Hi S.,
I know exactly how you feel; my 4 children have all done similar things. It can be very frustrating! One of my children was suspended from the track team for a semester because of poor grades---turns out they just didn't turned in any homework, even finished work!
What I’ve learned since then is that my children and I are visual learners' more than auditory ones. Sounds like your daughter could also be one. What that means is that things that are hands-on & interactive—real world stuff---are easier for us to understand. I always thought I hated history in school until my mom told me to get a minor in it---later I realized, I LOVE history. But, the way the teachers presented it made the subject so boring in my classes that I had a hard time staying awake!
Those of us who think in pictures—well, it means that in 1 second over 32 pictures go though the subconscious part of our brain. Others who are more auditory, linear-sequential learners, they have about 4-5 words going through their brains in that same second. Thinking in pictures is anywhere from 400 to 2,000 times faster than verbal thought. This might make us appear lazy at times because we’ve processed what everyone else is still working on. Then we’re thinking about something else, day dreaming, talking about another subject...
When you think about your daughter’s involvement in drama-- that also makes sense. Drama allows her to apply her skills to her style of learning.
If she’s having problems in communication arts this is also an area people who think with pictures can really be confused in. We tend to be highly imaginative and the symbols of language can be confusing at times. It’s like we have it one time but not the next. When we think with pictures the letter b can then become d or g or q; then the words become something else.
So being a teen in a world where you’re expected to perform in school like others can lead to frustration and can interfere with self-esteem. Her interest in culinary arts is great. Are there ways you can help her decide what she wants to be in charge of? How many nights does she think she can provide a meal? Or, would she rather you did the main course and she make desserts or snacks for the other kids?
I help people who are picture thinkers-we use the term dyslexia as a broad term to describe this type of thinking. If you want to check out my website it’s www.onpointlearning.org I’m in the Columbia area and you can call me at ###-###-#### if you’d like to just talk.