her all the time. When she started preschool, the teacher let her bring it but she couldn't carry it around with her, the blankie had to stay in her school bag. But if she needed to see or touch it, it was there. She's five now and still likes to bring something with her wherever we go. But now we insist that she leave whatever it is in the car, so that it is safe and will always be waiting for her. As for her sleep habits, sounds pretty age appropriate to me. Just keep trying.
Good luck.
M.

It all depends if you want to sleep with your daughter for the rest of her toddlehood. What happens if you get pregnant and can't hold her like that or sleep in there. You'll have real big problems then. I wouldn't say you are babying her, you are just trying to make her happy and have the closest bond with you posible. But, I think it is really important to establish good sleeping and soothing bahaviors for her own good to make her more confident and independent. She needs to learn to put herself to sleep, that is why she wakes up screaming for you because you were there when she went to sleep. She needs to be in the same conditions when she wakes up as when she went to sleep, it's called positive sleep associations, same goes with carrying blankie around. She should be alowwed to use it at nap and bedtimes but not at play. And, technically bottle is supposed to be weaned by one, but I think itis important to change things slowly and one at a time and give her some choices and control. Your daughter sounds completely normal, who wouldn't want to fall asleep on their mommy? Good luck. N.

Wow, after reading other mom's responses, I'm a little shocked. I can't believe there are so many moms that are willing to put up with these things, ESPECIALLY the sleeping problems. Hasn't the sleeping interfered with your relationship with your husband and your own quality of sleep? That alone would make me want to change something real quick. Although my son doesn't use any special comfort items, I know that's pretty normal with most kids so I wouldn't worry too much about those right now. The sleep is what you should focus on first. Then if you want, start working on the other things, one at a time.

I don't know if you've read any sleep books or not. I know there are some good ones out there. I've only read "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" and it's worked pretty well for me. My son stopped using a binky at 9 months and finally slept through the night - usually between 12-13 hours straight. He doesn't need milk before bed, and I prefer it that way because then he isn't as uncomfortable with wet sheets in the morning and if I give him some there's more chance he'll wake up in the middle of the night and need a diaper change. If that happens, he has a harder time falling back asleep on his own. He still is soaked plenty when he wakes up in the morning so I know he's getting enough liquids throughout the day.

Find a sleep book with advice you feel comfortable with and good luck!