Why Is It So Much Easier for Guys . . . (JFF)

For the same reason planning a wedding can be a full time job for months for a woman. Meanwhile, all that is required of the guy is to go for a fitting at the tux shop. Probably at the shop she chose, to try on the tux she picked out. And he'll probably be late anyway.
If you trusted him to get the card and gift wrap, you could delegate it. Unfortunately, they just aren't wired to be helpful in these situations. My guy would come back with a birthday card and baby shower gift bag.

for M. finding the dress would take forever (all of the cute dresses have no straps...how do those girls wear bras??I don't think strapless bras would work for M.) unless I got lucky, but I get showered, dressed, and ready in minutes

Previous posts have it down - YOU are doing the gift, wrap, card etc. How come? Husband wears same suit every time, doesn't have to do his hair or shave his legs or do his nails (probably...) and is happy to leave everything to you. He will get in the car at the time you tell him (because the responsibility falls to you) and he will go to the church because you will tell him where it is. And he will have a good time because you will be in charge of reminding him of everyone's name.

I laughed out loud at your PS!

Because men can wear the same suit to every wedding they ever attend. Women can't wear a "repeat" dress to multiple weddings. LOL

AND, we also somehow automatically are the ones responsible for all the gift shopping, purchasing and wrapping. My husband's participation with the gift aspect amounts to: Me getting into the car (that he has so kindly backed out of the garage and is sitting in waiting for me, who is not as fast as he would like) and him turning to me and asking, "Did you put the gift in the car?" (eye roll)

ETA: Ooohh Diane B. I totally forgot the name thing. Yep. I have to refresh him in the car. It is like high school, and he is cramming for a test the last 5 minutes of the car ride.

The Today Show suggested this the other day for a summer wedding: a nice and simple basic white tee-shirt paired with a very nice, long skirt and dressy sandals. Put on a charming, chunky necklace and sparse earrings, sweep your hair back, and some light, fresh make-up and you're done.

Because most guys don't care...

A "If the shirt is wrinkled, just don't take off the jacket" attitude.

And maybe a bit of procrastination in there as well in this case (mine too sometimes). But a guy would just stop at the local pharmacy near the church and grab a card... and wrap maybe, but why not just throw it in a gift bag... don't some of those pharmacy's sell them complete with paper to stuff in and a ribbon to attach?

Good luck!

They don't require as much preparation, AND they can tune out everything/everyone else while they do it. We not only have more to do to be purdy, we have to factor in things like tending to the kids and packaging up whatever needs to go with us.

it's the makeup thing for me. i can get a dress on in a relatively reasonable amount of time, but the warpaint seems to take forever. maybe that's just because it's summer, and i blessedly never have to wear any.
i'm like you, though, sistah. even with all day to get ready, i'd still be frantic at the last minute!
khairete
S.

oh man....
Next week my brother is getting married and one of my son's is in the wedding. Plus my cute baby is getting cuted up, my other son is going to be all dressed up, and I need to get my self all dressed up with makeup and hair! My husband is also in the wedding, but he is just putting on his suit.
Guess who is going to be getting herself and three kids ready?
L.

Ladies are cute! It takes time to get there. Enjoy the ride!!!

Listen to Beyonce's If I were a Boy as you get dressed
Good luck :) have fun at the wedding!

LOL

I would wear the same suit for several weddings and really don't understand why a woman cant also. Unless a dress has a stain, why not?

A rose is just as beautiful if you use the same vase twice.

Vanity, thy name is woman. LOL

Good luck to you and yours.

It's even worse when you factor in the kids. About the time I got all put together, something messy would occur.

I finally figured out that I don't need to bring the gift with me to the wedding. It's just one more thing for the family to pick up and haul to some other place. Now I shop online and have the gift wrapped and sent to their mom's house where I know someone will be home and I can track the package to make sure it got there. One less thing to worry about.

LOL. I'm cracking up at this post. I had a boyfriend once that took longer to get dressed than I ever could which really annoyed the heck out of me. Also one of the major reasons we didn't make it.

My husband gets dressed faster than I do. I just need to know what I'm wearing the day before to create some form of competition.

Relax. Find a dress, get the card and wraping paper by 2pm at the latest. Have the gift wrapped by no later than 3 pm. You should be able to put on the dress and leave by 4pm giving you 1 hour to get to the wedding venue. I hope that is enough time.

You should have plenty of time. Just relax, afterall it isn't your wedding but do try to get there ontime and have fun or make your husband pick up the card and wrapping paper which would be two less things for you to concern yourself with.

Everything is easier for guys. Dinner, they just need to walk to the table and sit down. Peeing in the bush, whip it out and good to go. Getting ready in the morning, shower, shave and dress. Shopping, buy the first thing they see, no matter how much it costs. Making a baby...well, you know, the easy, fun part. If there is such thing as reincarnation, I hope I get to be a guy in the next life.

Part of the problem is that women are expected to paint the face and glue the hair and accessorize. Also we also seem to willing take on the task of finding and wrapping gifts. Men don't or won't do any of these things. And my apologies if this comes across as rude, but: Why did you wait until the last minute to get a card and a dress!? Surely you knew it was coming so you must have had time to buy the dress and a card and wrap a gift before today?

Because they swap out a tie and they have a whole new outfit! Add to it the simple fact that suits are more "forgiving" and can accommodate a few extra pounds and you have the ultimate "universal" clothing item! They look "dolled-up" as soon as they put it on!

We have my husband's HS reunion in a couple of weeks. I will be taking my lunch hour to get my hair and nails done and probably leave work early to get "ready". The hubs? Run in, take a quick shower, potty, dressed and ready to go!

Ugghh.... I hate it when we are going somewhere and my husband calls on his way home from work. Be ready and have the kids ready when I get home so all I have to do is change. Like today, we have a Birthday party to go to, but he works until 3 the party starts at 1:30, obviously I need the kids ready before he gets here. And then again, all he has to do is get changed!!!!! Has he forgotten, I have to do my hair makeup shave my legs, sit relax, get up again (becuase I'm 9 mos pregnant and on my feet for long kills my back) try so desperately to get my sandels on by myself which is usually unsuccessful. Pack the bags, pack the camera, pack snacks.... and then get the kids ready!!!!! And how dare he ask, did you get everything?? Oh that just drives me nuts. I've been a mom for 7 years now, I think I know what I need to get don't second guess me otherwise you pack the freaking bag.... oh it just aggravates me that he does it have so much easier.

Oh and speaking of having it so much easier, he asks me last night "why are you so moody???" OMG.... Do you not see this huge basketball attached to my back along with the extra 40 pounds that's going with it.

I'll bet you went out and bought the gift too.

Bites, doesn't it! Hope you are having a good time at the wedding and reception!

Dawn

Because a suit is a suit (for the most part - all dark suits look similar).

For me anyway, it's figuring out the dress, shoes, purse, hair, eyebrows, nails, makeup, gift, etc. It's not like at 4:00 I can start thinking, "hmmmm, what should I wear???" Although, I may change clothes once or twice...lol

Well, technically you could do the same if you hadn't waited until the last minute. Most people know ahead of time about the wedding and have already shopped, bought card and gift, and wrapped gifts prior to the actual wedding day. Had you done this, you could slip your dress on at 4:30, grab the card and wrapped gift, and head out the door. I'm only saying this because I would be doing the same as you...LOL!!!! Good luck and have fun! =)