So this is not a really big deal but more like a splinter in a finger that drives you crazy but not necessary hurts.
We just move, there were lots of expenses with the move.
We had money save so is not a problem but it still hurts see money go so fast.
Since after long time living with my MIL and finally move here I wanted to go bananas and buy this and that so hubby says to slow down a little, no that we don't have money but I guess to just have a break on the spending, so I have being trying my best and don't even look at the stores (lol)
Anyway, as I am putting things away (I have to mention most of my stuff was in storage while we were living with my MIL), I have put together a box of things for my sister and my mother in Mexico.
Some things that where in the storage and I forgot, plus others that I have bough and haven't send, most of them nothing that they NEED, but there are somethings that they could really use, like I have my mom's best coat in here, and she is telling me it has being cold in there, my sister's Ugg boots that I am afraid if I don't send them soon they will not fit her anymore, my sister Proactive products that she needs because hers are almost finish, her Ipod from Christmas and stuff like that, plus other stuff that have a sentimental value like the pictures of my kids and the presents my daughter got for them (nothing expensive but she bought them with her own money without being ask) and the presents my husband got for them from Hong Kong and a bunch of other not so important stuff. A whole medium size box.
I know my husband, if I told him he would say "Just send them, but send them all because it would cost us more to just send small packages here and there" and then silently go to check our bank account, lol. I KNOW he would say that.
But I feel like I would be kind of bad to even ask as I know we have being spending a lot of money on the move.
Perhaps I shouldn't say and just send it, but I just don't feel it right.
Therefore the box is still in my living room and bugging me, I also feel bad about that because I picture my mom enjoying her warm coat and my sister super loving her Ugg boots that are so "in" now and her face full of pimples because she doesn't have her cream (and you know what that would mean for a 15 year old girl!)
Sending the whole box would cost me around $70+ as the coat and the boots are on the heavier side (my sister is size 9 on shoes! and my mom is a plus lady), I mean $70-$80 is not too much right? is just the timing what it seems wrong?
Again, is not the end of the world just bug me to see the box in there (perhaps I should just move it to the garage, lol)
What would you do?
I would send the stuff. You're not BUYING something you don't need. You're giving people you love things they DO need!
You could shop around for costs -- sometimes UPS is cheaper and sometimes it is the post office. Also the post office has those flat rate boxes that are the same price no matter the weight. You could probably cram the UGGs & Proactive in one of them and the coat in another. I don't know if they go international though.
You should send the box. You don't have to ask or answer to anyone. If you don't think you deserve $70 or $80 dollars after living with his mother then you are a better woman than I am. lol You will feel so good once it's in the mail. Besides, you probably spent the same amount on trivial things in the past. Good luck and get that box in the mail, sweetie!!
Get rid of the stuff. If it means one large expense - do it at once. It's like people who do "band aid" fixes on their homes and cars and get upset when they finally have to break down and spend $$$$ because they tired band aids instead of just fixing it.
One box now for $80 is much more efficient and cheaper than 10 boxes at $14.95 each. Just do it parcel post or FEDEX ground.
DO NOT lie about it.
DO NOT sneak about it.
Just tell him how it is. If I send one box now for $80 - the stuff is gone out of OUR home and if I send it onsie-twosie - I will spend $14.95 per box or more so it makes more sense to do one shipment now.
Hon--send your family the things you have for them. It's part of moving expenses--getting everything back where it belongs.
I also like Tracy K's idea of selling some extra "stuff" to offset the cost! Win-Win! Good luck!
Bite the bullet and send it for the $80. The items inside are much more valuable and are doing no one any good in your garage:)
I agree it is tough to bite that bullet and spend the $, but it'll be good to have the items out of your house and being used by the folks who need it!
Send it and have your family split the cost with you,
Y., you have such a generous heart. I am sure your husband (and his mom) benefit from that everyday.
If YOU think it's the right thing, SEND the stuff already.
(On the other hand, if you talk to him about it and he says NO, then HE'S the bad guy, right?)
:)
Yeah, check with hubby and then go with what he says. Put it in his hands! If he says to go ahead and send it, then send it. Some of it they need and should have. If he says to wait, then wait. Take the guilt off of yourself!
Plan a few cheap meals to save on groceries and mail the box : ) I agree 100% with what Bev said. Also, it is a warm coat for your mom, who gave birth to you. Send the coat.
Is there a birthday coming up? Since there are boots (cold weather), you could send it for an "early b-day" present. When the b-day comes, just send a card telling them that you hope they enjoyed the b-day gifts you sent earlier in the year.
Dawn
Send it!!! The longer you stare at it, the more bothersome it will be.
I mailed 3 pairs of tap shoes for adults, 2 pair of ballet shoes, half a dozen pair of shorts, some dance clothes, and some other dance supplies in the medium box you buy at the Post Office and mailed it cross country for less than $12.00. Are you sure it would cost $70 for your package?
I would take it to the Post Office and ask.
As for the weighing one option against the others. Smaller packages cost less to mail. If the box is one size it is considered too bulky and it needs special handling so mailing several smaller packages may take less.
Send the coat, boots, and acne meds now. Then after next payday mail the rest or another smaller package. That way the account does not take such a hit all at once.
Just tell your husband that you're going to send the stuff and do it.
First of all, it's out of storage and in your living room. Wouldn't it be nice to have it gone? Secondly, they are things that your family could use and appreciate.
I know how expensive moving is and you've tried to curb your spending, there are plenty of ways to cut back here and there to make up for the shipping costs.
Don't fret over it.....just send it. It will make your family's day!
Best wishes.
P.S. Just a thought....Some bus lines also ship items. When we were in Tennesse, my sister found some things she wanted to have shipped to California and the antique store told her that the cheapest way to do it was to box things up and ship it by Greyhound. I had no idea they did that, but apparently they do. We were flying home the next morning and she ended up not looking into it, but it's worth a try.
If you would feel better about it, maybe you can find some things to sell on Craigslist. When you moved you probably found a lot of things that wont work in the new place or no longer fit. If you could offset the cost a little, you wouldn't feel so guilty. But please dont feel guilty. I'm sure your husband doesn't want his mil to be cold and his niece-in law to not have cute boots!
I would ask if hubby minded me doing it first. If he said no and to wait, I would wait. If you REALLY still want to spend it, you could always pick up a side job for a day to pay for it. You could babysit for a few hours or clean a house and then be done with it.
Your spending 80 dollars ish to ship some stuff to a few people not on the house...send the stuff
You and I are so much alike! I purchased a wedding gift for a friend and it is still on my dryer because I failed to consider the price of shipping (didn't shop at a retailer that would've handled it). It will make you feel SO GOOD to ship the gifts and know you have let those loved ones know you were thinking about them. You purchased the gifts, so send them!! I will lead the way, headed to the post office tomorrow with my wedding gift!!
