Who Is First in Your Life? God/Husband/Children/etc

Why does one have to come before the other? They are all priorities and always changing based on what is going on with life.

1. Husband
2. Kids
3. Self
4. Friends
5. Family
6. would be work if I worked

We also have an extremely happy marriage.

1. Kids (biological, step, and grand)
2. Self
3. Family
4. Life's work
5. Life partner
6. Friends

My immediate family (husband and child, and me)
My work (it pays the bills).
God can take care of himself.
If he needs constant reassurance, he needs therapy more than I do.

WOW!!!! I am amazed at so many of the responses here.

This is what I believe.

THE LORD SHOULD ALWAYS BE FIRST.
Then husband.
Then kids.
Then family
And the rest of the world.

If we put the Lord first then the rest will fall right into place.

Well this is what I believe.
This is what the bible says.

God bless everyone.

If you make knowing and following the heavenly Father your first priority, you won’t have to worry about what kind of parent or spouse you will be.

Mine is God, husband, work, children, family/friends.
My children are grown adults now, if they were still little they would be prioritized before work, but without working I would probably be no good to anyone. When you have a job outside of being a parent, it was provided by God and you must respect it.
I lost a great job once to go be with someone in the family that was dying. That person is gone now, but it changed my life completely because I lost a great job. Employment is a gift not to be reckoned with. If you don't work you might not be able to eat.
Raising children not to lean on their parents is the best gift you can give them. Leaning on the Father in heaven is what is necessary for success.
I remember praying so hard about the decision I was making when I went to the death bed of my grandmother, God told me not to go since there was nothing I could do about it.... but I chose to go anyway due to family drama.
Praying and then meditating (listening) is very important. Once you are in touch with it, it changes everything.

1. Kids
2. Me
3. Husband
4. Family
5. Friends
6. Gods
7. Work

My daughter did not ask to be a part of my life. I unilaterally made the decision for her to be born, therefore, I have an obligation to put her needs first. Now that she's grown, she needs less from me than she did when she was younger, but her needs still come before mine or my husband's if a choice has to be made. He knew this when he asked me to marry him, and agreed with my assertion that I was her mama before he came into my life, and would be her mama without him in my life, and he said that as far as he was concerned, that she should come first for both of us.

My needs come next for me, and his needs should come next for him. If we don't take care of ourselves, we can't take care of each other. For me, taking care of myself includes doing theatre, taking music lessons, doing needlework - all the things I do just because I love doing them.

Any deity/deities who would expect me to choose him/her/it/them over my child, husband, family, or friends would not be worthy of my worship.

Work is simply what I do to keep the bills paid.

It took me a LOT of years to understand how a person could put God above children and husband. I definitely put him first now. I just realize that I can't be anything for anyone I love if I don't fill up daily on God, his love, mercy, truth, and teaching.

God first
Others second
Me third

Everything else will fall into place.

Blessings.....

1. My children
2. My husband
3. Myself
4. Friends/rest of family
5. My Sahm work
6. God

I put my children first bc they will never go anywhere, didn't ask to be part of my life like my husband did, and they are the most important thing to both of us and then it's each other as a married couple. That may sound selfish but that's how we work and it's great for us. (Not saying we don't love or respect each other because we do and have a healthy relationship.)
I put God last because I am a believer, but it's not the important aspect of my life and I don't go to a building of worship. I don't need to. God is where ever you want him to be.

What Melanie E said, plus what B said about God.

The God most ppl cater to is not on my list at all.

1) Child(ren)
2) A tie between myself and husband
3) Family
4) Work/School
5) Friends

I very loosely worship the Goddess and her aspects, it's not high enough on my list to mention tho.

P.S. My pets are part of "Family"

My list starts with God & Children at the top, everything else rotates in and out depending on the situation (urgent vs. important, etc.).

Where do YOU fall on your list? You should be a priority too!

It is a difficult question to answer since for me all of the above on your list is every present and at times a priority not necessarily in any order or distinguishing one to be more important from another. I love my husband, child and family everything else comes next. I'm also a SAHM.

My list is the same as yours, except I don't work. I would put myself with my husband, at number 2. I guess, it's our relationship at number 2. Our relationship is the most important of our family, but like you said...there are times when our child comes first...and so on.

The best gift you can give your kids is to love their Father. In a household if your marriage is not strong, how can your children truly be happy? So it's best to cater to your marriage first so that your children can reap the rewards of a strong happy family unit.

And without GOD, we would have none of the above mentioned in your list. So it is b/c of Him that we can even experience love in the first place.

If I were on a plane and there were trouble while in flight, I would be directed by the pilot to follow some simple instructions. Among them would be to put the oxygen mask on myself and to check my seat belt before putting it on my children and looking over to check to see if my husband had put his own on too.

Without that oxygen mask, I wouldn't be able to take care of my children and help them learn how to put their own masks on and make sure their seat belts were buckled properly. I wouldn't be able to calm them down because my brain and body wouldn't be nourished properly or protected.

With any luck, my husband would be following the same set of directions and working alongside me as an equal partner to make sure that I'm all right and our children are all right, just as I'm doing for him and our children.

Knowing our family is safe, we can then look around the cabin and see that our extended family and friends may need some help getting their masks on and being prepared ourselves, we can help them a bit better if only to walk them through the process.

Throughout the entire ordeal, we've been listening to the directions of pilot and drawing lifesaving oxygen from the masks.

I hope that metaphor worked. (EDITED TO ADD: The oxygen is God, by the way :-) )

You have everything correct as far as:
God
Husband
Children

Nothing or no one is to come before God. God gave you the husband who is the head of the family;whom you are to walk beside, edify and stand by. God blessed you with a quiver full in the home with the children.

Now it would be a different story if the husband was not fulfilling his part of the head of the family/home. If he was doing something that is harmful to you and the children then you would want to do what is right from God's standpoint. then your first priority would be to protect yourself and the children.

It sounds like you have a great family; lots of love between you, your husband and your house full of kiddos. I believe you are right to make time for you and your husband because marriage is a lot of giving and less taking. Plus you need to keep that love alive and well.

Blessing to you and yours!

I think it goes like this for me:
Self
Husband/Child
Work

It's not that I'm self-absorbed or selfish, I just know that no one else can take care of me, and I have less to offer others if I don't take care of myself.
So I take care of myself. My husband and child trade off, in their levels of need. I can't choose to 'value' one over the other as a constant; sometimes they each have more need than the other, so that has to be flexible.

My work and family outside the home come after that, and friends are mixed in. Once again, all of this is dependent upon 'need'.

And still, in the midst of all this, I just have to make sure that I'm taking care of myself. I have dietary restrictions and need to eat at certain times (blood sugar) , get enough rest (about the usual 8 hours, but I require it) and need to have a shower each day. After that, I'm good to go! But believe me, unless I work hard to make sure my eating is scheduled and I'm getting enough sleep, it doesn't happen and then, it can all far apart!

Mine is the same as yours! I don't work either!

God - always & forever. couldn't make it w/o Him!
my sweet family (my little dog & my little boy)
work (gotta eat!!)
other family/friends for support
then....myself. always last :)
hubby for me, will NEVER come above my angel, EVER. probably be single til i'm old & gray but at this point, no man will ever be put before my boy. that's just how i roll. in the minority here i know but i'm not married so i can say that! :) HA!

1. Kids
2. Husband and I (we are a team)
3. Family
4. Work/Life
5. Friends

~God or the greater power is in and around us all, all the time, in everything we are and everything we do, therefore he doesn't need to be put first...he just IS.

I think without God there is nothing else. Other than that, my kids come first and then my husband and myself. I work and go to school, but I do those for myself and my family. I'm not sure I can really write them down in a list though.

ME!!!
If you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of any one else.

My mom--she's in very poor health
KIds- grandkids
friends

God doesn't live in my life ~~~ but I love The Goddess.

My list would be just like yours. :)

God
My kids
Myself
Husband
Family
Friends
Pets

I totally agree with your list! I love my kids so much that my husband HAS to come first. It needs to work out between he & I for their sake. Plus, we're a team, and we need to stay together. That's how I view it:-) And, we are very happy.

Edit: I don't work outside the home, so I don't really have that on my list. But my hubby's work is important, and depending on level of friendship, work sometimes comes first over friendships because our family HAS to be taken care of.

And, where I would place myself....somewhere right with hubby & kids. I am selfless with my children, but I have to take good care of me so I can take good care of them. I'm not sure where that places me. Maybe sometimes behind and sometimes ahead...

God can't be put in the same category with the others. He's kind of on his own plane, lol.

I agree. Husband comes before kinds, so to speak. You marry your spouse for life. We love our kids, do anything for them, give the kids the last slice of bread before ourselves, but kids come and kids go. We raise them to go off and do good in the world and to raise their children better than you did for them. Our spouses, on the other hand, are there for life, so you must treat your marriage as top priority or by the time the kids leave you will not have much of a marriage left. Some people don't get that. They think they're bad parents if they don't say, "I would do ANYTHING for my children" or "My children come first". Well, that can't happen all the time. I refuse to not go out and spend time with my husband or I'll be a bad mother or something. Um, nope! LOL There's plenty of times that I tell my children to get out of my bedroom because I'd like to be alone with my husband. And I use the term "my husband" because they need to understand that he's not just their father. He's also MY HUSBAND. How else are they going to learn to have a good marriage if they don't also see us as husband and wife.

So our list is pretty much the same as yours, except maybe work comes before friends. When hubby was still in the military before retiring his work came first many times but that is the nature of the beast with the military. Now his civilian job at times gets bumped higher up the list but it's easier not to allow it to over take us in the civilian world as the military had to since an order is an order and you can't quit the military, lol.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

Ok, I do not have an "official" order to things however my top three are My man, my son, myself (God is a part of me so God and me are equal priorities). Depending on what is going on is where they rank it can change from day to day depending on what is going on. Were I in an auto accident or house fire or any other life/death situation with my son and my man I would help my son first since he is 4 and virtually helpless. Next would be my man & the dogs. The little one sleeps in his crate near the bed ... easy grab and the large one will be the one waking us in an emergency!
There are times where priorities need flexability and that is why I do not have rigid priorities but run my top 3, 5, 10 etc.

I have always believed/practiced that my husband comes first because a happy marriage makes for happy kids. The Lord is a separate issue :) and is above all my worldly worries. But I include my extended family and friends as a very important complement to my family, because I like to show my family that there is an important world out there of support and love.

I love JessicaWessicaa's metaphor on this!!!!!

1.God
2.kids
3.family
4.friends
5.work

No hubby because I don't have one but he would be 3. on the list and the others would be bumped down.

1. Kids
2. Husband
3. Family
4. Friends
5. Work
6. God

religion is not a big thing in our household. Sorry. However we are still very happy.

child, self, family, work, friends. I only put work before friends because my work is my outlet and my passion and my support for the most important things. My friends are almost all my family anyway so they are above it. I do get some slack for putting myself before my family, but that priority developed after my son was born. I care for us first. If I'm stretched to thin trying to put friends and family first, then I can't care for him in the best possible way. If me and his dad were still together, he probably would've gone second, but only because of how are relationship was set up with me being the main provider of the family. It's different when you get put in the typically male role of the relationship and are the primary support system for the family unit. But, that's not something I have to worry about. As far as God goes, I consider myself spiritual, but not necessarily religious, so "God" per se is not what I normally think of when thinking about the guide for my llife.

I honor my kids first by pretending like I put hubs first when he's home :)
Health, education, work, spirituality, art, music, politics, being good to others and all that hovers around in tie status for myself and my kids (hubs is usually on his own plane of priorities for himself so I let him be separate).