What to Do When Kid Doesn't like Teacher

I'm sorry to say that you can't force a child to bond with any one! Luckily, my 3 children have all had wonderful teachers so far. I do have a friend who's daughter couldn't stand her 2nd grade teacher. The year was a disaster for her.
I personally would give it some time & if the relationship doesn't improve, talk to the administration & get her in a new class. At this age, children need to enjoy going to school & learning. Any negative experiences now, set the tone for the rest of her academic career.
Best of luck to you!

~K.

L., Does she give you any certain reason tht she does not like her? When did her school start? Has she gave it much time yet? It maybe that everything is still new and scary to her. Unless the teacher is giving her some reason not to like her, I would not wory to much right now. Everything will fall in place once she adjusted to school.

Talk the teacher "UP" as much as you can even if it means you have to make things up. Also have your daughter do small things for the teacher such as draw pictures make her a card, bring her in a flower from your garden... to strengthen their bond. Involve yourself, if you can, in the classroom. Her seeing you working together with the teahcer will also show her that she too can work with her.

We are currently and for the past 2 years in a situation where we as parenst are not crazy AT ALL about one of our child's teachers. I NEVER say anything derogative in front of my child about that teacher. That will only increase the problem. I don't suggest you try to have your daughter moved to another class unless you find there is something way inappropriate going on. Save this as ONLY a very last resort.
Just my 2 cents worth of ideas. Hope they can help.
F....mom to six

Try to ask why and try to get reasons from your daughter.

Maybe it's not the teacher she dislikes but being in school since Kindergarten is a little different from preschool.

Maybe she isn't transitioning as well as we moms like them to.

Then after you try all those options you could always ask that she be switched to another class and teacher. I would caution you on this option though, you do not want you or your child to be branded as difficult in Kindergarten, it may effect how later teachers treat you or her (teachers do talk to each other).

The best thing would be to give it a little more time, if the teacher isn't treating her badly or saying inappropriate things it may be an opportunity to teach your daughter sometimes we have to interact with people who are not our favorites. It's not a fun lesson for you or her, but helps them grow as little people.

My sons not in school yet (he's only a 11 1/2 mths old) but my sister has 2 daughters, 8 and 5.The 8 yr old hated her secondgrade teacher.My sister got her to tell her why she hated her and then she talked to the teacher and found out what it was was the teacher called her names.So it may not be as bad as that but try to get her to tell you what it is.Hope I helped some.:)
A.

I would explain to her that in life we will meet a lot of people that we don't really "like", but sometimes we have to learn to get along with them anyway. In this case it is a teacher, but it might be your boss, or an inlaw, or a client or some other person who you are forced to interact with. Explain that she will only be her teacher for this one year so she will have to make the best of the situation for now.

Hi L.,

I am a mother that has been throught this and a teachers aid. Kindergarten is very important to a child at the age of 5 and 6. It is their transition period from being with mom and dad to being with other adults. Their attitude is going to be different in the presents of other adults, because they expect them to treat them like you do at home. First, you should find out the story from your daughter on why she does not like her teacher. Let her know that she will not be in trouble for telling the truth, even if it is something that she got in trouble for. Second, talk to the teacher and compare the stories, to see if they match up to a point, because each will have their on verse, but there should be simular areas. Then decide what you should do. Put confidence in your child with one on one talk. Make her feel grown up, to be able to come to mom for help, they are very scared, but independent at that age. I hope the best for you.

K.

One year my daughter did not like her teacher. I talked to my child and discovered the teacher was sreaming a lot. I scheduled a meeting and learned that she was in fact yelling but not at my daughter. She had a lot of rowdy boys in her class and sometimes corrected the class even though my daughter was not talking or whatever. I brought my child into the conversation and the teacher explained that she was not angry with her and she knows that my daughter was innocent of any wrong behaviors. I could not change the teacher or the classmates but my daughter and the teacher were good after that. Finding out what is bothering your daughter is the first step. Good Luck

Has your child expressed any reasons for this? If not then it may just be an image perception that young children go through. I have seen many moms "smooze" the teacher by doing things such as taking a small photograph of their child and framing it for the teacher.Also building up her teacher around her and promoting a positive image would be helpful so that maybe she could see her teacher differently. Make sure you always tell her anything positive the teacher had to say about her. Other suggestions would be for her to draw a picture for her teacher. More than likely she will hang it up. Make sure you do your part to volunteer or bring in special "wish items" for the teachers class room. Ask the teacher if you could bring in a healthy snack for the class. Kindergarten can be very scary for a child and dont worry if they sometimes cry and want to come home more than once their first year. My son did. It is a new transition with a lot more rules to process. Another idea would be to read her favorite book to the class and tell her how nice her teacher is to allow you to do that. I wish you and your daughter a successful school year.

Hello! I would try to talk to the teacher and give it some time also b/c I also have a son in kg but I do realize that it is a transition period.

If the dislike is so bad that she doesn't want to go to school, I might would ask that she be moved to a different class. However, it could be that she just doesn't like being away from home. Is a structured day new to her? I know my five year old, Gracie, wasn't prepared for the sitting and the being quiet. She had always been at home, so that was a new concept to her. I do know that in Alabama you are not required to send them to school until they are seven, so maybe she just isn't ready yet.

L.,

IS it possible you can visit or observe the class?
This may offer you some insight.

If my daughter had issues in school with a teacher, I would always encourage her to be on her best behavior , do not disrespect the teachers in any way. WHen she was old enough to understand I have told her ' be sure your back door is clean... '.. and there were a few times if there were issues in middle school or high school that I found out she'd stepped over the line and I would then come back to her and tell her she should be punished or such.. It's a fine line but you have to dig and dig to find out both sides.

It does not hurt to become friends with other moms/dads to check our kids stories too!

LHW

Hi there L.,

My name is K.. My 10 year old don't like her teacher either. I thought because my daughter just had moved here , new school and friends. Well come down to it .I went to the teacher and asked her if there was any problem with my daughter that I needed to beware of.The teacher told me that my daughter was a "Miss know it all person" I got mad and went to the superintent of the school. First ask your daughter -Why she don't like her teacher?Second go talk with the teacher about what your daughter said..Find out why and whats going on. Like I found out that my daughters teacher is harrassing her , over because I put my son's story about being paddled at school without my consent. The teacher makes statements like " Your mother is a mad wowmen. Just talk and listen to her .

WELL SWEETIE THE 1ST THING TO DO IS MAKE SURE YOUR LITTLE GIRL KNOW'S YOU LIKE HER TEACHER! ALWAYS TALK NICE ABOUT HER IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD! IF YOU CAN BUY HER SMALL SWEET LITTLE THING'S FOR YOUR LITTLE GIRL TO GIVE HER, THAT WILL HELP THEM TALK MORE AND GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER BETTER!!! THEN SHE WILL KNOW HER TEACHER LIKE'S HER AND IT'S OK FOR HER TO LIKE HER TEACHER BACK!! WELL I HOPE THIS HELP'S!!! PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPEN'S! OK! THANKS YOUR MAMASOURCE FRIEND, RENEA

Dear L.,
this might be a wonderful opportunity to talk to your daughter about personalities and the difference in them and how because people have different personalities they might see the world through different lenses. Try to understand how she is viewing the teacher and then, make a conference so that you can get an idea of how the teacher might be seeing your daughter. Every challenge is a great opportunity to help our children grow in emotional intelligence as well as IQ. In fact, emotional intelligence and relationship management has proven much more important to the success of individuals than IQ. As you guide your daughter through this relationship challenge, you are helping her prepare herself for her life. So this is an exciting opportunity, even though challenging. You can go to my website www.DawnBillings.com and take my Primary Colors Personality Test and learn more about different personalities. It is fun and interesting. Hope this helps. D. B.
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hi L.. my name is N.. the only advice i could give you is to invite the teacher over for a dinner or some coffee and talk with her with your 5 yr. old also. that way you can both get to know her a little bit better. i hope this helps you. good luck.

First I would ask my little girl a big WHY NOT and then after hearing her answer I would go to the teacher and ask her Why.
If these two can't get together and this is such a important time for your 5yr old,I would look for another preschool.Because this is forming a bad impression on her for the rest of her life. Good luck and I hope things work out for both of you.

God bless you both,sl

I know this won't help, but it sure is funny. My mom told me this story years ago. When I was in kindergarden, my teacher was yelling at us and told us to put our heads down on the table. Well, appparently I had had enough and walked up and punched her in the stomach and said I didn't want to put my head down! I don't remember any of it but I just laugh now.

Maybe she is yelling at the kids or something.

Good Luck.

Dear L.,
I am a mother of 4 kids. The ages are from 6 to 12. I think teachers are great, BuT not all of them. I usaually get along great with my children's teachers. I do special things for them just because. My kids all very smart. Straight A students, so its not a matter of sucking up to the teacher. Its always been an appreciation type thing. Last year, one of my daughters had a teacher that she didn't like. After a couple of vists, I know why. She was mean to the kids! She would yell at them and even
shook one little boy in my presence! She even told a child that he made her sick. She ruled those kids with fear. Even though she was very educated and had all these certifications. She had no common sense. She called my daughter a liar once. I confronted her and told her never to do that again because I wasn't going to put up with it. So she didn't bother my child anymore. I sent the principal a email and she ignored it. Make
your presence known and just watch her teacher.......good luck.

Hi L.,

I too am 37 and have a 12 year-old, 8 year-old (both dds), and a 4 year-old ds.

There were "issues" with both my girls K teachers. My approach has been to find from my child her "reasons" why she doesn't like the teacher, then to be my child's "voice" as an advocate, in a non-accusing or threatening way, while stressing my desire to be the teacher's ally and support. For example, one the situations involved my daughters perception, that she would be in trouble with the teacher if she got something wrong on her homework. So, we met with the teacher and I told the teacher that "somehow" my child got the impression that she would be in trouble if she makes a mistake. With me there, she told my child that she too makes mistakes and that my child would not be in trouble. The whole point of this approach is to let the teacher know that you will address the concerns of your child and that your are around and involved. There were other incidents, which were handled similiarly. I also worked in the classroom and took home cut-outs and such to help the teacher.

I also had to approach my daughters and let them know, that sometimes teachers make mistakes too and that they have their own opinions, which don't have to affect what they think of themselves (I know it sounds like a lot for a 5 year-old to get, but they can). Same teacher......was rewarding children with candy for correct answers. My dd didn't get candy one day and thought because of it, she wasn't smart. I told her that she was smart whether she got candy or not. I asked her to think about the other children who didn't get candy on other days when she did. If she wanted, she could give her candy away to one of the children who was sad because they didn't get candy, because getting candy doesn't make you smart.

That was a tough year with that particular teacher, but my child will come in contact with difficult teachers or those that she may not connect with or bosses that she must learn to get along with throughout her life. I figure we start now with making the best of it......turn lemons into lemonade.

Please forgive me for being so long winded.......

Have a great day!

R.

Hello L., are you still having problems with your daughters teacher or are things better now??

I would schedule a conference with the teacher and see what your impression of her is. Ask the teacher if she has any concerns or input on your daughter's progress thus far. And maybe mention that your daughter doesn't seem to like kindergarten as much as she has enjoyed pre-school in the past (if this is the case). Ask for her input on how the two of you can work together to get your daughter more involved.

In first grade, my daughter developed a paranoia about gaining weight and went so far as to tell me "I'm not eating bread any more because Mrs. Smith doesn't eat bread and she's skinny". I knew her teacher and liked her very much and couldn't figure out WHY this was becoming an issue. But I had a conference with Mrs. Smith and brought up my concerns and asked her about the comment my daughter made to me. Mrs. Smith had no idea that some of her students payed that much attention to her. The only thing she could recall was off-handedly mentioning to one of the other teachers that she had to really watch the amount of bread she eats because she loves it so much. After our conference, she started focusing more on healthy eating habits in the "health" portion of class and made sure to give even more positive feedback to my daughter about her self-image. Two years later, we are past that hurdle and still very close to Mrs. Smith.

Good luck on your daughter changing her impression of her teacher. So far, I haven't had to deal with this yet. Both of my kids love school and their teachers. I don't take it for granted though. I know my time is coming.