When Do BOYFRIENDS Start

I have a 16 and 17 year old sons. And I never understood why the first question that moms can come up with when meeting a child is "Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?". I really hated that. I would just answer for my kids quickly and say "they don't need to worry about having a girlfriend in grade school." and end to conversation. It seems that all these kids have put their worth on these relationships. It's really inappropriate. Some may think that I am over-reacting. My kids aren't having crazy teenage emotional relationships. And I know plenty that are.

Please moms think of more creative responses when meeting children.

I know you must feel confused but this is actually teaching her social graces. If she can communicate now with the opposite sex and know that you can be "just friends" as she developes she will possibly choose her male compannions with seperate titles rather than all lovers or all friends.
My grandaughter had a young admirer at 5. His mother told us he would say I like the way her hair blows in the wind. That was so sweet and remember they are mirroring their lives after adults, and they still have such an innocents about them. encourage her talks of not only him but other class mates. Good luck and remember when they are little they are under foot and as they grow they are under the heart.

When my youngest daughter started kindergarten, she was the same way. She had a little "boyfriend". Trust me, it's nothing. It seems all the girls in her class had them. She is now in third grade and has supposedly had several boyfriends, but not so much at the age she is now. I think at the younger age it's just an idea to them, nothing more. I wouldn't worry about. Save that stress for the teenage years when it will really matter!!!

C.,
My son is 6 years old and to be honest with you most of his friends are girls. I would not worry to much about the BFF or the BF right now with her, But just observe and make sure it does not get out of hand. As long as all they are doing is hugging, then I do not see it as a big deal. This is coming from the other side, with you having girls and I have two boys. My son has boy friends too, but he really likes playing with the girls right now. I think someday it will change, but who knows..lol Like I said I would just let it go and try not to make a big issue out of it unless it gets to be a big issue. I hope it makes since. Good Luck and Let me know how it goes.
L.

I am the mother of three, step mother of three and grandma of nine. My daughters had boyfriends when they were very young and I didn't think it was appropriate, but the more I made a big deal out of it, the more they stuck to it. I would be more concerned that the school doesn't scold them for hugging each other. In some schools, that's against their rules. I know it sounds ridiculous, but it's true. I think if you just relax about it, it will soon stop, if not, so be it. As long as they are respectful to each other and are friends. Good luck. Don't sweat the little stuff, wait til she is late on her curfew when she's 16 and the reason is a boy...then get worried.

I got married to a classmate on the bus when we were in Kindergarten. There was nothing kissy about it lol. It was just kids imitating adults. I wouldn't worry at all.

well sat some things about when they can date you have nothing to worry at this age believe me

I'm so sorry. I can't help but laugh. My situation was completely opposite. My daughter is now 9. She didn't get a BF until last year. I kept wondering why she didn't like boys. How could she not have a boyfriend? Lots of boys liked her but she never liked them back. Boys are gross she said. Now that she has a boyfriend,you would never know it. They don't talk on the phone. They don't hug (or hold hands or anything else). They decided they didn't want to be teased by everyone so they keep quiet about it. Everyone knows they like each other but since they don't make it public there is no reason to be teased.

But with your situation, I don't think you have anything to worry about. At that age they really have no idea what having a boyfriend means. It is cute really. He tells her she looks pretty. She likes the attention. She is probably a loving and giving person and she gives him a hug.

I wouldn't be too concerned about it unless it starts affecting things at school. You could just explain to her that it is not appropriate to act that way at school. She needs to pay attention to the teacher and do her work. She can play during recess.

As for your other girls, they may think boys are gross. But that's okay too.

My daughter is in kindergarten, and yes she has a boyfriend. No I don't like but will never freak out on her over it. I appreciate the fact that she talks to me about it. It starts OH SO EARLY these days. I about fell over the first time she said the word BOYFRIEND. Oh my gosh, you can't be going there already. Why does it start so early? Apparently it is that way everywhere. I wish you the best of luck.

Hi C.,

My hugger was the boy. He's six now and he still has little girlfriends. Its harmless for now, thank God.

Keep an eye on them, so that hugging is all they do. Kids are growing up so fast. Its not like when we were young or is it?

I think it is okay for now to be friends, and quite normal. I would just be sure that they are not doing, well trying to imitate, the things they see or hear that adults do.
I would not worry about it yet.