Do You Call Your Child's Teacher by His/her First Name?

I always use Mr. or Mrs./Ms. I STILL call my junior high science and math teachers by their last names, even though I'm friends with them and one of them even came to my wedding and is married to a girl just 3 years older than I am.

When my child is around i address them by Ms., Mr., or Mrs________. If it is just us two talking via phone, email or conference (without the child present) I address them by their first name.

I only ever call my daughter's teacher by their first name if they introduce themselves by their first name and I never do call them by their first name in front of my children.

I address them in the same way the kids do. Mrs. or Mr. ________.

Regardless of who sends me an email I respond in the same tone as the sender. If someone calls me Mrs they will be Mr, Mrs, Ms...if you call me J. I will call you by your first name as well.

Sender sets the tone.
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Just want to add, to their face and in the presence of my children, I address everyone as I want my children to address them, formal titles.

Mr. Mrs. Or ms. Always.

Nope, never by the first name. Always " Ms." or " Mr." so and so.

I am very formal with the teachers until we are done being in their classrooms. That is a long 6 years in some cases!
If we were friendly during the formal years and they call me by my first name, once we are finished on the professional level, I go informal unless the kids are around.

Unless the teacher states a preference, I always treat them as the professionals they are and use their title and last name. I figure that I am modeling for the youngsters around them and as we do not have a 'familiar' off-the-clock relationship, I don't want them addressing the teacher or other school professional by their first name unless they have been specifically invited to do so. Even if I was friends with one, I would always use their title and last name around the kids.

I also think that when we address a teacher by their title and last name when discussing school issues, that conveys a certain amount of respect and professionalism within the conversation. Kids do sense that as well and it is a great example of how we would like our children to treat the teacher, too.

unless they specifically told me to call them by their first names (none ever did) i always said 'mrs. smith'.
i do tell my homeschool and enrichment program students to call me 'S.'. but i expect to be called 'mrs t__' by anyone i haven't made free of my first name.
i HATE it when medical office personnel or telemarketers call and ask for me by my first name! if we're not friends or at least acquaintances, courtesy requires a degree of formality.
khairete
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I address them the way the children do. Ms. _____________. The day care teachers go by first name, ie Miss Susie, and school teachers I use the last name, ie Ms. Smith.

For my kids teachers, I always use their school/teacher name (Mrs), particularly if its about school business. If I saw them socially, maybe not. I'm an educator myself and to me its like calling a doctor "Dr.---" when youre at your appt.

The weird thing is, at my own school, I don't really care if my parents call me by my first name, and I often feel weird signing emails and stuff as a Mrs., so I'll sign S.. But most of them still call me Mrs, which I kind of feel is apppropriate. Just because we are in the school environment, that's what their kids would call me, etc. But if any of them ever call me by my first name I don't feel offended. However, I kinda feel like it feels more normal to be know as Mrs when I'm in that environment.

For all my colleagues, I call them by their first name, but if I was addressing them in front of the kids or parents, its Mr/Mrs. Its all part of the "professional identity" is how I see it. I kind of expect the parents to refer to all their kids teachers by their Mr/Mrs. I'd be surprised if they ever referred to them by first name to me (I'm the school counselor).

Same way the children do.... Mr., Mrs, Ms. ________

Also, as a regular sub and in our school, we teachers address each other the same way children do when we are around the children at all times. Sometimes, we may use a first name in the lounge or something but mostly, we fall back on the habit of the proper name.

That's just how we do it... I'm not saying there is a specific right or wrong way.

I call all the kids teachers like this.

Pre-K she called herself Miss Jane..so I called her Miss jane too so the kids would not call her mommy or teacher...lol.

In Kindergarten they called the teacher, both had the same one, Mrs. Jones. In private or on the phone I called her Mary but in front of the kids I reinforced Mrs. Jones.

Same with piano teacher. If her name was Jane Doe I'd call her Miss Jane so the kids would have that teacher-student relationship with her. I don't feel that kids get enough formality anymore. I am older of course, since I'm raising grandchildren.

It's personal choice but I would never call the elementary school teacher or principle by their first name in front of the kids unless she was in my home and a personal friend.

Unless they specify to call them by their fist name, I always use the title for all communications. .

But that is just typical of where we live.

Mr or Ms until they tell me otherwise. The second grade teacher both of my older kids had prefers her first name, and so does the first grade teacher my middle one had and now my youngest one has. If they specifically say "Call me Jane" I will respect their wishes. Otherwise I use their last name.

I would call them what my child calls them, or what I expect my child to call them.

No, I don't. They aren't my friends. I call them what my children call them, because it's very rare that I'd call them anything anyway. It doesn't make me a child, it's just polite and easy to say "Ms __" because (a) it's their title, (b) it's the name on the board so in my mind, that's them saying "call me this", and (c) it helps keep my kids understanding who I'm talking about and it makes sure they are calling their teacher by their title too.
The exception: my son's martial arts teacher was younger than my husband, and my husband didn't particularly like him much, so he called him by his first name. I called him by his title (NOT a Mr, but his teaching title).

I address most people who I do not have a personal relationship or friendship with by Ms./Mrs./Mr.

Once they establish a response by a first name, I figure they are uncomfortable with the formal greeting and I switch to their first name.

In e-mails, it's their first names. And when I'm speaking to them privately away from my kids, first names. When any kids are in earshot - especially in the classroom setting, it's Mrs. and Ms. Seems disrespectful and I feel like I'm undermining their authority when kids are around, so it's a formal moniker.

They introduced themselves at open house by their first names.

If they sign documents with their first names, I would assume that's how they wish to be addressed.

Right now, I call my daughter's pre-k teacher by her first name when speaking to her, because I know her outside the classroom as well, but I always refer to her as Señora (it's a foreign-language immersion program) when speaking of her to my daughter. As the years go by, it will depend on the teacher. Many of my old daycare kids go to this same school, so many of the teachers have heard lots about me, feel like they know me and call me by my first name already, so I'll probably reciprocate that. Either way, I will always use Señora, Señorita or Señor when speaking to my child.

For my sitter, I use her first name as that is what she has the kids call her.
For school, I use the Mr. and Ms. especially if my child is present. It's a show of respect.

We were in the classroom one day, parents visiting the class, and one mom said, 'excuse me Jane'. The teacher was kind of shocked, and the kids all looked around to see who the Mom was calling. The Mom was 'proud' of herself for being able to use the first name as they were friends outside of school, but you could tell that the teacher was a bit uncomfortable with the informality in the classroom.

If the policy of the school is for the kids to call the teachers, Mr. or Mrs., that's what I do. That way you are role-modeling for the kids the way to address their teachers, and not causing confusion.

It felt weird to call people Mr. and Ms.-something, originally, but once I got used to it, it was just common practice in front of kids. If I became friends with teachers, then I could call them by their first names when out of earshot of the kids.

When I am talking to my son about his teacher I refer to them as Mrs. X. When I am emailing or communicating directly with the teacher (no kids around) I refer to them in the way they have signed their email, which is usually their first name.

When I talk to them face to face, on the phone or e-mail then it's first name. If I'm talking to my child about them then it's Mrs. Last Name. Sometimes teachers will let the kids call them by the first name but then it's still Mrs. First Name.

First name except when my kids are present. She is 20 years younger than me and addresses me by my first name so I would find anything else rather awkward.

We're a small town so a lot of times you know the teacher outside of the classroom. If you do it's usually by a first name bases, but kids still use a formal name in the classroom.

If not it's formal unless otherwise asked.

It may be a personal and regional thing.
I live in Seattle and NOBODY that I have ever met goes by their last name: CEO's, university professors, supervisors, doctors and yes, teachers - all addressed by their first name. You can always tell the recent transplants by using last names or "gasp" saying "Mam" or "Sir".
Frankly I don't even know the last name of many of the people I come in contact with on a professional basis...
So yes, first name it is.

As a teacher, I'm OK with either one. You can always ask what the teacher prefers. When I'm talking with my child about her teacher I always use Mr. or Mrs.

It depends on the Teacher.
I start off with saying "Mrs." or "Ms."
BUT then I always, ASK the teacher anyway.
So then most of them say to just call them by their first name.
And likewise, they will ask me if I want to be called "Mrs...." or by my first name.
I rather be called by my first name.

I do address teachers.. as Ms. smith and Ms. Jones.. although they do send home emails that are signed as Debbie or Mary.

If I saw the teacher outside of school I would probably use their first name.

It does seem strange as most adults address other adults by first name.

I usually call them Madame, especially in front of my kids or other students. I use first names in the teachers lounge or socially.

Last name only. keep it professional. I call them what I want my children to call them.