L.F.
Phoenix! It's your family's turn to get a visit from you.
My husband hates visiting my family too. There may not be much to do in Phoenix, but I'm sure there is a favorite restaurant and a nice movie theater there that the whole family can enjoy.
Or what about all of the families meeting up in a place you've never been? I wonder if you could all get cheap/free lodging if you did some timeshare getaway where you offer to listen to their sales pitch. Either way, it's probably time to see your family instead of his. My parents have both passed away, and my sister's younger kids don't know me. My kids barely know my brothers. I am now making more of an effort to see my side of the family--with or without my husband. Good luck to you!