What to Do - Bronx,NY

Updated on May 20, 2011
C.B. asks from Milwaukee, WI
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My ex pulled my son out of school without my consent and is demanding I sign over placement to him so child support is stopped immediately. I told him I want to give my son time to see if it's how he still feels in a couple weeks during summer and he is gun hoe on getting this done ASAP. I don't think he is putting our child's needs first. He is only thinking about getting out of child support. He says he wont give him time and he is going to take me back to court. What a jerk. What worries me is he hasn't even brung the kid home to see me or talk about this with me and he's been there two weeks. He was being very disrespectful and wouldn't give me his report card and didn't want punishment so he called his dad and went there. Instead of sending him back dad took him out of school right before finals without my consent and started him in a different school. I know my child may be old enough to decide where he would like to live but i feel like his dad is trying to keep him away from me until I sign a paper and then who knows if he will even let him come visit after it is signed. What would you do in this situation? We also have to readjust our parenting plan and i think it should be done legally. I was going to try to do it without lawyers this time but he's being unreasonable. I told him court will take awhile anyways so why not just give him the time. He said because he's paying child support. LOSER! It won't stop right away anyways since he's so behind and i told him he would get back pay for the time he is there.

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My son called me and told me he likes the new school and wants to stay there so I don't think they would consider it kidnapping since he says I kicked him out. Changing school districts without my agreement is a no no . It is written in our plan that we agreed on this town as our school district. It feels like he has been kidnapped. I took a letter to my attorney today and am waiting for her advice. The father texted me and said he is filing an order against me. WTH???

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L.B.

answers from Biloxi on

Um, if you have court ordered custody - wouldn't this be considered kidnapping? Check with your attorney or police department - it may be that Dad has broken the law.

Call today and start the legal process to get your son back.

EDIT: for next year make sure the school knows that your Ex does not have permission to check your child out of school - that way he can't just take him from school.

Good Luck
God Bless

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J.L.

answers from Chicago on

contact your attorney asap...If you are custodial parent and his breaking the visitation agreement and your son is not with you...(all in writing) Get police involved asap also to get your son back home with you. Your ex can not withhold your child.

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J.C.

answers from Anchorage on

Do not sign anything and contact a lawyer ASAP.

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C.B.

answers from Tucson on

Either way, he broke the agreement. The child may have a say, but he has to say so infront of a judge. Get a lawyer and take him to court. By his breaking agreements and attempting to bully you into singining papers, he may lose his rights. Your sone may also have been talked into staying with his dad to avoid punishment and to get back at you. Once this is explained to the judge, the judge should deam that the child be returned to you. Your ex doesn't have a say with out a court order.

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J.B.

answers from Phoenix on

I am sorry you are going through this. it is very difficult with an older child. However, your ex did break the plan in one way or another. I would get an attorney to be sure you and your son are protected in this. I know you wanted to do it with no lawyers but I think the situation more than warranttts one due to how your ex is handling things.

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L.M.

answers from Kansas City on

I would contact a lawyer right away and ask him what your rights are, and let him explain to you what you and your child are entitled to.

Don't let your ex bully you into giving up your child. Just to get out of paying child support? That is ridiculous!

Call a lawyer anyway even if it is just to find out what you can do about this and get your ex to do the right thing for a change!

Good luck.

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J.H.

answers from San Antonio on

Contact your attorney. If your agreement says you both have to agree to have him taken out of school and moved to a new school, and he never got your approval, he could be in trouble. It won't mean your son will come home, but it may show him that you're not going to put up with him skirting the court order.

Good luck!

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A.P.

answers from Gainesville on

Don't agree to anything ! Go to court.

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S.B.

answers from Houston on

Well, first contact your attorney ASAP. Second, do not sign ANYTHING. Third, I would raise holy hell with the school. They should have notified you that your ex was attempted to pull your son out of the school. Fourth, I would tell the ex that you will see him in court. Good luck!

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K.L.

answers from Cleveland on

I would contact your lawyer now and explain what your ex did. I don't know the specifics, but I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that pulling your child out of school and refusing to allow the custodial parent to even speak to your son is gonna be a no-no.

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R.Y.

answers from New York on

Talk to your lawyer and go back to court. Maybe you can get a sooner court date since your child was taken without your consent. If you get custody back make sure the school has something writing about the custody agreement so it doesn't happen again.

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