Ok so what age is a good age to talk about the birds and the bees?(Story may sound on a different topic but it has a point) I was borrowing my sisters shorts the other night and after having a couple glasses of wine I was a little too relaxed, NOT DRUNK though. I asked my sister if she would let me borrow them for the night and I would return them washed. She said "yeah just dont do anything in them" I being childish said "have sex in them?" and completely forgot my son was right there. OOPS! I am usually very careful. Anyway now everytime sex is mentioned on TV (random commercials, News etc) he turns around right away. So point of the story is when do you talk to your kids about it? How detailed do you get? I am soo nervous!
**I was raised by a very VERY sheltered family and I basically learned about sex via TV and never talked directly about it apart from at school. And I did want to be able to talk to my kids about it etc.. but never really knew when the right time was. It was definitely NOT a matter of not wanting to have communication with them and if that was the case I wouldnt be asking. I was just unsure as to what was appropriate for their age etc...I thought the talk was done when puberty started but from the responses I see others started sooner. I will say the kids have never really asked about it apart from asking my husband (when I wasnt around) how women get pregnant and he told them an injection. Technically he was right but this would have been a good time to start the convo shame I wasnt around.I do need to have the talk and feel wrong for not talking about it sooner but again I just fel like they were too young and it would make them start to "try things". I probably sound silly to some=.
My daughter knew where babies came from when she was four.
It is not A talk, it is an ongoing talk from the time they are young and progresses with their age, questions they ask and as their bodies change.
If you are uncomfortable talking, do it while you drive. But at least do it. Don't you prefer your child know the truth from you vs hearsay from children at school? If you are talking about your 10 yr old, rest assured he knows a LOT more than you think.
Get those lines of communication wide open now so your children will come to you with questions vs someone else. Also, it is vital to have good communication as they are older.
Good luck.
I have a 10 yr old daughter. I started talking to her about it when her body started changing. I got a couple of good books. It's Not the Stork is a good one to start with.
When my son was 10 (4th grade), I bought him a book called "What's Happening to Me?" He read it himself but was comfortable asking my husband and me a lot of questions while he was reading. We talked about it A LOT! I think he read the book about 4 times. A book is nice to have so that the kid can go back on his own. Be careful about the content though. There is a range in what they include and some of it you might not be comfortable with at this age. Other parents had not yet had this talk with their 4th graders but I felt 10 was a little late. My son even said "Why didn't you tell me this before?"
