Why Does Everyone Expect Me to like Babies/kids?

Oh Nizzy you need to relax a little! Some newborn babies really are WEIRD looking! My neice had these crazy dimples on the apples of her cheeks and a huge mouth...she looked WEIRD! She is a gorgeous 18 y/o now so thankfully she grew into her mouth.

SCG...I completely understand! I like my kids most of the time, but other peoples kids get on my nerves.

Thanks for being honest!

I think it's perfectly normal. Why would anyone want some stranger puking on them - I don't see that it being a baby makes it better. When I was 6 there was a little girl (Pamela, I still remember her name) - she looked like a little pig blowing bubbles out her nose constantly - for years - it grossed me out even then. I am way more able to be polite about other people's kids now that I have one but still find indoor children's birthday parties horrible. When someone offers to 'let you' hold their baby, just say 'no thank you'. I don't see that any more explanation is needed.

Nizzy, are you really serious?

I totally understand! I have a 2 year old and a 14 month old that I adore...but I have no interest in holding or babysitting or whatever other people's kids. lol

First off...I think thats awful and extremely inconsiderate! Why would you say such a thing about an innocent child? What makes you think you yourself are any better? Or even your kid's are better then any other person's child? I quite frankly feel sorry for you and your way of "thinking". How dare you say that your friend's child is "weird" looking? All children are GOD'S creation and i'm sure someone has probably thought the same about you when you were a child. If you don't want to carry someone's child then politely tell them. But believe me, this is ALL going to bite you back in the rear. Your going to have birthday parties, etc. for your children and nobody is going to want to have their children around you OR you kids because of how judgemental you are. Again, some things are better off left un-said. What an awful thing to say-think about another child. Soooo wrong. And again, I feel sad for you.
Sorry, but thats how I feel after reading the comment made about the child looking weird.
Add On to Response-I did'nt say that you expected to have anyone wipe booger's or whatever off your kid's...And "I" am definately NOT the judgemental one here, you posted your question on a public website and so I responded, And YES, by calling a child "weird" looking is being judgemental on how that child was born-created. My question for you is what do you do when you see a "mentally" challenged child? Do you judge them too? Very sad. "Even hatefull judgemental adults too" So I take it you were refferring to yourself? No judging here, like I said, I responded to your public post :)

I think you and I could become fast friends. I totally get where you are coming from.

Just because a kid makes the boogers, throw up, poop, or spit up doesn't make it any less palatable! I mean, if another adult wiped his or her boogers on my sleeve or threw up a little on my shoes I would be entirely grossed out too - why do the rules change for an "innocent little baby"? Are their bodily fluids somehow holier?!? And would anyone let an adult wipe ketchup-y hands all over them? Heck no!

So yes, other moms do feel this way. When I drop my kid off at daycare there is one little girl who seems to gravitate to me - you know, kind of like how the cat always seems to find out which house guest hates cats or is allergic to cats and goes and sits on their head? Anyhow, her hair is always tangled, fingernails always dirty, always in dirty clothes, her parents smoke so she reeks, and has a 'stripper name' (yes, I know I'm being shallow and superficial but it is all part of the package). She always wants to come over to me and hug on me and it totally creeps me out!

You're not alone - I totally get you!

I usually just pretend to have a cold or say i'm just getting over a cold, so i don't want to get the baby sick :)

I absolutely HATE babysitting and I really don't like hanging out with a bunch of kids and babies that aren't mine either. I understand where you're coming from haha...i appreciate your honesty too!

I feel the same way about dogs. You won't ever find me gushing about a dog. I would change 10 poopy diapers from other peoples babies before I would pick up one pile of dog poop. But, I don't know what to tell ya...because I don't own a dog. People usually get the hint that because I don't own a dog, I don't want to hold their dog, pet their dog or babysit their dog.

I've heard people who don't want/have children talk like you but never ones with children. I totally follow along with everything your saying though, just because you love your own children doesn't mean you have to like others. But for me you draw the line when you say you won't even go visit a friend's newborn baby because it looks weird and you wouldn't be able to hide your facial expressions. Personally, I think almost all newborns are weird looking, but they still are precious.

Oh and one more thing I don't like kids with snotty noses and ketchup faces coming up to me either. But the difference with me is if I at least know them a little I won't hesitate to grab them a tissue. LOL

My kids are never allowed to come over to any of your houses!

Lol!!

You're not the only one who feels this way. I know quite a few moms who are the same way. I love my daughter, but am not a big fan of kids. The thought of Chuck E Cheese on a Saturday afternoon makes me want to pop a Xanax.

we all think our own children are the cutest best kids ever....... or else we would probably eat our own young.

Yep - that's me!
I love my own child and pretty much can't stand other peoples kids.
There are a few exceptions, but not many.
Everyone thinks their child is adorable - so when pictures get passed around, smile and say "How cute!".
If I have to look at their pictures, they have to look at mine - but I try to stop before eyes start glazing over.
(But we all know our own kid is the REAL cutie pie and we feel sorry for other parents with funny looking kids.)

okay, your post made me laugh out loud and now my 5 year old wants to know why! You are right, some kids ARE wierd looking! And, just to be honest, I was FUNNY LOOKING at about 12. Geesh, good thing I met my husband later! So, here's what I do when I meet a baby that I am not too sure about..."Oh! Hello little one! Welcome to the world!" or "Oh my gosh! I forgot how tiny their feet are!" Then you don't have to lie yet you can still gush over the baby.
I am NOT one of these people though that wont hold a baby. I love kids and have no problem holding them. I DO have a problem with a kid with dried snot on their face and food from god knows when. How hard is it to wipe your kids face?
And, while I think Nizzy was a little quick to judge, she does bring up an interesting point with the birthday parties. How are you going to handle that when your kids get older and want to have friends over to play, to hang out, or go to parties or have your OWN parties?! Something to think about.
It is kind of nice to have friends to swap watching children with. If you don't want to a simple, "No, thanks." will suffice. If they keep pestering you you could just say, "no...thanks!" LOL You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
Good luck.
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I have 2 kids 14 and 4. I love my kids dearly and would give my life for either of them. Personally I hate the park, chuck e cheese or anywhere else that I will be sorrounded by a bunch of kids. My kids know the boundaries and don't cross them. Other peoples kids- not so much. My sister was so pissed when she had my neice 11 months after I had my baby because she was living with me and thought it was a automatic that since I was a sahm I would keep her baby when she went back to work after 3 wks. Um no. Yes she's my neice but I had my hands full with my baby I wasn't gonna be mom to hers too. My neice is 3 now and she's still mad at me that she has tto take her to daycare. Hello! My kids get on my nerves why tha hell do I want to handle your whining snotty kid? Call me what you want! I take good care of my kids but im not a lovey dovey person. Period! Im with you honey!

I'll be honest and say I've never heard of anyone like you before.

I generally like kids, there are some icky ones, but I blame that on their parents. I tend to steer cleer of dirty kids.
And I HATE babysitting! My kids are enough work, I dont want to take care of anyone elses.

I'm one of those mom's too!!!

It's got to be a really close friend or family member for me to hold their little one!!!

And as far as saying no... The best one is, 'I've been around some germy germs and don't want to share.' You're being honest... We're always around germy germs with toddlers! They don't need to know that it's not illness germs.

It's just part of the (cough, outdated) premise that as a woman you are supposed to want to get married and have kids. We are SUPPOSED to be mothers and if we don't love children, there is something intrinsically wrong to us.

Personally, I find it refreshing when people can admit that they do not to want to be Queen Mother to the whole world and live within the perimeters that we are comfortable with.

You do not have to love children as a whole. Love what you got.

Anyways I would politely say, no I'm happy holding the baby I got already and reach to rub you're apparently aching back if necessary. Hopefully, they'll get the hint that you're not interested.

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I understand your feelings- we don't need to like other peoples' children. But I do take offense when you say a child is "weird" looking......aren't we out of the 50's when doctors would take kids with down syndrome away and put them in institutions? Are we in a country where when we see a child that doesn't look "pretty" that we throw them away? really, weird looking? that's a bit rude. maybe the child has a rare syndrome. maybe they have an interesting combination of facial characteristics from their parents.

I'm not a kid/baby person. I just don't offer to hold other people's kids... when they ask if I want to I say, "No thanks." But I still trade off babysitting and don't mind being around kids.. but in general, not a kid person.

I'm not as extreme as you are, but I'm really not an "other people's kids type person". My idea of a hellish job would have to be a preschool teacher (so glad there's people out there that do it, but so glad its not me!). I love my kids dearly and they were all very much wanted. I also have a small group of friend's kids that don't bother me, some of them I even like. I do LOVE babies though! I love holding them and their bodily fluids don't bother me in the slightest. However, I'm with you on boogers a poopy diapers from random toddlers...GROSS! I have 4 kids (including my stepson), so I can totally sympathize with you in that people always expect me to ADORE all kids!...and I don't. I also find myself very easily aggravated with kids who are the same age as one of mine, but can't do the same things that mine can (i.e. put on their socks & shoes, open a juice box on their own, wipe their own behind, etc.). I always think to myself...I know someone your age CAN do it, so why aren't you? Don't get me wrong, I'm not mean to other people's kids, I just don't like to surround myself with them a lot.

OMG!!!! hahahaha this was so funny because a friend of mine and me were talking about this the other day!!! We both have kids and we joke about hating other ppls kids. We only love our own kids.

I think a lot that has to do with it is other children get on my last nerve and I cannot do anything about it.

for example if my kid is saying mommy mommy mommmy mommmy I can say ( HEY!!! if you say mommy one more time your going to get it) haha can't really say that to the little kid in the store who I don't know. Kids also really gross me out. Well kids that are not mine. I am such a clean freak I cannot stand to see a little kid with dirty ears!!! What really gets me is if the little kid rubs his hand over their runny nose then puts that same hand on your knee or tries to grab your hand. ewww... I have already instilled this in my 4 yr old. That we blow our nose with tissue not our hands and we wash our hands when we are done. there are other things that he does that is just like me but the funniest is when he knows he is going to sneeze he yells "baby wipe get me a baby wipe"

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

what annoys me is when people put thier 2 yr old on the phone to talk to me. nothing interesting about .....
my sil: say hi to your aunt T..
baby: says nothing at all.
me: baby, baby are you there? can you hear me? baby, put your mom back on. bye bye baby

My husband's cousin has solved the holding-the-baby problem very nicely. When he's around a baby at a family function, and someone gets that look in their eye and holds the baby out toward him, he just holds up his hands in that "stop!" motion and says (in a nice voice) "No, thanks, I don't hold other people's babies." And since it's just his policy, no one thinks it's rude,
As for the weird-looking baby, remember that pictures don't always tell the whole tale. Lots of babies are kind of funny looking, that doesn't mean they're not cute.
I don't think kids with schmutz all over their faces are particulary charming, but it's easy enough to nicely ask a preschooler to get a wet paper towel and clean themselves off.

Well I am not a total kid person either, I mean I like them a lot more than you I'll admit!! But I have to remind myself to ask to hold a baby etc, I hold my own but that's about it!! The funny thing is kids are attracted to me like moths to a flame, and I do nothing but give 'em a little hey what's up look and go about my business!! :D Go figure :D Anyway, I think you just have to chill out and throw people who want you to love on their kids a bone you know? You are obviously a person who others care about your acceptance, so just give it to them and gag privately. It is so easy when you see a baby to say "Oh my gosh, how adorable!!" I mean in the grand scheme of things that is a precious, adorable little one, you never said he/she was adorable to you!!;) That's my philosophy anyway, hide you own issues for the sake of others in areas where it will not in any way harm you to do so. People's kids are the dearest things to their hearts so I think you just have to take one for the team on this one girlfriend!! Good luck!!

Haha! I had to reply to this b/c I am with you!!!! I HATE HATE HATE babysitting. I just want to take care of my child who I love w/all my heart and call it good. I hate how people react like you are cold or dewomanize you when you state that you don't really care for little kids. I would find a babysitting job the worlds worst torture!! I just don't have patience for other kiddos. My friend tries to get me to trade off babysitting, my 1 boy in exchange for her 3 boys. NO THANK YOU. Kinda good to see that I'm not the only one!!! Great post!!!

I would just be more up front about it, even with casual acquaintances.

"No, I'd rather not hold your baby" (hint: leave out the weird-looking part).

"Ummm - mom - looks like your kiddo needs a tissue."

It's fine to have boundaries imho. Some people assume that their kiddos are the center of the universe and everyone exists to oooh and ahhh over them. That's a bit arrogant and indicative of our culture.

I'm all for being patient with little ones, though - usually it's the parents who are the problem.

Its ok SCG,, you dont have to like everyone elses kids. Yours are the only ones you need to love. I really like little kids.. babies and toddlers most. Im not crazy about the 5 and 6 year olds who get smart alec and think "youre not the boss of me" and teenagers,, well, I would rather just walk away from them. I did child daycare for 27 years and it certainly wasnt for the money. I just have fun with little kids and they do well with me. Its just not your thing so, YEAH more for me!!! Thanks (o:

Great response to the Judgmental types! It takes all kinds to make the world go round. :)

All I was going to say is that I kind of agree. After I had my kids, if I wasn't holding them or wiping their noses, I really didn't care to hold yours, no offense! Not that I wouldn't hold a baby or wipe another kids nose if needed, but doesn't mean I live and breath to do it. It definitely is different after you have one or two...

Good luck with the new one!

I am the same way! I've always HATED kids I still do. I actually loathe them. I never ever wanted to have kids or anything to do w/them or anyone else's for that matter. Just the very thought of a kid bothering me or grossing me out is just vile & disgusting & disturbing to me. I did finally want one of my own so I did eventually have one & can 'tolerate' babies a bit more but I do NOT like people expecting me to 'ooo' & 'ahhh' & coochie coochie coo their babies or toddlers or kids for that matter. I have NO idea why parents or grandparents think that every woman 'should have babies'. That's what most of my older relatives say to me. "You're not a woman unless you have kids!" Can you believe that! UH NO! Sticky fingers, spitup, picking the nose & wiping it on anything...including ME...smeared baby food on the face, coming at me w/a snotty runny nose all the while sneezing & snot spraying out everywhere...not to mention a filthy dirty, STINKING car..filled w/smushed crackers or some sort of snack or spilled drink embedded in the upholstery & the SMELL that all cars of baby or toddler parents seem to have...DISGUSTING! NAUSEATING! And that's a smell that never seems to go away...EVER. And people wanna know why I didn't want to have kids or be around them! I'm a total germaphobe...do NOT come near me w/o washing your hands & face & w/o clean clothes on! Do NOT come near me if you have head lice, body lice or mouth herpes (aka cold sores/fever blisters)...that is NOT something I want. Do NOT come near me, period! I do NOT want to talk to you, I do not care about what you may have to garble undecipherably to me about. I do not want to hold you, hug you, kiss you or pick you up! Stay AWAY from me! I also hate it when parents will just think it's just SOOOO cute when a baby has food all over its mouth and then wanna take photos of it! I recently went to my cousin's baby's first birthday & the kid had it's own little cake & the baby just stared at it while people expected her to just smash into it, grabbing it like some kids do. Well, she didn't so what'd THEY do??? They took the cake & smashed it all over her! GRRROSS! I just about puked. The kid just stared at them like she was saying "What the heck are you doing??!" Then there's the infants that get their noses & mouths suctioned out, I'm ready to puke just thinking about that! Just the very thought of snot & baby puke just makes me wretch...even more so hearing the suctioning noise that bulb makes then they blow it out on something...a double puke waiting to happen on my part. As a cashier in my past, a stranger in my line was having trouble getting into her purse so instead of putting the kid she was holding back in the shopping cart, she just looks at me & says "Here, would you hold the baby for a second..." Didn't even ask if I would, just shoved the baby at me over the counter. I got baby slobber all over me...again GROSS! I was holding it, rather stiffly, out away from me, obviously disgusted by all this, the mom didn't care! I had to excuse myself afterwards to go wash the slobber off me! The nerve of some ppl automatically assuming it's okay to do stuff like that! I told my supervisor about it, she was surprised it happened too. She even agreed w/me that it was gross. I know next time to say "I'm sorry, I'm not allowed to do that!"....So nope, you are definitly not alone on this one!

haha no. ever since i had my son 2 years ago, i've gone from being indifferent to babies to loving them. i even want to open up a daycare. only for little ones though, past the toddler stage, i'm still not thrilled. but i jsut wanted to comment b/c i thought your post was hilarious. lol. i'm sure you're not alone...just be polite and don't pretend-gush and i'm sure others will get the picture.

I will tell anyone that gets the feeling I like kids that I hate other people's kids. It is not that I do hate them but I don't like being put in the position where I must parent them. That can be anything from pulling god knows what from their mouthes to changing diapers.

Thing is, if I discipline my child only the child complains, discipline someone elses oh lord. Same thing with just about everything including pulling god knows what out of their mouth. I will give you no one complains about how you change a diaper but urgh, gross.

I think in the end it is about comfort.

I am so with you! I love my children, doesnt mean I want anything to do with yours, nor do I expect anyone else to want to hold my kids. People do look at you like you have just sprouted a second nose if you say I dont really like kids. I dont know why thats so weird. Not Everyone is in love with kids that arent theirs!

LOL... good luck with that ;) Once you have kids of your own, it's game over!

I am sort of in the middle....I usually am okay with other people's kids as long as they aren't filthy and covered in food. I'm automatically drawn to some babies/kids than others....I used to babysit this little girl who I love SO much that I would honestly adopt her if something happened to her parents! But then I've babysat other kids who I just feel like I'm tolerating. I try to keep my own children groomed and looking cute, it's really not that hard! It takes me 3 minutes to do my daughter's hair into cute little pigtails or something (she's 2) and it makes her look SOOO much better than if I let her crazy mullet hair just go wild. I think children deserve that effort from parents to keep them from looking completely homeless, haha!

To some extent, I think it's very normal. I used to LOVE holding anyone's and everyone's child, but since I've had my own, my interest of other people's children has diminished. I have eyes and heart for my own (and relatives). Some friends have wanted to trade baby sitting, and I've done it. I do enjoy their children limitedly, it just is NOTHING like how I enjoy my children. I don't have the same level of patience with other people's children (though I am always kind, no matter how I feel inside). Other children annoy me more when they do things, whereas if it's my child, I have more patience. I have the mother's love for my own and my love of others seems to have lessened since having my own.

I've talked to many other moms who confess to feel the same way. I'm not saying I don't love other kids, I totally do. But it's WAY different than it used to be. I used to be able to adore and oogle over other babies. I just don't feel that anymore, except with my own...and a few others.

Other babies puking on me, that's gross. Mine puking on me, not very gross. Poopy diapers - mine kids, I'm okay with. Other people's babies, kinda gross!

Large rooms of screaming kids don't really bother me. If I were in charge of all the screaming babies, then it definitely would!

Anyway, from my observations and talking to other parents, there are varying degrees of these types of feelings. I think nature makes us want to love and protect our own, and so we kind of lose the focus on other kids and focus on our own. That's not to say I can't or don't love other people's kids. I totally do. It's just DIFFERENT than it used to be! I would say I love children as a whole, but my focus is on mine. And, I love children a lot more when their parents are there taking care of them, and I don't have to do it...but I LOVE watching and caring for my own.

Oh my gosh! You sound exactly like me. I love my kids and was thrilled at the prospect of motherhood and having children. I like my friend's kids - to a point. But other than that I just don't like most kids. I tend to hold babies because that's what people expect me to do. I;ll offer to watch them in the short term while mom goes and gets food, or goes to the bathroom but I'm even more grateful when mom comes back. I cringe whenever my kids get invitations to Chuck E Cheese. I can't stand it there. I don't take food from my own kid's hands let alone other people's and I'm the last person to offer to babysit. Now don't get me wrong I have traded baby sitting dates but I don't offer to watch them just because I want to. I will visit the hospital when friend's have kids but I tend to smile and stand by the wall with my hands in my pockets. I love hanging out with my friends and my kids have made some great friends by doing that but I will always hesitate to say I like all kids.

Love it...I'm the same way. Well, I dont' think there's a nice way to say, no thanks...Don't need a buger kiss or a small finger poked in my eye. B/c the parents will take offense to it...So you either hide or take it. Good luck!

Tee hee...I have felt your pain.
I ADORE my nieces and nephew, I would take my best friends children in a heart beat if she ever needed me too, or goodness forbid if anything ever happened to her. I have worked as a Nanny and also baby sat in my own home and felt close to the kids under my care...working at La Petite I would spend my breaks in the baby room cuddling sweet cherubs...but for me there is more a certain Type of child...the kind that is sassy or sneaky and thinks they can butt into adults conversations...that totally turns me off. I have more sympathy for children and less patience with the adults in their lives. I assure you there are other moms who feel the same way...maybe not all the time, but at least sometimes.

My husband is this way. He likes our son, our nieces and nephews and that's pretty much it. It's not that he dislikes children, he just doesn't really enjoy spending time with them.

Having said that, he's never rude and would be mature enough to withhold his facial expressions to avoid hurting someone's feelings. If someone asks if you would like to hold the baby, you can say "no" or you could hold the baby for a moment and then hand her back to "use the restroom".

As for the indoor parties, you're going to have to get over that one. Again, my husband hates them, so I take our son and we don't have those types of parties for our son (late May birthday). So, your husband's going to have to handle this job if you can't!

personally im not a baby fanatic myself and everyone thinks i love them and want to hold them and cuddle them.....mmhmm....lol
i just tell the parents that i dont like to hold babies until they can set up its a paranoia i have.....i always have toddlers here but i think my family had its own baby boom in 2009 lol its just really babies im not fond of.....nothing personal just i think im past it all now.....i have a 2 year old a 6 year old and plants....jk

I was a babysitter from age 3--my own infant brother. I started getting paid to sit at age 7. I married and had 3 before I turned 24. I was a grandmother at age 40, and took custody of two of my grandkids when they were 3 and 5. I raised them to adulthood. I've helped in times of crisis with my other grandchildren. Now I don't want to be around kids AT ALL! I don't think people understand this, so I try to keep it to myself, but I do understand your aversion to other peoples' kids. I'm done with kids. When asked to participate in a kid thing at church, I decline and say I am an "adults-only" person now. I feel I've done my part.

I am SO with you! Not everyone is a "kid" person, even if they're a parent. I, personally, find most kids annoying.

I love my DD & niece, I like my DD's friends, but that's about the extent of it.

I am not into other people's kids, especially stranger's kids. And, especially when we are a kid's venue with lots of nose picking no manner having rugrats running around.

I don't like being asked to be responsible for other people's kids, and I don't like when kids I don't know randomly talk to me at the park & then won't leave me alone.

I'm not a huge kid lover - I love all dogs but not necessarily kids. But I wonder if you're hanging out with a group of people who don't take good care of their kids. It's very rare that I have a child come up to me with ketchup on his/her face or comes close to wiping boogers on me. I'd be surprised if many people find that attractive - kid lovers or not. I do find it a bit odd that you don't like ANY other kids except family. Our neighbor's children are becoming like our own. The daughter hugs me all the time and I think it's great - she's not dirty... If her nose is running, I give her a tissue. You're not obligated to like other kids etc but you might be missing out on some extra joy. And I agree with one poster that you should see your friend's newborn and focus on something other than "he's so cute!"

Wow! This is intresting, lol. Im not even going to say what I think but the next time you feel that you dont want to carry another persons kid then just flat out tell them. No wrong in being honest as long as its said nicely

I am right there with you. Nothing grosses me out more than parents that let their little ones run around with boogers dripping down. Yuck I see it all the time. I will not go out if my child has a runny nose and if he happens to sneeze I've been known to pull over and clean him asap. Our children are a reflection of ourselves. My son is such a handful (high energy) that I really don't have patience for others children. Loved your honesty. We should all be so honest.

Don't know what everyone else said but I don't like boogers and puke no matter where it came from... It sounds like you are describing some pretty gross kids! (ketchup all over the face, etc.). SO, how bout NORMAL, not-so-dirty kids? Same thought? Cause all your reasons for not liking kids were surrounded by grossness.... At what age do you start liking other people? 8? 10? 18? 21? 30? Just curious cause I'm assuming you have adult friends, and you like them, right?

People expect other people to like kids because they are the cute and more innocent version of adults. ...and because a VERY LARGE majority of people like kids and babies.

And I like babies and kids, but sometimes I don't want to hold a baby. I just say " No thanks" with a smile. Don't need to over-think the answer or make a big deal, or even give a reason.

My mom says the same thing as you, almost... well, more like she doesn't like babies unless they are family. She's very obviously uninterested-it is uncomfortable being around her and a non-family baby. I think she likes older kids that aren't family. Now, she was abused as a child- MAJORLY ABUSED- and she's the only person I know that doesn't like babies, so I always connected the two together...

If you don't want to hold someone else's kid just say you feel a sore throat coming on.

You are not alone. I didn't like when my own child spit up on me, wiped snot (or anything else) on me, or got any other fluids from his body on me so why on earth would I not mind it from someone else's child?

I don't like holding other people's babies. They always need something wiped or cleaned. When they are old enough to walk I don't mind as much because they are generally cleaner.

And some babies are weird looking. Thinking that isn't wrong, but telling the parent or anyone who might ever repeat it is. If you are afraid you might betray your thoughts with a facial expression you can always say you aren't feeling well and your expression has nothing to do with the baby. That will also get you out of holding the baby. Or look at the picture and find some trait that you think is good and focus your attention on that when you meet the baby.

I avoid rooms full of screaming children as often as possible. I even try to limit my time outdoors with screaming children. There is nothing wrong with that. Really I don't think anyone enjoys it, just realizes it part of the package when young children are involved.

I think you opinions are perfectly normal, just not ones that most people admit to. At least you are polite enough to make an effort at not hurting people's feelings.