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No... I'd probably send her a card...
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You guys were very helpful with my last question; here's another.
at work a woman i do not know, handed me a wedding invitation,... i told her congratulations.
I then looked on the envelope to figure out her name. I assume she invited everyone.
Its for just me, no guest. I work very partime and due to nature of my job don't have the opportunity to socialize much.
i will not be going.
do i have to buy a gift for this stranger? LOL
No... I'd probably send her a card...
I would get her a very simple inexpensive card wishing her well on her day. That is it. If I purchased a present everytime someone saw an opportunity for an extra gift I would lose my home.
No, just send her a card with regrets..
Absolutely not! Etiquette states that you don't have to buy a gift for anyone - even when attending the wedding. Gifts are never expected, but you do have a year to provide one after the wedding according to most etiquette experts.
Sure, it's customary to bring a gift to a wedding (back to the days of dowry's), but I'd not stress about it - especially since you're declining the invitation.
no, you don't even know her name, it would be silly to give her a gift
I would not give a gift.
I agree with Laurie. I would return the response card in a Wedding card and wish them well on their wedding but that you are unable to attend the beautiful ceremony, many wishes for happiness in the future, etc.
Of course not, you didnt even know her name! I would probably get a card and mail it to her if you have access to employee addresses or leave it on her desk while she's on her honeymoon.
She was pretty tacky. Sounds like the envelope probably didn't even have your name on it. I say you don't know the woman and there's no need to even reply and certainly not to give a gift.
No,no gift- but you could offer to get together with her after her wedding sometime. She might just want to be friends with you, not necessarily want your money, gifts or anything else.
Wow, that is pretty bold on her part. Pretty difficult situation for you. do you know if others got the same treatment? I would ask around and see what they are going to do. Honestly, if you don't even know her, I would just blow it off. Sounds harsh, but why would she invite someone who doesn't even know her? I doubt she will miss you or your gift.
NO, you do not have to buy a wedding gift for this person. If there is an office gift, it would be appropriate to put a few dollars in, but you are not obligated to buy a gift on your own.
