Why Do I Feel like I Want Another One???

I think every mother goes through that desire at times, even if they had a difficult pregnancy. My fear of going through preeclampsia again keeps my desire reigned in (my son was born in my 28th week, only 2lbs 7oz). I made a decision at the time that if I didn't get my weight down by the time I was 30 I would not have another. Even though the desire creeps up from time to time, and my deadline has passed, I still feel good about my decision. And I was blessed a year and half ago when my brother, who lives nearby, had a little girl. I am really enjoying being an aunt :) as well as a mother.

S.
Girl I kno exactly what your talking about! I have lupus so the docs told me no more babies naturally that makes me want another especially cause I have two boys and I really want a girl! I however dont want to go through poddy training, teaching new things preschool everything that goes with it. I love being a mom its the best job ever. My mom has 4 kids and she said whenever I was cryiing one day about not having anymore she said it doesnt matter if you have 2 or 22 its a natural woman instiinct to have babies so it really wouldnt matter if you had 4 kids whenever you saw a prego belly you would prob want another!! hope this helps your spirits!!-A.-

Nothing is wrong with you. I think alot of women feel that way. I know I do. I have a 9 year old and a 6 month old and I know I don't want to have anymore, but EVERY time I see a pregnant woman I get a little sad because I miss being pregnant. I've even thought about being a surrogate mother because then I can be pregnant while helping someone who can't.

Hello!
I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal. My husband and I decided that 2 is going to be enough for us also and it does depress me every once in a while. Don't get me wrong I love my boys but it would have been nice to have a little girl too. Everytime I see someone pregnant I want to be that way again but just not have the responsibility to raise it.

You are probably just "mourning" the fact that this is it. Everything your youngest does for the first time will be the last first you experience. Once he goes through all those stages, you go through them for the last time as well. Try and focus more on what he is accomplishing rather than what he or rather you are leaving behind. Also, stay away from the baby channels for awhile. We tried for three years to have our youngest and I would cry everytime I saw a baby being born on tv! My husband got so mad because I upset myself on purpose.

I think I said this to someone else in a previous post, but are you in a sense "mourning" the stage your kids just left. Because that's familiar, unlike the territory your heading into --- teen years, college years.

Or are you subconsciously, "mourning" the lost opportunity of a little girl, to do those girly things with, shopping, tea parties, etc.

We all go through that process, but how you perceive the future adventures determines how long it takes to get through it. Remember that boys can be just as exciting, but yes, you could be apprehensive, because you're not a boy and don't know what to expect. But don't dwell on the the past or what you want to do in the future or you can miss what happens now.

hi S.! boy u sound so much like me i had the same problem after my youngest and hes now 11 and i wasnted to have one last one and well i would watch that show too and its called ur hormones are a sreaming to have one and the exsperiences are so awarding after it and they do grow up so fast i have 3 kids ages 13,12,11 2 boys and 1 girl ... yeah i have had them and every now and then i wiah i could but im 35 now and i sure dont want to evern think about bringing a kid into the world but to each his own .have u ever thought abotu a surrogent mom or maybe adopting? god bless and good luck!

I am going through the same thing. I am 26 and have a 7 year old and a 3 year old. I am 50/50 on having a new baby. I am just not sure if I want to be pregnant and have the feeling of having a new baby or if I really want to add another addition to our family. I know I would love the new baby no matter what but do I REALLY want another one? I just wanted to let you know you are not alone with these thoughts.

It is amazing how many feel this way. I have two boys 9 & 7. I to wish I could just have one more. The feeling just gets stronger as I get older. We just can't afford another child. It always makes me feel better to think that someday my two boys will have grandchildren.

I know what your feeling my husband and I made that choice as well after having the birth of our son. My husband was 48 when he was born and I was 39 it took us a very long time to be able to have him so we both agreeded he was our blessing. But I know the feelings especially as my pregnacy was very easy. I do have to say the feelings of wanting a another one have eased a little and when I say to myself we are blessed as I know how much more our lives have been enriched since Jude came into our lives. I just wanted you to know someone out there has the same feelings as you.

Well, I am not 100% sure why, but I do know that Post Partum can happen to a woman with a child almost 2, those hormones dont disappear right away, and I have heard of case of women who have had it when their babies are 2. I wouldnt worry to much about it, I have had some of the baby blues with my son when was around that age too. There is one you could think about if you think you want to be pregnant but not keep the baby, being a surrogate mother for someone who cant have any. Just a thought, but in the mean time, just sit back and enjoy what you have. They dont stay little long, and I find that sadder then the thought of being done. Good Luck!

Hello S. H, I know what your going through. I have 4 grown children, 10 grandchildren, raising a great niece and I'm only 46. I have always felt like being pregnant was such a normal feeling to me. I knew I didn't want another baby, but I felt the feeling of being pregnant was soooo comfortable to me. I still feel it my youngest daughter is 23. I don't know if the feeling ever goes away. Good Luck!
D.

Hi S.,
I've read some of the responses from other women and I agree with them. If you really want to be "around" babies, do daycare or do volunteer work of some sort. I wouldn't be watching "A Baby Story" if your reaction is constant tears. As the one gal stated...enjoy the moments with the 2 children you already have and rejoice in them. There is nothing wrong with you, but there are things you can do to get over this. Enjoy the life you already have...and good luck to you always.

Hi S.!
You need to smile...so I'm gonna help you with that. Want one of mine????? LOL!!!! Trust me, it'll cure what ails you!! Especially my 13 year old!! Go ahead, laugh! Just wait til yours are at that age, then you'll know you made the right decision. LOL!! Hope I made you smile today!

Just Me!
S.

P.S. You really can't have mine, I love 'em WAY too much! Even if I do pull my hair out every now and then. LOL!!!!!

I think its just a natural feeling. My husband and I also chose to have no more children after our third. I too cannot keep myself from staring at bellies and babies. I cannot even watch that channel because I will get too upset. I don't have an answer for your dilema because I have the same one. But don't think your the only one out there that has those feelings.