Wondering If I Should Be Upset or Not???

Hopefully it was just an "off" day for that worker, id still be upset knowone likes to see there little one upset and ignored. maybe let it go this once but if you notice ti a 2nd time id call the supervisor/

I would be livid. You are not overreacting and should call the daycare and bring the issue up with the director. If that girl wasn't paying attention, she had no way of knowing if your daughter was upset that you had left or if she had managed to fall and hurt herself. Either way, I would want a more attentive provider caring for my child.

Unless this is a habit of hers I do think the other lady should have tried something. If they've tried that in the past with her then I'd understand why they just let her go. That's the only thing that seems to work with your child. I'd be ticked off as a mother so your feelings are normal. If you don't say something would you be okay with it knowing that they will do it again? I'd tell them what you observed and ask them why they didn't tend to her shortly after you left up to the five minutes. It's hard to mention something but if you don't you may always wonder how your child is being cared for in situations like this.

I think you have a right to be upset. These teachers are being paid to care for your child, not just watch them care for themselves. You pay big bucks at a daycare center and you pay for that service. If they lack the common sense that mothers have which is to comfort a child given that specific situation, then perhaps they need to find work elsewhere. I used to drop my child off with the cook, because the cook would get my daughter involved in something else, therefore taking the attention off of me, so the departure wasn't so traumatic on either of us. Then, the cook would drop her off in her room. You could try and indicate to the teacher that you need help...perhaps the gal wasn't picking up the clues, however obvious they were. If it continues, you should bring it up to the director. Perhaps the director could just have a conversation with this gal and just mention to her that she needs to be more personable, and that means gently intervening when parent/child are having problems leaving each other. Good luck.

I would have been upset too. I am a daycare provider and I know part of my job is not only to comfort the children and make those transitions as smooth as possible for the child, but also for the parent.....there is enough guilt involved for most parents in the dc situation, lets not add extra worry and anxiety, frustration and some being PO'ed to the mix.

I have never worked in a center so am a little naive of the heirachy in those places, but I would definately make a call or take a moment for a personal and private discussion with the right person about what happened and your concern over it. I attend collage with alot of younger gals who do work in centers etc and I usually do not like the stories and comments I hear (in general) from them regarding their feelings about parents or situations or even the children.

caregivers are supposed to be advocates for your children too...but in this instance you need to deal with it...good luck!

I think your feelings are quite justified. I would bring it up to the director.

Your feelings are completely justified. You are your children's only advocate!!!!!

I would think it would be natrual for the teacher that wasnt tending kids to come over and soothe her, especially if it is abnormal for her to behave. Even if it were just a few minutes of hugging, that is what your kids need in the morning if they are having a hard morning. Bring it up with the director, not accusing, but just to point out what happened. If she is professional, she will thank you for your comment.

I had the same issue when my daughter was in daycare centers. I felt like my daughter was just a number and noone cared. I would watch to see if they would feed my daughter breakfast and sometimes they would act like they weren't going to so I'd walk back in the room and make a fuss. I'd also go in on my lunch break and go into her classroom it'd be nap time or just any time and not find a adult in sight for over 5min. sometimes. I had many many other issues too but I'll stop at that.

I would bring this to the director's attention and if it doesn't change remove your child. They are suppose to comfort our children and especially when were in a hurry to get to work.

My daughter is in kindergarten now and it's such a relief to be done with crappy childcare. I still have to use our school's before/after school program but I have no problems with it thank goodness.

Nope, you're not overacting. Someone should have tried to distract Morgan.
-Jo

i would think the teacher would have had enough sense to try and help your child. i would be a little upset too!!!!!!

I'd be a bit upset. As a daycare provider I try to take the children from their parents to avoid them getting upset. Obviously the girl staring off into space did not have her head into work, with kids you have to be into that job at all times. I would say something to a director. Maybe they need more training for their staff. Hugs to you both that is hard to be in that situation as well as watching it. I hope both of you have a better day!

Just my two sense. I am guessing that your daughter goes to a group center. Well I have worked in those type of settings and let me tell you, in a three year old room there are 10 children to 1 adult. I am sorry but that is too many children for one person to handle especially at that age. This is why I opened a home daycare, where the children can get more indivdual attention that they need. Plus in a group daycare, most are not very educated. They take a couple of classes and this is suspose to qualify them for teaching. My background is a 2 yr degree in early childhood.
So to answer your question, yes I think you have every right to be upset about how the teacher responded to your child. It is just common sense to go to a child when they are crying or if you see a child not interacting to other child, to help facilate them in play etc.

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C.

Yes, you should be upset. I am sure you are paying a large fee for your day care. You may find that some day care providers are not very nurturing. There seems to be a large turn over at day cares. My sister used to work for a large day care in the inner city. She would tell me stories that the day care teachers would engage in conversations with each other rather than doing activities with the children. You might want to talk with the day care supervisor regarding your situation. They should have tried to engage your child and comfort her when she was upset. Hope this helps.