When to STOP Replacing Binky During the Night??

Updated on February 10, 2011
J.V. asks from Reading, PA
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I have a 4 1/2 month old son. He generally sleeps very well, but usually has a few times during the night that he starts to fuss. As with most babies, he falls asleep with his bink, but lets it fall out after awhile. When we starts to fuss I immediatly get the bink back in, and he continues to sleep with NO issues. When should I STOP doing this and see if he can calm himself. I've been willing to wake up #1, becuase I wake up at the littlest noise and I'm up anyway #2, he isn't SCREEMING and i don't need to be up for an hour trying to sooth him, and #3, he isn't really awake, and I want him to stay asleep as much as possible.
I know that at 6 months you are supposed to let them sooth themselves if they are upset and not falling asleep, and luckily we aren't there yet! Any thoughts are appreciated!

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D.P.

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I think you're right on target HOWEVER you might not want him associating the bink with sleep for too much longer. A few more months and he'll be able to pop it back in himself....Have you ever let him "fuss" (is he crying?) for a few minutes when the bink comes out just to see what happens?

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T.B.

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Well, this is exactly why I do not endorse the pacifier. By constantly getting up to plop that thing back into his mouth, you essentially are enforcing the pacifier which in turns enforces his need for it and ultimately enforces the need to continue to wake up to give it back to him. I can tell you from my own personal experience (I have 3 children and pregnant with the 4th) that not one of my children ever had a pacifier. Babies don't need them but parents believe they do so the pacifier is endorsed and then you have a situation where the baby keeps waking up because the thing fell out...and you have exhausted parents trying to keep the baby quiet. Gosh, this exhausts me just thinking about it. Let go of the pacifier. Honestly, stop getting up and giving it back. I hope you find the best solution for your dilemma. Good luck.

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S.H.

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Just let him be.
He isn't in discomfort.

Each baby is different.

But, make SURE, that the Binky is not 'replacing' his need for a feeding.
Because at especially growth-spurts, they get hungry and need to feed, and will wake for it.

So, make sure you know what his cues and needs are. Not it just being the Binky need.

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E.F.

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I think pacifiers are really important for young infants. They are strongly associated with a decrease in SUID/SIDS. However, by 6-7 months, you are really moving past the window for that. This is one of those "no right answer" questions,so I'll just tell you my experience.

My son (who is now 3 1/4) still uses his pacifier. Until he was about 2 1/2, he would "ring for room service" 2-3 times ever night when he lost his pacifier. I almost lost my mind. It was a nightmare. At 2 1/2, I said to him, "here is a basket of bas, if you lose yours in the middle of the night, get a new one out of the basket. Mama will NOT come back and get it for you until morning." We had one terrible, horrible night, and then we've never had another problem.

If I had a time machine, I would have done that about 2 years earlier. (OK,not the basket thing.) But I would have stopped jumping up everytime he made a noise and just let him deal with it (unless, of course, he was SERIOUSLY upset). At some point, they have to learn to self- sooth. You can do it now, or you can do it later. Your choice. If we had another one, I'd sure as hell be doing it sooner. :-) Read Ferber's "Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems" if you haven't already.

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I would let him "fuss" for a few minutes and see if he will self soothe. I think my daughter was about your sons age when I stopped going in to replace it (she may have been younger). My daughter gave up the plug all together at 6 months. She did it on her own. I think if I could I would go back and try to get her to take it for a little while longer. She is almost two now and sucks her fingers constantly! The plug/paci you can take away, but you can't take away their fingers!

L.G.

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I'm with Kim C about fingers vs the pacifier.
My first child sucked her thumb until age 7 when we explained about her new teeth being affected due to the thumb sucking.
With the next we used the Binky and when she was 3 1/2 we told her it was over. She was angry for a couple of days and then she found other things to occupy herself.

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L.T.

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I would start right away - let him go for a while and see if he can go back to sleep without your assistance. I would think that he would react to you being in the room when you are putting the pacifer back in. I am assuming he is still in sleep mode and may not need you to do that.

We are Mom's and we will always wake up at the littlest noise no matter what age they are at. My sons are older and I still wake up at the littlest sound they make during the night.

Good Luck!

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