C.N.
If the deceased was important in the life of someone I love, I go if humanly possible, even if it's inconvenient. Funerals aren't for the dead - they're to comfort the living.
I took off work to go to the funeral of my best friend's grandmother. I had never met the woman. But my friend loved her, and she was glad I was there.
I drove 100 miles to the wake of a friend's husband. I had met the man twice in my life, as they moved shortly after I met him, but my friend was heartbroken over losing his husband and I wanted to be there for him.